Might want to relax a little, Richard.
There are a lot of good people on here. And if you do a little looking around, these are some of the friendliest of the groups out there. (The few I’ve visited other than this one were rough.)
Not everyone here agrees on everything. We’re pretty much OK with that idea. Not all the “experts” even agree on everything. (For example, Phinney and Fung have different ideas on fasting. But many of us still have a lot of respect for both of them.)
Some people do well with nearly zero fiber. Others need it to do well. So who is right? About all we can do is share our own experiences and the bits and pieces of what we’ve read along the way.
It sounds like you’re only into this thing a month or so. Sometimes it takes a while for this stuff to get itself worked out. It took several months for me, from constipation to diarrhea, but after a little time, it sorta worked itself out. I don’t take anything, I just eat real food. I do eat my veggies, mostly cooked. I don’t eat a lot of salads and raw greens as I don’t have the teeth for them ( \years of vegan living were not kind to me that way). But I’m not shy about broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, spinach, turnip greens, asparagus, squash, and numerous others. I like my veggies and apparently, they like me. How many grams, I haven’t a clue. Don’t care. I just eat.
Good luck. I hope you get it figured out. If you’ll be a little more specific, there might be more specific things people could suggest. Not sure it it’s too hard, too soft, too frequent, too infrequent, not sure what “suffering” means exactly. And most of the people here are pretty forgiving if you’ll put the claws away. Hey, we’re all in this together. And we all want to see everyone here succeed. No we don’t all do it exactly the same way. Mostly, though, we’re respectful and supportive of the things that seem to be working for others.