You are reaching out, what a good start! I’m 57 and have lots of regrets because I never dared to even try reaching for my dreams. I did what other people told me, which was fine but not really what I wanted.
My son self-diagnosed with Social Anxiety as a teenager, and I realized it’s also been a problem for my ex-husband all his life: wants friends and social interactions but is barely able to do what’s needed to have them. There is help for it but this is NOT what I heard YOU say, Goldengirl52.
No matter what, you have strengths, experiences, and talents to offer to the world and you can show them off, use them in a way that you feel comfortable with to connect with people and help you remember what you did in your life that you liked or were proud of. If you can afford to volunteer, I second that it’s a good opportunity to connect with like-minded people, teach younger generations what you’ve learned in life or just do something you enjoy. It can also be tricky not to get pulled into the politics of an organization.
Also, if you happen to be a person who speaks your mind honestly and is not afraid to point out the truth (that’s me) you’ll already know that it’s not popular. You will have fewer friends but the friendships you have are usually true and meaningful.
Lastly, I like the On Being podcast by Krista Tippett. The one from last week about time management includes challenging our thoughts about what we THINK is a meaningful way to spend our time.
Sending good thoughts to you!