It’s truly sad how much judgmental and outright disappointing some folks are in this forum. I get it; this is the internet. Folks are relatively anonymous and have weaponized that anonymity to feel superior.
But HERE?
Folks, there’s more than one way to skin a cat. If someone does it differently, and the results are pleasing to the individual, is it really for you to talk down to them, to the point where it’s often insulting? (Cue the “if they can’t handle criticism, that’s their fault” comments)
Keto is simple: Eliminate carbohydrates as much as possible. Some folks have a target of 50 grams or less, as recommended by the godfather. Others suggest a target of 20. And yet SOME will harangue anyone Who admits to ingesting ANY carbohydrates at all. This is not supportive. Nor is it conducive to a learning environment.
Regarding “cheat days”: Nobody needs to be corrected on diction here. And anyone dancing with the idea of a cheat day doesn’t need us to shame them about their inquiry. The use of the term “cheat day” already comes fully loaded with feelings (or anticipation) of guilt. Is jumping on the shame bandwagon helping any of you with your keto? Is this behavior helpful to the folk asking? Absolutely not, it’s more likely they’ll stop asking “stupid effing” questions altogether and decide this community isn’t worth the hassle.
Regarding water: we get it. You drink (X) quarts a day. Water is good. But here’s the thing, water is EVERYWHERE. if Sally likes sparkling water, there’s not a single soul here who benefits from the textual tirade about the dangers of carbonated beverages. If Sam enjoys clear diet sodas, instead, there’s no need to bully him about the potential hazards of sugar substitutes. If you ONLY drink water, that’s fine. Nobody is here to shame you. Also, there’s no trophy for it. And certainly, there’s no need to bully those who prefer something more flavorful.
On fats: I have a precious selection of fats that I use. This does not give me the right to harass ANYONE for using different fats or even oils. While we learn that certain fats are more harmful than others, for whichever reason, the bottom line is ‘Fat is Fat’. If yelling at a new dieter that their current oil is “Not Keto” actually helps your journey, your traveling the wrong path. Also, you’re wrong. Ketogenic diet teaches us how to get into and to stay in Ketosis. That is NOT defined by the nature of your cooking oil.
There are a great many dangers in this world. A great many things in this world are dark and scary. For some folks, leaning on others for information is terrifying. Berating them for asking a question that’s already been asked, or for choosing to consume something you would never consume, or any of a million other reasons folks tend to jump on the shame train will only lead to ugly group elitism, and exclusion.
Long story short, there’s an increasing amount of vitriol in this forum and it needs to go away. If I’ve offended you, don’t wait for an apology. If I’ve pissed you off with this topic, you’re probably one of the offenders, and could use some time for introspection. For the new kids, wondering if this is the right group for you… Hang tight. It’ll click for you soon, and you’ll learn how your keto works for you, and how it doesn’t.