It’s very hard, if one has come to the ketogenic diet solely for the purpose of weight loss, to appreciate it as a way of eating that primarily fosters metabolic health, with potential weight loss as a secondary effect. You may have to give up on this way of eating as a viable weight-loss strategy for yourself.
There are a number of issues involved: first is how much fat you have to lose; second is your diet history, and what effect previous diets may or may not have done to your metabolism; third is what you’ve been eating that may or not be keto; fourth is the state of your metabolism, level of insulin resistance, and so forth.
Another factor is the difference between how much you want to weigh, and what your body considers a healthy weight for you. And there is also the factor of body recomposition; it is not unknown for people (women particularly, but it can happen to men, as well) to gain lean-tissue weight (such as more muscle, added bone density, that sort of thing), even while losing adipose-tissue weight. It doesn’t help that the culture euphemistically talks about losing “weight,” when what we generally want to lose is just “fat.” (Most losses of muscle and bone density are not good, to put it mildly.) As a consequence, the message is to concentrate on the number showing on the scale instead of on how well our clothes are fitting us.
Dr. Phinney’s generic advice to persons in your position is first, to cut carbohydrate, and second, to increase fat. He says on no account to increase carbohydrate.
I’m sorry you’ve come to this pass, but the ketogenic diet is not for everybody. Perhaps you are one of those insulin-sensitive people who can eat all the carbohydrate they want, and who lose weight (and possibly even fat) by cutting calories and dietary fat?