So this weekend was my son’s birthday and we had family round to celebrate.I cooked up a storm and ate all manner of carbs,drank alcohol and just loved it.I was in my 4th week and was doing so well…Now the question is do i have the will power to wake up tomorrow and reset my switch and start back up?? Pray for me because I need all the strength cos those carbs were oh sooo good.
Fell off the keto wagon
Wally199
#3
You definitely got this! 4 weeks is amazing, don’t let 1 day set you off. Jump right back in!
dlc96_darren
#6
@Joeypips My moto: Everyday is a new day.
I don’t worry about what I did today, I just focus on how I’m going to do tomorrow.
LeCheffre
(Banting & Yudkin & Atkins & Eadeses & Cordain & Taubes & Volek & Naiman & Bikman )
#9
You didn’t “fall of the wagon.”
You got off the bus. It was with intention, not an accident.
If you have a plan to get back on, you will get back on the bus. Good luck.
Clcrisler
(Casey Crisler)
#10
I kind of had a blip this weekend. Ate way too much. It wasn’t high carb stuff but it adds up. Haven’t weighed myself yet. But that’s mainly because I’m away from home and can’t use my own scale for consistency.
Chazzam
(Charlotte)
#12
I can’t remember who said this or if I read it somewhere…but somewhere along the line someone imparted the wisdom to me that willpower won’t work in the long-term, only in the short-term. In the long-term you need to cultivate discipline. Willpower is just white-knuckling your way through something, and if you rely on it as a long-term strategy, you are guaranteed to be unsuccessful (if you’re unclear on the difference, think of it this way: willpower is your inner child throwing a tantrum or whining for an hour because your parent said no to something you really really really want. Discipline is your inner child grumbling that you don’t want to go to school, while simultaneously getting dressed, packing up your school bag for the day, and looking forward to seeing your friends on the bus).
If you’re in a place where you fall off the wagon and then rely on willpower alone to get you back on, and you let that become anything close to a pattern, you’re going to end up going off keto altogether. If you really want this to work, you need to incorporate discipline. If you use willpower in the short term to keep yourself keto, while also developing the discipline needed to simply not treat high carb foods as an option, eventually you won’t need the willpower anymore, just the discipline, which will allow keto to be a sustainable lifestyle for you.
So honestly, you really just need to decide if you’re ready to go full keto, and not let yourself cave, not even once, not even for a bite. Since you’ve only slipped up once, it’s not too late to re-commit, but you’ve got to really understand what that means and how it’s going to work.
Once you’re much further in, you may be able to cultivate some flexibility. Some people can and some people can’t, but there’s pretty much no way it’s going to be workable only 4 weeks in. I was super strict for my first 6 months, and I’m so grateful that I was. Now I am able to take small, planned keto breaks within very specific (i.e. disciplined) guidelines that I know I can handle and go right back to keto afterward. If I find myself having to implement willpower to keep myself keto after one of those breaks, I know that particular break is no longer on the table for me, period (for example, I can eat a piece of higher-sugar fruit now and again, no problem, but regular, sugar-sweetened ice cream opens the flood gates to carb cravings. So no more non-keto ice cream under any circumstances for me, but I will eat the occasional mango).
Best of luck!
Joeypips
(Maggy)
#14
Wow @Chazzam that is so insightful and definitely food for thought.Never looked at my long term keto journey from that angle.Thank you so much.
dlc96_darren
#15
@Chazzam Excellent advice. I appreciate that very much!
Interestingly, (and I think this follows your advice) I’ve gotten to the point now, where times I think I want to cheat, I don’t, either by talking myself out of it, “it’s only going to make you sick to your stomach”, or by realizing I really don’t want to eat that.
One day I fully intended to eat some tacos, and I got a salad instead. Couldn’t help it. It’s just what I wanted. Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve had tacos since going keto, but not nearly as often as I used to.
But I guess what generally works for me, is I just remind myself how sick it’s going to make me, and eat something that won’t.
decreebass
(the cheater)
#16
Once you stop ascribing value (good/bad) to keto and non-keto, you’ll find yourself free from things like “falling off the wagon.” I cheat HUGE every week (usually Thursday of Friday evening) and immediately resume strict keto the next day. No issues, no guilt, no temptation to go back to eating a SAD - just some tasty treats followed by resuming what I know is good for me. Someone said it perfectly: don’t get caught up in the vitue/guilt cycle. Just do keto and don’t get wrapped around the axle if you give yourself a free day or free meal every now and again. As they say: KCKO 
Chazzam
(Charlotte)
#17
I’m so glad your found it helpful! It was a game-changing concept for me the first time I heard it too.
dlc96_darren
#19
It is amazing. Proves to me how addictive carbs are.
But honestly, it feels more like desire than discipline.
Joeypips
(Maggy)
#20
Well it’s safe it say my little or shall I say big weekend blip,was exactly that.Slipped back into bacon and eggs without a single thought of having carbs,like nothing happened…Thank you all for support.#KCKO indeed.