Friends at church and closet friends all have been encouraging and motivating me for my weight loss. However, no one in my family or my wife, or even work have been supportive. Although couple people at work are supportive but I get a lot of flack. Most importantly, my wife. I get flack for not eating what she wants and not once has she said anything positive. Not once. I’ve offered to make meals and explained to keep meat to just seafood/fish and chicken. She’s obese like I was and I really thought she’d be supportive. But she hasn’t said one positive thing and it hurts. I admit our marriage isn’t the greatest but there are things I’m trying to do to make our lives better. Not once have I forced her to do anything that I do. I thought once she notices progress made, she’d join. She hasn’t and that’s okay. What isn’t okay is not a positive word.
Do you receive criticism for your weight loss and a healthier you?
Alcoholics and addicts often experience something similar from family members, especially when they are early in sobriety and recovery. It is as though the family is more comfortable with the old, dysfunctional patterns and doesn’t want to adapt to healthier ways of relating.
The good news is that this attitude often improves over time, but it can be highly distressing while it lasts. Try not to let your wife’s attitude get to you. Try not to have any expectations (that is just setting yourself up to become resentful, which is not fun), and just do what you need to do to take care of yourself. You are entitled to take care of yourself, regardless of the expectations of those around you. Your wife may or may not come around in time, but if you maintain a hopeful attitude and focus on being grateful for your progress on keto, you will feel better, even if she does not.
Good luck, and God bless.
You have done really great in your weight loss journey so far. Remember you are doing this for you; not for others. I know what it is like; my family calls me anorexic all the time. I have been doing Keto since February 2019 and I have just come to accept how they think negatively about Keto.
Ditto from me, take care =).
It can be tough not getting support from family you expected to be supportive. But as @Momof5 notes you are doing something for yourself so don’t let naysaying deter you. As @PaulL notes, eventually the criticisms fall off if for no other reason than your improving health becomes obvious and naysaying stupid.
My wife is not particularly supportive, but she’s learned that I’m going to eat the way I eat whether or not she likes it or supports it. She offers me bites of fruit and/or veggies from time to time. If I eat one grape or a thin slice of apple she simply accepts that’s as far as it goes. Curiously, my wife is from Russia and when she arrived in Canada one of her favorite foods was raw bacon. The more fat the better! I commented that I didn’t think it was healthy to eat all that fat, but she persisted and I let it go. Now our roles are reversed. I’ve come around to fat is good and she’s come around to the common North American view that I’m going to kill myself eating all that fat. 
I think this is quite common. Negative comments about food, weight loss, etc. (And it happens when people try to improve their lives in other ways as well.) I can only speculate as to why people do this.
Know that it’s not just you, and you don’t need to take it personally.
Get what strength you can from the people who are supportive. Coming to a forum like this can be very helpful too.
It’s taken me 60+ years to stop caring about what other people think. As long as I’m trying to be a good person and am not hurting anyone, why should I care? I know it’s more complicated than that when you’re married.
I really wish you all the best. It’s your mouth, your stomach, your health. Good luck!
That’s a hard thing. Yet often you can’t push much, or at all. My wife was pleased that I lost weight, and she was impressed with the relative quickness of it over the first few months, but there was never a thought from her that she should do it too. Now, 3.5 years later, she’s almost to the point of talking about it. 
Just this past week she said she “has to do something” - she’s going to be 60 next year. I said, “Well, we can talk about it…” and she agreed - that’s about the most I’ve gotten from her yet, and we haven’t actually talked about dietary changes now, though she knows the broad strokes of why I think keto works.
I’ve had a lot of people ask me about my weight loss and how I did it. I often say the main thing I did was cut way down on the carbohydrates, trying to really keep it simple. So many people then reply with, “Oh, that’s not good for you.” 
Bob, lots of things go through my head, but when there’s that bone-deep resistance, i.e. the person just can’t accept the thought of doing without the carby foods they love, then what is one to do? I’m always willing to discuss it, but often it’s a matter of shrugging, one way or another.
Yes, with many/most folks you reach an impasse, either very quickly or maybe a little more slowly. You just have to accept it and agree to disagree. Once in a while, though, you will encounter someone who is seriously curious, and that’s a good experience. I’ve encountered a couple people at work who have expressed interest and don’t instantly balk at the idea of reducing carbs. They’re at least willing to listen to the rationale. Others have observed my meals and asked what and why I’m eating. Again, curious and not instantly repulsed by the possibility that the standard SAD diet might not be very healthy.
I can’t say I’m not supported by my extended family and friends. The only thing I notice is the people who are carb addicts will make excuses as to why keto is not for them. I will offer advice and help anyone who genuinely seeks it. I’ve stopped telling people about the food I cook because they’ll have me go through the trouble of writing out the recipe and steps knowing full well they have no intentions of making it or making it low carb.
I had a co-worker tell me my kidneys were going to shut down. Two years later I’m peeing better than ever.
Also my most recent blood tests showed a big improvement across the board. Most importantly, my A1c is down below pre-diabetic range (5.3). Avoiding the diabeetus was the main reason I started eating this way; I watched it kill my grandmother, currently watching it kill my mother, and I was headed straight down the same path until I put the brakes on. I’m not putting my kids through that. The weight loss and boosted energy is just a fun bonus. 
It must be very hard if you family is kind of against it… I am lucky but I am stubborn and hedonistic anyway to follow my own decisions and whims, whatever, they are MINE. I experiment a lot.
I had criticism in the distant past from my not close family… They so couldn’t handle me being a vegetarian 
I didn’t care but I didn’t see them often.
My closest family members at least accepted I do whatever I do. I don’t expect deep understanding and no one around me went keto and probably never will (from the people I have in my life now) as very low-carb simply isn’t for them - or maybe it is but no way they will change that much even with diabetes. If I had diabetes, I would do so, so much… I do much for my health even without health problems. But as we know, not everyone is like that. And some people stuck in some weird beliefs.
And sadly, some people hate when others make their woe better. I don’t have this latter type in my family and I am very thankful for it.
My SO even eats most of my keto/carnivore food and I am very sure he never will do low-carb, he can’t even try. But it’s fine as long as he is thriving on his own woe. He adapts to my woe to the extent that is comfortable for him, it makes cooking easier.
His mom tries to cook properly for us when we go visit
But cooking for me is tough so I don’t expect that from anyone except myself. I cook and bake (simple or fun) carby stuff as my SO needs them. So we are quite supportive to some extent and it’s nice. I am very glad we both are very health-conscious (we just need and handle well different things), his Mom is a lovely person but his woe is bad for her diabetes. She made the usual changes due to doctor’s orders but that’s it. She doesn’t even seem to lose any weight and she really should. I couldn’t see that every day, I surely would comment sometimes, in vain… People are very reluctant to change their ways and beliefs. Me and my SO always were much more open-minded and we do what seems to be good for us. It’s a very nice common ground.
I don’t get positive words for my woe changes, it’s quite obvious… But whenever it results in very much needed fat-loss or more energy or something (my health was pretty good at high-carb so I can’t expect much improvement there but there are so many things that can get better), that’s a different thing. I think every good partner should be glad if there are improvements… Except maybe if they believe there will be some steep price. But they still should be trust the other one who knows what they are doing (not everyone do, of course but many people has some knowledge and experiment and see it’s good) or open-minded and not to believe unreasonable things about keto or something.
But you are 2 persons. She may eat what she wants and you eat what you want, it’s so obvious to me. I saw such things before and I don’t get it. My food is my business, it’s my own choice. As long as I don’t bother others too much with it, of course.
I have seen this in many couples I have worked with over the years as a therapist. Like others have said it is hard when the dynamic has changed in the relationship. My guess is a lot of your old relationship revolved around food and celebrations with it. Like stress eating ice cream, splitting that large soda and popcorn at the movies, putting away greasy pizza on Friday nights. It is almost a grief process for some when they lose that joint activity with their spouse.
You have to continue to be true to yourself and do what you love and is best for you. Maybe she will come around and maybe she won’t. But just know this quote…write your own story. It is so true, no one can write it for you!
Yes, my sibling recently called me to tell me she had a dream telling her to insist I stop keto. Her reason? Not for my health but because in her dream I lost fat and was much smaller than her!
Hence the pushy phone call!
After I Iost 40 lbs, during COVID shutdown and working from home and starting Keto, and after returning to the office after 3 months, one close coworker remarked that I had lost a lot of weight, but no others. I think they thought that I must have had gastric bypass surgery (as some others at the plant), and were afraid to ask how I had lost so much weight. They definitely notice how much better I look. Maybe they’re just jealous. I love it.
that is tough and rough. You are positive and making changes, getting results, hitting goals and you are happy you are accomplishing this! and the others feel left behind and out of your adventure.
You can’t change them or anything but maybe read this post to your wife? Would that help? Talking it out is the best you can do. Silently seething in the wings won’t help anything.
but you do what works for you. Luckily I got support in that they love my results and how well I am doing, but hate I screw up their restaurant choices and all that HAHA but I told hubby tough. Deal with it and he has LOL Talking it out is what helped me, any weird or negative crap I got while changing over into my zero carb lifestyle, when I saw it from him I addressed it immediately. Chatting works best for us tho. On our mind we let it out 
and get over it fast.
best of luck to you! I hope you find a balance that fits you guys.
Hey that sounds tough and I’m sorry your great progress with keto and weight loss isn’t something that your wife is celebrating with you.
It can be hard when someone close to us changes significantly. Some people experience change, even positive change, as a potential threat.
Is this something you can talk about as a couple? Have you asked her what she thinks of your personal changes? What does she say when you offer to cook something healthy or talk about your new habits?
I would guess your wife feels deserted and under pressure to change, just because she is living with you while you improve. Like when a couple both smokes and one miraculously quits on his/her. The smoking spouse will now feel guilty that they aren’t helping or joining, but they are still addicted and feel unable to give it up. So, we have a built in response to save face. All you can do is remain loving and understanding to your wife. She doesn’t like herself at all right now.
What I think we have here is a craving. Your health improvements will help you to deal with cravings.
What does her body language say? Words, or lack of them, can be deceptive.
Sorry, can be rough I’m sure.
Yikes
“Most” here have a some point
And it’s not really about you 
REGARDLESS
Continue to Love on your Wife
Continue to compliment her
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud
We are ALL Beautifully made in His Image
Just can’t remember the writer or source
Hum?
Oops 
Back to keto or food
I would continue to cook
Maybe just make HER favorite meal or recipe?
Keto Style
Make a partial keto meal plus her favorite SAD food?
And or maybe add in a keto dessert?
Onward and Upward
Good luck