Do you receive criticism for your weight loss and a healthier you?

(Alex ) #21

@ketoloss

A lot of criticism is often due to jealousy and people being unable to cope with someone else’s success at achieving something, mostly because they cannot do the same. Friends and family often take shots at those around them because they can’t bear to see others doing well / better than them, that’s my experience anyway.

#22

I think this is truth. I really don’t expect compliments. Actually I can tell people are afraid to ask and wonder if I have something medically wrong like cancer. For most part friends have been supportive.

I think it’s going to take a lot of time for my wife to adjust and accept it.

#23

Plain and simple, jealously and they’re pissed off that you have the power to make a change and they don’t. Screw em’! I get into slight pissing matches with my wife for the exact same thing, she’ll get mad at me for not eating complete garbage and try to guilt me into it and I gave up on the nice a long time ago when it comes to this. I just say my days of being a fat out of shape mess are over. That’s exactly what I was. Never going back. I end it there. At some point your progress will piss her off enough to do something for her. As all of us that are big although we never admit it then all know exactly what we look like and don’t like it. But until you’ve REALLY had enough you can’t be talked into anything.

(You've tried everything else; why not try bacon?) #24

To paraphrase Yogi Berra, if people don’t want to take care of themselves, you can’t stop 'em. :grin:

(Laurie) #25

Other apropos Yogi-isms:

Take it with a grin of salt.

If the world were perfect, it wouldn’t be.

(BuckRimfire) #26

Maybe wearing one of these to work would help break the ice!
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(Vic) #27

Some are supportive some came around after some time others are stuck on Ohh but its sooo bad for your heart,

I have some family member so indoctrinated the eat low-fat cereal in almond milk and egg white omelets on egg white wraps and would never touch bacon or burger meat out of fear of fat cholesterol and heart attacks

And that even before you get gasps from mentioning saturated fat like its a dirty word

#28

Men and women are different and require different things. At some level, she probably feels you are judging her for not making the necessary changes to her diet as you did. She feels challenged/threatened and is not ready for a change. She may in time, change or she may not. But do not expect her to congratulate you. You stepped up and made changes, she undoubtedly feels guilty she cannot. You are in a no-win loop. Tread lightly. Look for positive feedback from within.

(Karen) #29

Hi and well done for changing your lifestyle in the way you eat and how you see yourself and the future and for your weight loss.
I decided to stop drinking alcohol as I could see I was highly dependent and unable to go a day without. I saw the box in my porch full of empty bottles of wine, jack Daniel’s, Canadian club, baileys you name it it was in there over flowing and they were all mine except 1 empty bottle of beer which was my husband’s. I just stood and stared and felt shocked at myself. I decided there and then that was it. I said to my husband, who knew I had a problem, that I was not going to drink any more. His reply … for how long? This is our lifestyle! What are you going to do when we go out? What are you going to do when we have guests? He whined on and on about it and gave no support whatsoever. Well that was 20.5 years ago and here I am still tee total and single because I finally saw the wood for the trees. Without the alcohol I grew emotionally stronger and got a divorce. Life for me totally improved 100%. All my family were big drinkers and smokers and I have lost all of them and the alcohol and smoking certainly contributed to their deaths… except for my step father who died of cancer. I, personally, wouldn’t want to be with anyone who didn’t support me and know how demoralising it can be. You just continue to be strong and don’t allow her to bring you down. Keep telling yourself you are amazing and give yourself a huge pat on the back. Xx