I would think there’s something (?) on the menu that could work? Or you can ask for something whole (like a piece of fish) with butter and the seaweed salad?
I eat what I can when I’m out, get comments from my fellow diners… but what the hell! 
Enjoy your dinner!
I would call back. I assume you are coming with a 6 or more group so they are more likely to want to help you. Explain that you are allergic to wheat and sugar and ask what they can make for you that is cooked but does not have either of those in it. Maybe you got an unhelpful person when you called
Maybe they can do a plate of steamed veggies for you? If they do stir fry, the veggies shouldn’t be marinated. Ask if they can steam them with no sauce? Good luck and I second the purse bacon option!!!
Have a great weekend!
I love shrimp! I remember back when I was eating whatever, I’d go to Outback Steakhouse or Red Lobster whenever they had their “All you can eat shrimp” promotions going on. I’d eat so much, I felt like I wanted to explode by the time I left there. 
Hopefully the miso soup is the traditional kind. Chicken karage (on a skewer with green onion) has minimal sugar in the sauce. A half a bowl of edamame is ok – has some carbs but lot of fibre and pretty nutritious. One of the things I love about keto is I can have something pretty much everywhere I go 
Thanks for all the input. Miso soup was the sugary kind so I ended up ordering the chicken teriyaki with the sauce on the side, it was still marinated in teriyaki and was SO sweet so I only had a few pieces. I also asked to sub veggies for the rice, which they refused to do. They offered to steam me a side of vegetables in addition to the chicken so I ended up paying and extra 7 dollars for a cup of steamed veggies(broccoli and carrots) and gave my rice and sugar soup to my brother. Bill total was $23 dollars for sugar chicken and few pieces of broccoli. WOWZA. Never again. I made it clear to my family that we are changing out lifestyle and some support would be appreciated. If they did not approve, then they should be understanding when we refuse to go out with them. My parents were really cool with it…my aunt said that it will change in a month and I will still be “my size” regardless and I shouldn’t impose my eating restrictions on others just because I can’t “control myself”. I love how she said this while drinking a very large beer, polishing off a large sake and eating a giant plate of tempura.Yep. Clearly I am the one who can’t “control myself”. 
The naysayers like your aunt have society’s permission to blame those who struggle with their weight for their supposed “weakness”. I am so grateful for the knowledge that now allows me to work WITH this incredibly sophisticated body of mine to preserve and improve my health instead of AGAINST it.
My experience with eating ketogenically is that as you continue to eat this way, you are going to feel stronger and stronger in your body, in your mind, and in your spirit. Many of the people in your life will see those changes. But it’s possible that some will not, maybe even some people who could benefit the most from a similar way of eating.
Congratulations for feeling strong enough to do what you actually need to do to take control of your health and your life. Congratulations for letting your family know what you need to do to take care of yourself. Congratulations for having the support of your parents. You are totally AMAZING!
oh, wow. This is so unbelievably rude. My mouth actually dropped open when I read this.
Also I missed the part where you were imposing restrictions on other people…? In her mind, you wanting particular choices somehow dictates what she can choose (??).
BUT - maybe you could tape that quote to your wall for an extra motivation. When you feel strong and amazing and gorgeous we could all chip in for a shirt that has that quote and a big 
on it. (Not when you’re at some particular goal size, but when you feel super centered about your path and your progress).
Congrats on getting through it and on gaining more clarity along the way!
Hard road to hoe.
Sometimes I will eat some carbs and count it as non-compliance towards my 90% compliance standard. I will generally strive for a thing I love to eat (so tempura would be the japanese thing for me, but teriyaki or yakitori would be okay under the value theory).
Sometimes I will navigate the menu for the best option.
sometimes I will not eat or suggest we go somewhere else.
Sometimes I will skip events.
Everything has a downside and a tradeoff. Depends on your family. My family are critical wolves, so no matter what I do, they will comment on weight or diet, or take non-attendance as lack of love (if they only knew all the things I wrote about them as regards my diet/weight/eating).
I’ve found Japanese restaurants to be quite accommodating when adventuring off menu. They should be able to do you some grilled chicken or something without the teriyaki sauce. I know you don’t do sashimi, but how do you stand with tataki, which is seared fish (or sometimes beef… yum!). Just tell them no sugary sauces.
Whoa, I’m really sorry that your aunt said something so mean-spirited. Even if she disagrees, there is no reason to be so hurtful about it.
My brother and I had a little (mostly joking) argument last fall when I was researching keto. I was… “yes, I CAN eat salami and bacon and cheese and ranch and lose weight and not have a heart attack.” He made me a salami/cheese/ranch sandwich (as in two slices of salami with some cheese and ranch between them- gross) in jest, and we had a good laugh.
He did say that he’d consider it if a year from then I was still following the “diet” and had lost weight… so now, that’s my goal. Prove him wrong But ultimately, get him to consider this way of eating, cause goodness knows my whole family has insulin resistance issues, even if he has been able to stave off the obesity factor with his man genes and height
The motivation to shove it in a naysayer’s face is the strong motivation.
It so is! I have had naysayer’s in my life for a long time. People who even try to get you off your diet because you know you are doing well and making progress. When I was younger I use to take much of what they said to heart…but since I turned 30 I have been telling more and more people to go f&*# themselves. Feels like a right of passage to tolerate less bullshit and focus on me.
HAHA this is great. Glad your brother can joke about it and that it gives you a goal.
My mother is the biggest naysayer in my life. Fortunately at the moment I’m living 3500km (2000ish miles) from them and didn’t see them until I was 25kilos down so she couldn’t argue… instead she goes on (and on) about why she can’t do it
