Good read. Long time carnivore. Just sharing thoughts on what goes down for manyâŠshe gained like 20 lbs the first few months and tells it like it is on what your expectations areâŠagain, good read.
ZC EXPECTATIONS AND THE FIRST 30 DAY RESULTS
BJ LEONE·WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 23, 2020·
BJ LEONE - [15 AUGUST 2016
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My reply to someone who specifically asked me about what to do as they have just completed 30 days ZC, but find themselves struggling and thinking of quitting, simply because they have not lost weight - and, in their words, that was their driving incentive for doing ZC in the first placeâŠ
It may be something others here are interested in reading, especially if they are new and struggling with facing some of those same mental struggles:
I think youâll be selling your body short if you give up.
Here are my thoughts as to why, and possibly some ideas on how to get past the obstacles you may be creating in your own thinking if you find yourself wanting to quit because you donât yet look or feel the way you think you should:
First, I want to say that I am so sorry you are going through this, and I truly do understand the frustration and the feelings of despondence that can sometimes arise along the way, about things not âchangingâ as quickly as (or precisely how), you would want them to.
But I guess all I can do to try to help you, is to encourage you again to perhaps try to step back and see things from a slightly different perspective:
To try to detach from all the emotional investment you seem to have built up and the expectations and focus youâve thus placed on specific âresultsâ you are attached to; so much so that you may be thus getting caught up in overly scrutinising every moment, based on those overriding and visually obscuring desiresâŠ
When you can take that step back and assess things more clearly, you will see so much that you otherwise miss when you are so focused instead on certain expectations which you are waiting and hoping for whereby you are thus setting yourself up to almost guarantee that you will be always less than satisfied with how your body is responding.
The truth is your body is doing wonderful things, all working to help you and to heal youâŠ
And it seems, sadly, that this is going unacknowledged and unappreciated.
This will cause you heartache and will ultimately cause you to give up, if you cannot find it in yourself to change the way you see what is really happening here.
Your body is finally being fed properly.
You are eating around 2 pounds of meat per dayâŠand yet, your body is, wonderfully so and no doubt unlike with any other diet, not storing it all as fat!
How many other diets have you ever been on where you could eat so much food without continuing to gain fat? What other way of eating has ever allowed you the freedom to actually satisfy your hunger, for that matter?
Let alone freed you from the relentless agony of cravings which sabotage you on a regular basis?
These alone are hugeâŠand yet, when we are fixated on some specific âresultâ, we fail to see the marvel and blessings right in front of us.
We all do this to some degree, so please donât think this is said to criticise or judge you!
Sometimes, I must say, it does surprise me when I hear so many comments about âjust do it for 30 daysâ, as though 30 days is all it takes for miracles to happen for people with a history of carb-damage.
Sure some people do get huge and very dramatic changes for the better in just 30 days.
But really, for many others, I canât help but feel that that type of short-term goal fixation just sets them up for massive disappointment, if their expectations of how much their body can do in a mere 30 days seems to be set at what appears (to me at least), to be a totally unrealistic standard.
I can most assuredly tell you that, had I expected miracles within 30 days, I would never have been able to remain ZC long enough for my body to take the time it needed to truly transform me.
I got my âmiraclesâ sure, but hell, weâre talking months and years, for me, for everything to be rebalanced and healed properly. At the end of my first 30 days, I was still a mess.
You have to understand where you are coming from and be grateful, above all else, for all that your body is truly still doing for you.
It really is working FOR you, not against you, but if you keep refusing to appreciate all it is working on for you, youâll never get past the fixations on what you âWant - now, dammit!â, lol , and youâll never be able to hold on for long enough to get the longer-term REAL changes.
Which are the only ones, incidentally, which mean anything at all.
The only obvious âpositivesâ that I could see and had to show for my first 30 days, was merely the awareness that I had finally found something that allowed me to properly nourish my body.
Nothing more. Nothing like what I had heard and seen others had managed to gain and experience.
My body was still a mess. Meaning, that the only âbenefitâ I could so far âseeâ, was that I could finally eat without the same degree of agony and distress that eating used to cause me.
Was I healed? No, of course notâŠI still felt awful most of the time, and I had gained well over 10 pounds (I gained a total of around 22 pounds in the first few months) and, even though I was thin, it felt just awful, so it was certainly not something that âfelt goodâ.
I felt crappy most of the time and the weight I gained seemed and felt like fat deposits and certainly looked like fat deposits, so it felt very uncomfortable indeed.
But that is obviously what my body needed to do in order to build up the resources to allow it to begin to do all the healing that it could not otherwise do without it.
So, I focused instead on knowing that at least I was finally able to get real nutrition into meâŠand then, for the rest, I just had to find a way to accept that my situation was what it was, and thus just step aside and leave my body alone to do what it needed and to take however long it needed, to do it.
If I had allowed myself to get too worked up over the weight-gain and the fact that I still felt crappy and was not âseeingâ certain changes as quickly as my mind was screaming to see them, then I would have quit right there and then.
But, as others have mentionedâŠquit and go back to what, exactly?
The terrible state that eating plants had led me to?
There comes a point where you can no longer kid yourself and you simply have to accept that there are no real âshortcutsâ.
Those are a lie, false promises, nothing more. Because they create no lasting true changes. They just set your body up for even more damaged internal conditions.
Eventually I did end up naturally losing those initial fatty deposits which my body had gained, and my body began to replace all the muscle I had lost too, after so many years of poor nutrition and crazy diets.
Internally, my organs and tissues possibly needed to go through that stage in order to be âbalancedâ enough to take on the complex tasks needed to facilitate the repair and rebuilding of tissues, organs and bones etc, tooâŠ
To focus on ZC as something you demand specific things from, especially so quickly, whilst ignoring where you are possibly coming from in terms of what your previous metabolic issues were, is to really just commit to giving yourself a ticket out of ZC, before youâve even really given your body a chance to do what it needs to, so that those deeper benefits can materialise in such a way that you can see them all begin to be expressed as more obvious changes.
Too many people are actually not seeing this difference clearly.
They donât realise that the whole âgive it 30 daysâ thing, is sometimes actually just a way of giving them a way of quitting before they even really get going âŠ
Why? Usually because subconsciously they simply donât want to have to make any of the deeper changes to their perspective, or to their priorities, or their mental fixations and desires to have it all go according to some set preconceived plan.
If you are so determined to have it go according to the mental script you have set in your mind, then you must understand that you are giving yourself an excuse to quit, because really you donât value what ZC can do for you; you just want to be thin, or whatever it is you are fixated on seeing results in.
Again, thatâs not a criticism!
Hell, most of us go through it, at least to some degree, and it is just one of the challenges along the way which we all must navigate our way through.
So believe me you are not alone, and I know that I, for one, sure had a heck of a time with my own personal issues of this sort involving my own particular emotionally invested desires, when they didnât play out in the way or at the speed at which I wanted them to.
So at least for some people, it may be time to step back and do some self-reflection and see where you are at in terms of your desires and expectationsâŠ
And from there, try to decide what is truly important, in the bigger picture, to you.
If all you want is to lose weight, and nothing else will console you, then, in all honesty, youâre better off doing something else.
This will become obvious after a while to anyone who comes upon ZC as we practise it here. Because you will not rapidly lose weight on ZC as we advocate it be done, unless it is actually healthy for your body to indeed do so.
Some people do drop weight very rapidly on ZC because their body is able to handle that. But, for most of us, it simply means that ZC is NOT the fastest way to lose weight.
Which is perfectly logical and exactly as it should be and indeed how we would expect it to work too. Because it actually works to heal the underlying conditions, rather than losing weight from a state of forced chronic restriction as other diets do; which is a stressful state instead of healthy one.
Losing weight too quickly is not an ideal internal milieu in the majority of cases. Thus on ZC your body will only release weight within certain parameters and at times and in a manner when/where it is not unhealthy to do so.
The difference with ZC is that what you lose tends to be as a result of the fact that a deeper internal imbalance or hormonal issue is finally being resolved.
On other diets, you may lose weight faster, but the effect usually cannot be maintained in the vast majority of cases. The weight loss is merely a transient and often thus a more chaos-inducing influence on the longer term state of the internal hormonal homeostasis, via its effects upon metabolic systems et al.
Thus weight lost via those chronic catabolic diets, unlike ZC, can be said to be harmful; and in the long term especially, not helpful in achieving real lasting success.
Again, this is also why all those diets we ever did in the past simply added to our internal metabolic dysfunction and chaos in the end. This is why it is even known and mentioned in the conventional world, that âdietsâ, in the long run, indeed only set you up to slowly end up fatter than ever.
In truth it is because they never really cause âhealthyâ weight loss if they only add to the internal damage in the long run.
What good will it do you to quit ZC so you can âspeed-upâ weight-loss, when in 6 months or so from now youâll more than likely find yourself even worse off, and in the grips of that vicious diet-cycle and filled with cravings again and never truly being able to satisfy your hunger - and thus end up possibly even worse off than before?
Only you can ultimately decide where you will focus your attention, however. And how much effort you are willing to put into overcoming those mental challenges and emotional attachments.
We all find them rising up to loom in front of us at some point - and that is when we must choose how we actually decide to see them and act upon them, when we are confronted by these self-created obstacles.
The ZC journey cannot be travelled unless you are, to a certain extent at the very least, willing to actually step back from any and all distorted thinking patterns and faulty perspectives that are based on social and cultural vanities.
Not to sound harsh, but that is essentially what they are, these metal desires that trip us up so oftenâŠvanities, based on nothing more than oppressive âidealsâ, bound up in cultural and gender power issues. Which are really then just the reflections of our distorted cultural hangups that have been bred into us from birth.
The benefits of ZC are very real. But if your focus is too grimly determined to one thing only, then it is the easiest thing in the world to fail to see the benefits before you.
The question is, will you be willing to see themâŠ
Or will you see only that which you still feel you donât have and thus allow yourself to be swamped and overcome by that which you assume is your body âworking against youâ and/or it seemingly conspiring to not give you what you want?
I can only hope to suggest that you try to let go of those excessive desire-based motives.
Only then can you really begin to see the bigger picture and only then will you really understand how incredible the things going on inside your own body are:
And how, if you just shift your view and focus a little, your whole mindset will change and you will begin to appreciate just what you have truly gained, along the way, no matter where you are at in your journey. xx