Coming from someone with epilepsy (granted I’ve had it since I was 7, so for going on 28 years), I can tell you that it doesn’t feel debilitating. I am sure my parents and husband feel the same as you, but it’s just another thing to deal with for me. It sucks when it isn’t controlled as well, but I’ve never let it really control my life in a way that prevented me from doing most things.
Like until recently it was controlled, and as long as it is for at least 6 months straight I drive, I worked, I still go running. But I also don’t have convulsive seizures, so I’m lucky in that sense. I don’t currently drive of course, but when I did I have traveled alone, lived alone. I never really thought much about it other than it being this thing I took medication for. So if your daughter can get hers under control (which I hope she can, I really do), then she probably will feel the same. It just becomes an annoying pill you have to remember to take. It doesn’t have to rule your life. It isn’t like diabetes where it damages your organs. And luckily there are tons of medications and options available to control it. From medications, diet, CBD, even as extreme as brain surgery if the part of the brain affected is accessible and that’s an option for the person. Just find a dr you like and trust. Don’t let her settle for a neurologist that will prescribe meds and just go with them. Do some research and fight to get in with the best in your region. That’s what I did and I’m glad because I really love my current dr.