Unintentional cheat day — devastates

(L) #1

So I’m unsure what I hope to gain from writing here but.

I usually follow keto stick to 20g of carbs a day but don’t mind where I get it from.

When we have family celebrations I like pimms and diet lemonade which has very low calories. But today my mum made the pimms and I just found out after 5 glasses she’s used normal not diet lemonade. I’m absolutely devastated I’ve been working so hard and this just feels like a huge setback I feel sick to my stomach.

Any advice for getting over this and how to ensure I still lose weight at next weigh in next sat?

I’m utterly horrified and can’t stop crying

Thanks all

(Linda ) #2

stop crying cheer up youll be fine…just get straight back on track and use the day as a lesson and something you can learn from… Dr Cywes suggests if you stumble have three meat only days to kill any cravings then back to your usual plan…

(Ken) #3

Absolutely no big deal. No need to panic or psychosomatically make yourself ill. Those simple carbs (as well as the alcohol, I love Pimms in the Summer) will quickly be burned. You may flux a little water weight, but it would probably only be Muscular Glycogen, which hangs around until your muscles burn it. Get right back on track, no harm, no foul.

(Allie) #4

Let it go and move on. Sh1t happens.

#5

No problem. Just continue the next day.
I was wondering if your mother knew what she was doing? Did she know you were on keto?!

(Pete A) #7

It’s important for me to work with my feelings, and learn, and move out of it. To bacon! Meaning return to low carb eating ASAP.

That said, it’s not easy. Three years Keto and I “cheat” delibetately from time to time, and bounce back best I can…

So far haha

Good luck!

(L) #8

I know this may sound so petty to some people but I’ve tried so hard and finally seeing results I can’t help but feel setback. Especially with soemthing like lemonade - if I wanted to consume 100g of carbs I’d have had something I really wanted not soemthing that had a perfectly good substitute

(Jane) #9

No big deal. And if you are in this for the long haul (and you should be) it doesn’t matter.

Just chalk it up to a lesson learned and it won’t be the last time as long as you eat away from home and don’t have control over every ingredient. Restaurant food can be tricky, too.

#10

Sorry but that is REALLY nasty of your mother. My mother was like that too. I think her competition with me and her nastiness is one of the reasons I weigh too much today. I know that it is my responsibility but it hurts and it holds complex underlying emotional issues within. In my case- my mother used to be the beauty queen type of diva. But for your mother to intentionally give you sugared lemonade is just plain awful. I am really dismayed. You cannot trust her in the future- I hope you know that. I am not sure what you are crying more about- the lapse ( which you should get over quickly and just keto on) or the betrayal by your mother.
Just to let you know that you are not alone and this kind of thing is prolly more common than you know. But during therapy I had a memory of standing at a cocktail party all dolled up with my mother. Dressed to the T in stilettos and I had just had my hair done and was really looking my best. We stood there in a circle with other guests- and my mother bent over and pointed with her finger to my nose and said in front of everybody “You have a zit there” - you know? Like just to make sure that everybody sees it. She did stuff like that a lot to get rid of the competition.

(Polly) #11

Awful for you - so hard to get past such cruelty!

(Polly) #12

Sorry to hear about your unintentional cheat. As the others have said, pick yourself up dust yourself off and get straight back on the wagon. It may take a couple of days but you will be back in no time.

(L) #13

I’m mainly so upset because she knows how hard I’m trying and how I’ve had some really low points whilst doing all this. I don’t think she meant to be cruel. Just really thoughtless - sadly to me the outcome is the same! Just wish it was my choice to cheat.

I’m not very good at bouncing back - I now feel really low mood and worried about next weigh in and what to eat all week which is exactly what o try to avoid. I now feel really bloated and sick. Just pray next weigh in isn’t another weight gain because I find it hard to stay positive 2 weeks on the trot weight gain

I know I will eventually be fine but this has been such a. Slow journey for me. I didn’t want a big set back such as this.

Thanks everyone

#14

You can’t ruin much with some lemonade if your other days are fine. And it doesn’t matter if you don’t lose weight all the time, you probably won’t anyway as it rarely works that way, it seems you are a bit too obsessed with this.

It’s understandable you are upset but such things happen. (Not to me as no way I don’t feel sugar right away but I cut out normal sugar from my diet a decade ago or something.) You do the right steps and you couldn’t know your mother act unusually. Unless you are super sensitive, you won’t feel awful either, physically I mean… Just go back to keto, it will be fine! No need to beat yourself up about it, really. It’s a long term woe, a single occasion is almost nothing.

(Michael - When reality fails to meet expectations, the problem is not reality.) #15

Hey @larjemima maybe it would be useful to get a desktop type calendar with big boxes for each day of the month. Every day you eat sub-20 grams of carbs paste a big gold star in the day’s box. Any day that you go over 20 grams of carbs put a little black dot. Helps to keep things in perspective.

Pro Tip™ Do not trust anyone other than yourself to prepare food or beverages for you. Especially don’t trust friends or family to do so when they have zero comprehension of nutrition or how you’re eating.

#16

I can “hear” how frustrated you are. I don’t blame you for how you feel, but press forward past this.

You have made a great choice to change your way of eating and you CAN do this. This really is just a very tiny blip in the grand scheme of things. We have all had things like this happen to us, but we stay here for encouragement and we help each other along in our journey.

My own family doesn’t really get why I’m eating this way and they won’t do any research to learn anything new. All except my youngest son, who does his best to eat low carb, although not quite Keto low.

In a year, you probably won’t even remember this incidence. Don’t sabotage yourself with negative thinking. Be positive that you are fine, because you are. Keep your eyes forward, toward your goal and don’t get caught up in the net of regrets. What’s past is past. You have a great future. Focus on that. :grinning:

(Troy) #17

What others have said…
I say reverse your title or post
from negative to positive

“Devastate - Unintentional cheat day”

I say DEVASTATE it by maybe doing a fast!:smile:

Good luck

#18

You drank some normal lemonade, who cares? This isn’t a religion, the world hasn’t ended, you’re not going to die. You’ll burn it off and you’ll continue on. Your first problem is caring about scale weight and not body fat %. I weigh myself daily but it’s to track trends. For two days out of the last 5 I had burgers with my low carb bread… but with sweet potato fries. I’m holding more glycogen because of that which is showing on the scale now (~5lbs). I did NOT get fatter, so why the hell should I care? I’ll have an awesome workout this morning thanks to that. The preworkout I’m drinking as we speak is 20oz, I’ll be a little over 1lb heavier when I drink it than I was before… again, NOT gaining fat. Stop worrying about nonsense. Being realistic is 100% REQUIRED to hit your goals and keep them long term.

Then you have a serious mindset problem which you NEED to fix! If some lemonade can do that do you then you need to slap yourself in the face and get over it. We’re here for you, but ultimately YOU are the one that NEEDS to be in control!

There’s your morning dose of tough love / reality. KCKO! You’ll be fine.

(Candace) #19

It’s called life and this is a lifestyle. You will not have perfection, because you are not always going to be in control of everything you put in your mouth. Perfectionism is something I struggle with, but I’m learning. You just have to take it one meal at a time. Tomorrow (or technically…today) is another day, and no reason not to live it as you did up to that point. You’ve got this!

(Jane) #20

Why don’t you skip this week’s weigh in? That way you won’t have something negative to obsess over if you don’t show a loss or show a gain. Truly, if you are in the FOR THE LONG TERM you need to find a way to be contented with the food, knowing you are improving your health and the weight loss will come - and it won’t be linear.

Be sure you are measuring yourself - sometimes you can lose inches and the scale does not budge. Inches are more important than scale weight because that is how you LOOK AND FEEL. The scale measures water gain, everything in your digestive track, everything you have drank but not peed out, etc and does not differentiate between fat and muscle.

(Keto Koala 🐨) #21

I’ve been drinking Vodka and been avoiding the scale like the plague. Don’t cry…it is ok, I drank Vodka with diet soda in March and it set me back a teeny bit for like a week or Two, but then I started losing again. I understand your frustration, but it’s ok. Life happens you know, the human body is an amazing thing and everything will be fine.:slightly_smiling_face: