During most of my family’s get togethers we usually barbecue. I’ve tried explaining to my family my new WOE but they just don’t seem to get it. I usually try to take make most of the dishes but everyone always seems to notice when I don’t eat something (desserts with sugar, bread, etc) but I’m eating literally everything else. I don’t really know what to do for them to just support me especially since they know this is my first month. I’m making huge improvements on keto (physically and mentally). Before when we used to grill I remember eating only a salad with lemon, but now I eat each protein and high fat sides. I don’t want to stop going because their my family but I really can’t stand the criticism. Suggestions?
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Mg12
#2
I cant suggest anything, because I have the same problem. We need Dr. Phil. lol
Glad to hear of your progress though, and just take pride that your winning at your goals through your knowledge and determination. That’s what works for me.
Hapygirl
#3
I have had a couple family swimming BBQs. I just brought my own food and declined the drumsticks and ice cream cake. My mom is the only one that seems to feel like she needs to push the sugar on me… but I honestly don’t even crave it anymore. You have to do you and not be bothered by what others think. 
Digital_Dave
#5
First off, barbecues can be awesome, and can work for any WOE. … I would treat it as any other meal really. Simply eat what you like, and let them do the same. … It’s no different from, say, a Thanksgiving Dinner. Where some might enjoy the ham, turkey, deviled eggs, etc. more - And then some really enjoy the mashed potatoes and gravy, stuffing and dinner rolls, etc. (Or just the deserts?)
So you would be in the first group, of course. And I wouldn’t argue or try to make any points, especially if they always seem to have something to say. … Just let your results speak for themselves. - Simply let them know that you eat what you want/like, and they shouldn’t try to push anything on you. That would be no different from someone trying to get you to drink alcohol, because everyone else you know is doing it.
It shouldn’t matter why you are making those choices, because it’s simply, YOUR choice.
I know that might easy for me to say, not knowing you or your situation. But to be honest, if someone didn’t respect my choices, (family or friend) I would just let them know how it is. You don’t make their choices for them, so ask for the same respect in return.
Again, them seeing your results for themselves will beat any argument or the longest of conversations, trying to explain something they don’t understand.
M_Graham_S
(Michelle)
#7
When you make a lifestyle change to improve your health and appearance, people have a problem with it because it insinuates that since they aren’t doing it, they are harming their health.
On the other hand if you just prefer one food over another people fairly readily accept that. “Oh, Michelle doesn’t like chocolate so I’ll bring a cheesecake for her.”
Same goes for allergies or even diabetes. “She was diagnosed with celiac so make sure there is gluten free food for her.” or “Uncle Tim has T2D. Better make some sugar free jello pudding!” This is better accepted because it seems out of their control.
In the end we all need to just KCKO and let our results speak for us.
Janie
(Jane)
#9
Family dynamics can be sucky to deal with sometimes.
Explaining your choices just gives them ammo to make snide or cruel remarks.
If offered sugar or carbs just say “no thank-you”. If they ask why (which is rude but families think tending someone else’s business is mandatory) just say “I’m not very hungry right now”. And if you are fat-adapted it probably is true!