Really need advice - new comer

#1

I believe in the ketogenic am have been trying it on and off for over 6 months. It really helps with chronic my 20 year old back issues, emotional issues, and weight loss. The problem is, as soon as I start feeling and looking better after 2 weeks, I inevitably go back to bad habits of eating poorly and going out for drinks with friends. What do you say to yourself to keep you on the straight and narrow on the road to overall health? I’m 53 years old and 208#. Stressful job and a beautiful teenage daughter. Thank you for the help. (Don’t use social media much and not on Facebook).

(Lazy, Dirty Keto 😝) #2

This :point_down:t4:

(Full Metal KETO AF) #3

I think it’s time to look at keto as a lifestyle choice and not a diet to use and ignore after it’s working well for you. You know the cycle now, it’s a matter of priority. You’re the man. Decide what you want and go after it, do what you need to do to achieve your goals.

You can still go out with friends now and then to eat and have a couple of drinks while staying with keto if you make the proper choices. Get a steak, a triple patty bacon cheese burger without the bun and bourbon or other liquor neat, on the rocks or with a carb free mixer. You don’t have to eat or drink carbs because everyone else is, you know what’s best for you. You’re friends probably don’t care if you tell them why, and will be happy that you came anyway. At least I would. :cowboy_hat_face:

(Wendy) #4

Yep! Find your why. When you know why you are doing it you will be much more faithful in following it. When I do give in to some carby vice my body and mind reinforce that, “that was kind of stupid.” :grin:

(Susan) #5

Welcome to the forum, TheBull.

You tell yourself that this is a lifestyle change, not a diet. You remind yourself that you want to be around for that beautiful teenage daughter -to be there for her for the next however many years, and be around for if/when she decides to have kids too and be a good grand parent to them =). You do this for yourself, but for all the people in your life that love you and need you. As David so aptly pointed out,

It is easy to do Keto in restaurants. I did it on July 1st at McDonald’s with my hubby, 4 of our kids and grand daughter (just had the burgers wrapped in lettuce, no toppings, or condiments, easy).

(Carl Keller) #6

LCHF was easy for me to stick to because I got tired of so many things: tired of being hungry all the time, tired of pain, tired of having no endurance or patience, tired of not liking what I saw in the mirror, tired of being worried about my health. It just isn’t worth it any more to give in to occupational or social pressure. Cheating consumes me with guilt and doubles my stress.

(Libby) #7

You could spend a lot of time on this forum for motivation. I come here every morning and throughout the day to remind my feeble brain that keto is a big part of my life now. It has helped me tremendously.

(Not a cow) #8

I was similarly in the “on and off” routine for over a year. Surprisingly my friends respected my decision, and routed me on, so they weren’t the issue, it was more ME and the carb cravings. I would be extra good when around my friends, only to cave in to cravings at home when I was by myself. At the moment I am 6 consecutive weeks in, with very low daily carb limits, and weekly IF"s to allow me to have a beer with my buddies a couple times a week. That’s one beer, and a light beer at that, but still gives me that “one of the boys” feeling. :slight_smile:
Don’t give up the fight, it will eventually happen.

(PSackmann) #9

Welcome, you’ve come to a forum full of great information.

I focus on my NSV’s and remind myself this is how I want to feel for the rest of my life. I also tell myself I can eat anything I want to, I choose to not eat certain things to keep inflammation in check. I’ve been where you are, seeing a lower number on the scale causing a feeling of “celebration” that makes you want to “treat yourself”. It’s taken a while to get off that cycle, to remind myself of the consequences.
You may need to forego meeting friends for a few weeks, to get yourself into a solid, consistent state of fat-burning, then it’s a matter of making choices ahead of time. Choose a liquor you can sip straight, my fave is a good tequila. Determine ahead of time what you want to order from the menu if you can, and remind yourself of how much better you feel. You can do this

#10

Thank you for responding to my post. (I’m not even sure if I am replying to all right now, but I want to thank you all for your help.) I keep re-reading all the good advice. This is my last summer with my daughter before she moves away for college. I don’t want her to know how deeply sad I am. I know she is frightened and scared about getting into different colleges, moving away etc.( My Mom and Dad are gone and it’s easy to feel loss). I want to be strong and encouraging for my daughter. I’m sure my emotions are out of whack because of menopause too. I’m looking for the light when I feel so sad and am trying to pull this out of a downward spiral and be strong. BTW, my name Thebull, is for 9 year English Bulldog :dog:“Roger”. A lot of changes going on and around and I’m trying to steady the ship. Thank you again.

(hottie turned hag) #11

Pretty much same. I started here when I stalled, had never sought keto online discussion prior to; it’s been massively helpful. :yellow_heart:

(Libby) #12

Kinda like going to meetings for other issues. “Hello, my name is Libby and I want to avoid carbohydrates.” Lol.

(Full Metal KETO AF) #13

@TheBull Sorry, I assumed you were a man because of the masculine name! :wink:.

:cowboy_hat_face:

(Sherry Smith) #14

Hi. I lost 60lbs on keto 3yrs ago. Slowly gained it back and went through a relationship break up recently that I responded with emotional eating. Now I’m back on track again because I realized my body doesn’t deserve to be “punished” & abused by me poisoning it with toxic junk food! I would never dream of putting sugar in my cars gas tank and expect it to run efficiently, so why should this machine ( my body) be expected to run smoothly while I’m dumping sugar into it?
My body is my best friend, closest thing to me and the only one I’ll ever have. So why do I continually abuse it?
So I’ve decided to ask my body to “forgive me”, and (it might seem weird), but I am started to talk to my body like it is my best friend and treat it lovingly by putting healthy fuel in it! I figure if I would treat my closest girlfriend like that, why not treat myself, my body, like that! My body serves me well; it has been there with me through thick and thin, helps me get out of bed everyday, tried it’s best to be healthy in-spite if me abusing it, and I’m sure plans on seeing me to the end. So I’d better soldier up and start doing my best to love my body, love Me, and take care of myself! And to me…, that would be ketoing it!
I hope this gives you a different perspective, a different way of maybe looking at things to help encourage you along. Good luck!

(Sherry Smith) #15

Hi. I responded to you further down. I’m the gal that talks to her body as her best friend. Lol

#16

Hi David. No problem at all. I’ve always considered myself “one of the guys”. Going out for a beer with my friends has been a lifeline at times. Talking about work and winding up laughing has been like visiting a therapist. I screen shot your post so I can
easily read about “priority” and my friends not caring about what I eat or drink, just that I showed up. It is very touching that all of you responded to my post. Life can sometimes feel like you are in a wash machine and just getting tossed around :thinking:. I have
to remember to count my blessings and see the good. It was very uplifting when I didn’t know where to turn last night and put up my hand asking for advice. I hope the earthquakes didn’t touch you and yours in CA. I am in the lovely town of Milwaukee where
beer has been our middle name :grin:, but not anymore.

Thank you,

(Susan) #17

Welcome to the forum, @Sherry That is a very good analogy. I wish you well on your new Keto journey. I like your attitude!

(Susan) #18

Flashback to Laverne and Shirley show! I used to love that so much =).

You can do this, and yes this forum is amazing. Everyone is so helpful, friendly, full of awesome advice and encouragement =).

#19

Hey Moo. Thank you for understanding this “on and off”. I actually joined this forum back in November and haven’t done anything. One of the roots of the problem is when I have had a few drinks and go home, the alcohol makes my resolve go away and I wind up
eating carbs. It’s very difficult to give up the social drinking for me.

Thank you,

#20

Happy Days followed up by Laverne and Shirley was a Tuesday night staple. I still remember when Fonzie made a motorcycle jump in Al’s parking lot and they ended the season with me in agony and wondering if he was ok. Henry Winkler was my first crush and fan letter. :blush:. I have all these doubts if Keto will work for me with my hormone issues. I am on hrt. Thank you for answering my post.