I avoid my brother like the plague, too because he only calls me when he wants something from me.
He never married, has mostly worked his whole life but always looking for a woman to mooch off of. I gave him my half of Mom’s house when she died so he would have a roof over his head. It was almost paid for and he refinanced it so he could pay off all his credit card debt. I signed Mom’s car over to him so he had no car payment. Mortgage ran him $400/month. I told him I was done, I wasn’t Mom and don’t ever ask me for money. I wouldn’t let him starve.
He lost the house and the car, tried to mooch from me and I refused so he went looking for another female mark. He has found them over the years but never lasts.
I won’t support his booze and cigarette habit so never give him money. He isn’t homeless and hasn’t starved yet. In fact, with his SAD diet he could live off his body fat for quite some time!!!
Call me callous. I own it.