I was a programmer. My elegant clothing meant my favorite black t-shirt with a skull on it 
Never dressed up for a job interview let alone a normal dayā¦ Our secretary dressed up nicely, the other folks wore whatever they pleased, between sane limits.
I am a hermit now. I have certain standards but I always wear comfy practical clothes.
We call them ābird womenā and no thanks. Iāll take a bit of extra padding (fills out the wrinkles! LOL) along with muscle tone. I canāt life the 80-lb bag of cement mix like my husband can, but I can lift and carry 40-50 lbs.
As for maintenance - still 7-8 lbs above my stable weight and grrrā¦ seems to be my new āsetpointā after COVID lifestyle changes. Oh well, I am not fat anymore, in great shape and lots of energy.
My mom totally lifted the 50kg cement bagā¦ I was 40 years younger (not a kid) and admired her as I couldnāt do the same The bag is hard to grab and itās a serious weight for someone not used to physical workā¦
But 40-50lbs is quite light. I chest press with it (more like 40 than 50 ;)) and I am super weak. Not elderly, though, I hope I will be loads stronger thenā¦ Until some point, at least.
I always liked to carry weights just not to a long distance, thatās tiring, not so fun. I showed off with grain bags as a kid
I am envious. Low-ish energy (except when totally low), maybe 40lbs extra since many yearsā¦ I still couldnāt figure out how to eat little, itās not my style. Theoretically I know how, just things happen. Oh well.
I stubbornly hope in carnivore OMAD and at least a single longer fast per monthā¦ And exercise! I am getting stronger and itās very good news.
My SO is worried that he wonāt be able to lift my weighs. But if he would start, he could get stronger in no time, I am very weak, still a beginner and he is male and younger too But I want muscles more 
He only has muscular legs, his arms are as tiny as mine, just longer 