My spouse doesn't want me to lose weight!

(Lauren Malhoit) #1

So I’ve lost about 45 lbs in all. When I met my wife I was working out a lot, lifting weights mostly. Here we are, 4 years later, and I’m a little skinnier. She has gotten a little bigger, she’s not big by any means, but she gains weight in her stomach, like that flap. Her legs and arms are quite skinny.

Anyway, she told me she’s not attracted to how skinny I am, keep in mind I with 190lbs and I’m 5’ 8" so I’m not too skinny. I think she’s just feeling bad about herself. She wants to have surgery, but I asked her to try two months of fasting, 2 days a week for 24 hours.

Anyway… Help! I think surgery is not the answer, she thinks it is. She loves sugar. Which is why I’m encouraging fasting over keto.

(paddy0761) #2

There are risks with any surgery. That’s a good enough reason to try a non-invasive approach first. Then there is the cost. 5/2 fasting will save you money!

Fasting probably won’t help much on a high carb diet though. Plus, she won’t enjoy the sugar crashes, cravings and headaches that she’ll likely experience if she is not fat adapted first. It could actually be counterproductive if she is likely to give up easily.

When you say “surgery” are you meaning liposuction or bariatric?

#3

Did she listen to the most recent 2 keto dudes podcast? There were three women guests that had surgery…with very good advice.

(Lauren Malhoit) #4

Surgery meaning tummy tuck and maybe some lipo. She’s a little overweight, but only weighs maybe 150 lbs at 5’ 2" but she only gains in her stomach and it tends to hang over

(Karen Fricke) #5

If her arms and legs are quite skinny, and there is enough fat in her belly to hang over, that sounds like she is diabetic or close to it. That is the typical body shape. Has she seen a doctor and had her sugar checked?

(Larry Lustig) #6

Seriously?

Your wife wants liposuction from 150 pounds while simultaneously asking you to gain weight from 190? Before considering surgery, or even a change in diet, I might consider some therapy (couple or individual) to unpack where that’s coming from.