I’m struggling with my fibromyalgia, the heat and a very poorly bunny with another ill bunny… I didn’t get to sleep as much as I hoped on Saturday so I overslept Sunday… in my lethargy I didn’t go shopping until half three… with traffic I got to the supermarket at ten to four only to find it no longer closes at five (I might have even imagined it ever closing at five) so I made a mad dash to get the things I could think of, so desperate am I to start the Keto lifestyle that by the time I got home I had no energy to prepare anything for work, other than cook a bit of tikka chicken…
This morning I weighed myself and found the macro levels I should be on to maintain rather than loose until I am fat adjusted… I needed to eat over 2400 calories… I’m lucky if I ever eat 1000 unless I’m binge eating!!
I started well… 2 poached eggs, as that’s all the cafe offered at work on a Monday… then some nuts and come lunch time my plan of getting some food from the local shop just didn’t pan out… I got a pasty… I was still in my carb remit…
It was when I got home and saw how low my poorly bunny was that my plan to finish off my shopping was scuppered… I scooped him up and brought him out to my make shift front garden with grass on the street and left him to chill eating grass whilst I stayed in the cool shade of my house eating the rest of the pack of custard creams…
I am a failure… think bunny is for the rainbow bridge in few days… so I am resolving that making his last few days as comfortable as possible is more important than me changing my eating habits…
So it seems I am a failure and seeming possibly slightly crazy in some eyes…
But here is the thing… How the hell am I going to find a way to eat over 2500 calories ( I do a lot of walking and so my fitness pal adds the burnt calories to the calories you need to eat) when I’ve had years of cutting down fats and sugars unless I eat a sodding bar of lard a day… (ewwww) when I am really bad at actually eating in the first place… healthy or unhealthily…??? I’m a rather fussy eater too and more of a fruit eater than veg eater… AND I can’t enjoy a good fruit or herb cuppa and a spoon of honey… How has h9ney got so much carbs (I do know that answer…) I dispose having sweeteners as some are linked to health issues…
Sorry rant over…
My first day and I failed.. :(
Relax! You can still have a good first day on keto, just deal with the poor bunnies first, and then get organized. I’m really sorry that you are facing having to say good-bye soon; I keep pet rats, and it’s all-too-common an experience (had to put one to sleep last week, in fact). And I don’t know whether it’s worse if you don’t get much time with a beloved animal, or have to say good-bye after many years. I think it’s just really, really hard, no matter what. 
So take care of your animals, and then when you’re ready, get into the ketogenic diet. It shouldn’t be stressful, just lots of whole foods, no sweets, and green veg. Fry your meat in butter, tallow, or lard, put double cream in your scrambled eggs (fry them in the bacon grease, yum!), lots of gravy and cheese sauce made with double cream, put double cream in your coffee. (I really ought to try it in tea, just to see what happens.)
I don’t know where you got that calorie level, but don’t worry about it. The essence of a well-formulated ketogenic diet is as follows:
- Carbohydrate under 20 g/day (many people can tolerate more, but this is a good starting level).
- Moderate protein, not too much, not too little.
- Fat to satiety; i.e., eat till you’re no longer hungry, then stop. Don’t eat again until you are hungry again.
If you start out eating until you are satisfied, you may feel as though you are eating far too much, but in a week or three, your insulin level will have subsided enough to allow your brain to start hearing the leptin signal from your adipose tissue again, and your appetite will drop to a reasonable level. If you have excess fat to lose, your body will automatically set your appetite to allow it to burn all the fat you are eating, plus fat from your fat cells. If you are at a healthy weight, your body will set your appetite to give it all the energy it needs. This is why we recommend eating to satiety instead of counting calories. The body is set up to do this better than we are, so it makes sense to let it do its job.
As you cut out sweets your taste will change. I now enjoy unsweetened chocolate; last year it tasted too bitter to be edible. And every time I indulge in a “forbidden” treat, I now generally find it really oversweet.
So take heart, and be of good cheer—as far as a ketogenic diet is concerned, at any rate. I’m really sorry about your poor bunny and hope that in time the good memories will make the grief bearable. Ketosis is a good mood stabilizer; my mum died shortly after I went keto, and I really believe it helped make the strain of those days more manageable.
Oh boy, so here goes… I’m not gonna mince words with you because that’s not me and well, you need constructive criticism not nicely nice empty words.
Your self talk is garbage, get rid of it. We become what we think so you must visualize succeeding. This is my biggest piece of advice to you. So you had a rough day, big deal. One day out of the rest of your life. An all or nothing attitude will only serve your failure, not your success. Toss that attitude out, too.
Dispose of all foods that will hamper your succrsss. The first three weeks are crucial. So, those creams and pasty etc… those need to go out in the trash.
While the stress of your pets it sounds like is unavoidable, please… do not use them as a reason to stay stuck in this mode of eating. Take that sadness and stress and turn it into something positive. Now, as far as 24-2500 calories you better believe you can do it. A rib eye cooked in butter, eggs, bulletproof coffee avocados… track everything with a good app. Ok, I’m done. You can be angry with me but at least I’m trying to help the only way I know how. Now… breathe… start reading every article you can on here, continue to ask questions and push yourself. You can do this!
That’s the real message, isn’t it? Perhaps between us we got through. 
I am very sorry that your dealing with the probable loss of a beloved pet. Both @PaulL and @kiwado gave you excellent advice, so I’ll leave it at that
Thank you… it’s an app that was advised on here that I used to work out my macros… sadly I couldn’t use it to track what I ate cause it’s American and didn’t recognise the English products to moved to my fitness pal.
… I don’t like bacon… or coffee… looked up a chai latte which is apparently tea not coffee but it’s full of carbs… 
figured I could have used cream instead of milk in the latte…
Non minced words are good… thank you…
I don’t eat a lot of meat… which is where I’m gonna struggle… that rib eye… I’m sure it would be nice but not for me… bacon… not for me either… only meet I will really eat is chicken… I’ll eat some black pudding but that has carbs in it… and sausage…
I’ll eat minced lamb or beef… but usually in either lasagne or potatos… I don’t like burgers either… the flavour of meet is usually hidden in with the other flavours of the pie/pasta… I did say I was pretty fussy…
My poorly rabbits could well be an excuse, I am good at procrastination but I also need to have more energy… I’ve never been this low before… it’s will power over body and at the moment, I have to choose what I spend my spoons on (spoon theory if you think I’ve lost the plot talking about spoons)… I’m an holistic therapist so I should practice what I preach about the negativity… just so dissapointed in myself… I’ve been looking into Keto for over a month now assessing if I could really do it… and a flunked at the fist sodding hurdle… I have no more biscuits in the house… my freezer had to be emptied of all my food cause I stupidly left the door open for 24 hours… so there is nothing in there that could now tempt me to the ‘dark side’… just me…
Not sure if any of that last bit made sense… thank you for your advise. 
It’s ok to feel disappointed, it’s also ok to feel down but as one of the best people I k ow always tells me when I say something along the lines of “I feel, sad, lonely, disappointed etc” he tells me to “feel again” we are not our feelings. We have feelings. Acknowledge these feelings and let them pass on through, just don’t invite them to stay.
Everyone on this forum I can honestly say are incredible people. I am so in awe of how supportive and helpful they all are.
I do hope that you can just tweak your self talk and give yourself all the love and care you need right now. KCKO
You need to be better prepared and perhaps try new things, saying I don’t like this and that is probably what got you where you are in the first place. I never ate red meat because I was misinformed, now I’m chowing down on liver and hearts not because I like them but because they have the most nutrition (interestingly I have come to like it very much and it’s a meal I look forward to twice a week). Being a fussy eater will always be an excuse if you don’t become more adventurous with your nutrition.
I also am not a big eater but eating 2500 calories on Keto is very easy if you adhere to the high fat content. For example, 100grams of butter = 717 calories, 100 grams of cream = 368 calories, 100 mills of oil olive = 884 calories, that’s almost 2000 calories and we haven’t even started cooking yet. Obviously you wouldn’t use all of that in one day but my point is to not fear fat, it’s your best bet if you are not able to eat large meal portions like me.
Sorry to read about your bunny, but don’t make him the excuse for staying in bad habits, your bunny is eating grass as it should, let him be your inspiration and follow his lead. Nonetheless, welcome to the forum hopefully we can help you through your transition if you decide you can stomach it.
ETA I almost forgot PARMESAN CHEESE 100 Grams = 431 calories, add it to everything.
Before eating Keto, I didn’t find meat to be very palatable either. As I continue down this path, I’ve found my tastes changing more than I would have believed.
Try some options to find what you like. Eat chicken and add a fatty sauce. Try eggs scrambled with extra yolks and/or heavy cream. Add some cheese. Try some lower carb sausages, see if you find any you like. I make tuna salad, chicken salad, or egg salad with plenty of mayo and flavorful add ins (pickles, green olives, sharp cheddar cubes, and celery or water chestnuts for crunch). I like deli ham roll-ups made with cream cheese. I love Boar’s Head sandwich style pepperoni from the deli. I love olives, avocados, macadamia nuts and pecans. I snack on cucumber slices drenched in blue cheese dressing. I make steamed broccoli with melted butter (or browned butter, which is lovely and nutty tasting). I’ll make a big salad with cucumbers, avocado, hard boiled eggs and blue cheese dressing (and a squeeze of lemon juice and fresh cracked pepper). I make ground beef and add a little sautéed onion and lots of mushrooms. I’ll have low carb meatballs with a sauce made from heavy cream, mushrooms and a bit of worchestershire sauce. I make a low carb chicken cordon bleu casserole which is easy and really tasty. I have a recipe for a Keto Fluff which is high fat, sugar free and tastes like a fluffy, no-bake cheesecake. Really good alone or with a few low carb berries. I like a slice of a nice sharp cheddar, with some butter spread on it. I’ve begun to enjoy a nice bunless cheese burger and steak cooked medium well (instead of extra well done) and some melted garlic butter.
When you give this way of eating a chance and start to see the benefits, I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how your tastes change over time. You might begin to focus on all the wonderful foods you can enjoy and spend less time thinking about the foods that you are eliminating.
I wish you well!
I’m not a therapist, I just play one in my living room, but I’m going to say this:
Sometimes we can get addicted to drama. Ranting and raving and throwing a tantrum about our life’s confinement and impossibility and sorrow … it’s like we flip it over and feel a sense of power from our rage over being powerless. That keeps us stuck, playing a furious, heartbroken tape about how “we can’t” in order to feel that rush and reassurance.
Take some deep breaths, if it’s time to go to sleep do that for yourself, and let go. You can do this.
Right now, today, you can eat a more keto friendly diet just by avoiding carbs. No, it’s not the “perfection” you’re seeking, with macro charts and calorie counts and guaranteed ketosis. It’s a step in the right direction while you Actually Deal With Your Life. Keto isn’t going anywhere, and it will be waiting for you.
You CAN do this. 
You’ve had some great advice. When I think how I started it was by first giving up anything with sugar in it. Then I learned what foods turn into sugar when we digest them. So I gave up anything which contained flour. That went on for a month or so. Then I got serious and the rice and carby veg went and out came the keto sticks and I’m in ketosis and I haven’t dropped out since.
All my life I have either been dieting or stuffing my face because I’ve either broken my diet or I am about to diet. The about to diet phase can go on for many months because… I have a social event coming up…christmas is close…I’m unwell…a family member is unwell…I’m stressed…someone else is stressed…a pet is unwell…i can’t be arsed etc etc.
I’ve been 99.9% good for 6 months. Trust me this has never happened before in my 60 odd years. You can do this. Just sort your head out first because it is all about your head!! Good luck
Well said! I agree completely…focus on what you CAN have, start with what you love, and branch out. Get creative. Experiment. That’s so much fun!
Hi. STOP!! ditch the negative self talk and give yourself a break!!
I too have fibro and It. Is. Nasty! Keto has changed my life … and it will yours. I have a senior dog not far off travelling over the rainbow bridge (poo, wee, vomit everywhere a and mainly at night… yuck) so my hours of rest and sleep are kaput ! Rest when you can… eat bacon and eggs… have cream in coffee… it’s all Good! I’ve got more info ( helpful websites etc) if you’d like. Can you pm me… I’m here for you 