My ex didn't recognize me?


(Steve) #1

I walk every day in the park. Today (being such a gorgeous day here (15C/59F)…hopefully the end of winter!!) there was a huge number of people strolling in the park. I saw approaching me my ex and her current boyfriend (they’ve been together over 2 years now) and we’ve always been amicable. I had a different jacket and sunglasses on, but I was smiling at her as we walked towards each other…saw her scanning the landscape, her eye’s flicked by me twice, but nadda. :open_mouth:
Heh. This was a woman I had dated for about 3 years! I mean…I’m likely about 20 pounds lighter than when we dated, but…wow!! :smiley:

Heh…no, I didn’t say anything…I just kept walking…a little dumbfounded!! :slight_smile:

Closing in on being down 50 pounds!!! :slight_smile:


#2

Cute story.

Had that recently with my backyard neighbor. We are not friends but are neighbors for 15 years. When my oldest was in K we spent a year waiting for the bus together every morning (then we changed schools). Now one of my dogs has been annoying lately (barking at night) so I wonder if she is simply upset. I do not see her much but we say hello periodically. I had a long conversation with her two years ago when our kids were waiting for college results and it turns our kids had applied to mostly the same schools.

I saw her recently at Trader Joe’s, first time I had ever seen her there, at first I tried to walk past her but it became unavoidable so I said, Hi Emily and she said hello but gave me this look to say, do I know you? So then I asked how Kevin was enjoying Harvard (not really but do not want to say where he is), and then about her other kids by name, she said fine, but did not ask me how my son was faring at Yale (again not really! but privacy). Given that she is very polite I really have to wonder. She did not use my name either. It was all very strange. Wonder if she has early dementia or something? She is tall, thin and athletic but did have a bout with cancer a few years ago. Was watching a show on dementia on Dr. Oz and that was what the woman in her 40s or 50s said used to happen, people would ask how her daughter was doing on the track team and she had no idea who they were or how they knew her but they obviously did. I honestly do not think I look that different (about 50 lbs less than the last time I saw her) and my hair is the same. My older daughter said that when we were shopping and she looked down the aisle she did not realize it was me at first because my shape was not the same


(Steve) #3

Yeah, I think that’s it. I know I’ve lost some weight on my neck (along with other places), so it just must not have registered as she was scanning people. :slight_smile:

Makes me wonder - I remember years ago running into some people from high school and they couldn’t remember me (even though we had socialized a LOT), heh, the lack of hair being a biggie as well. :wink:
I wonder as I get closer to the way I used to look if I won’t end up running into more people from back then as they recognize me more.


(Rob) #4

I went to see a friend yesterday and cycled over to his house, unannounced. I was a MAMIL (Middle Aged Man In Lycra) in cycling clothes, sweaty (hot day), and carrying my helmet, gloves etc. so I was a bit of a mess but when his wife came to the door you could see her think “who is this beardy, sweaty guy… I didn’t expect any deliveries”.

She hadn’t seen me for 55 lbs so it was understandable and she did recognize me soon after that but it’s interesting to see yourself though others’ eyes.


#5

Had this happen to me recently. Was at a class for my kid and another mom i know well walked past me and stood in front of me, no acknowledgement. So I said hi Jill and she turned around and said she was shocked she did not recognize me. So weird. Someone just posted a picture of me and I think I look the same but older, more wrinkles. Awesome!


(You've tried everything else; why not try bacon?) #6

Bob, I just had to tell you: What a great way of putting it! :bacon: :slight_smile: