This topic is much on my mind lately. I started in May and am thrilled with 55# weight loss but even more thrilled with changed in my mood/thinking/energy and ability to stay on track with this WOE. I have another 75 to lose but I’m invested in this new WOE and will be fine with however long it takes. I am 55 and have many aging friends and family members who are struggling with issues from obesity, colitis, depression, to dementia. I also have a sibling who is a physician, another a nutritionist, and a third is a nurse practitioner. In my family they are the “experts” despite their own struggles with metabolic syndrome to various degrees.
The past few months I’ll admit that I have been a bit obsessed, my free time is full with reading, watching youtube videos, experimenting with recipes, etc. As you all may know, it is a huge switch from the SAD/ lowfat, healthy wholegrain calorie counting lifestyle that I’ve followed since I was a teenager (and got me to 300# with out of control cravings and low self esteem for my poor success). I don’t think my friends and family understand how huge this is. I find myself purposefully not sharing this part of my life and its weird to have this secret thing I’m doing that is so groundbreaking for me. I have learned to keep it on the down low because the fear of fat is so strong - butter in coffee - how weird/ fadish/ dangerous is that - is what I feel they are thinking.
Now I feel I have found the answer and solution to my issues and have learned so much in the process that I would absolutely love to share with those I love. My eldest sister is 300+# in her 60’s despite WLS and is miserable. My Dad, a real sugar baby, has extreme short term memory loss (but no weight issues). My co-workers and family have observed these changes in my eating style, weight loss, and in my not wanting to partake in the sugary, starchy things that are on offer. Some have asked and I have tried to explain but it is hard to put all I have learned into a short conversation. Then I will hear “that doesn’t sound healthy” from someone whose diet is extremely carby, has a husband with huge dangerous belly, a child with depression, and her own condition of crohn’s, fatigue etc.
I just feel like I have found a victory and I want to share it! Its killing me when I see their struggles and I know this could help.
I tried to help my Dr. sister, 30# overweight, all in her belly - she half tried it and 2 weeks later said “it didn’t work”, she was starting her day with rice cakes and almond butter! The conversation with her was not good. She said she was hungry all the time. I suggested that her insulin might be causing that and knowing she might be able to have her labs run, I asked if she had had her insulin checked. I got alot of push back. She “does not have metabolic syndrome” (unsaid - that’s me - the one with 100 # to lose). Its “probably a malfunction of ghrelin/ leptin” Granted she has been a physician for 30 years but she is fully in the medicate the condition camp and isn’t up on recent research. At this point, I don’t think its a road we can go down but I know if she were to read some of the research by Eenfeldt, Westman, Volk/Phinney and others as I have, she might change her mind and possibly encourage my Mom to help my Dad reduce his carb intake.
And then there is my eldest sister and youngest sister both who have had WLS and are in the process of gaining it all back…My eldest sister is so uncomfortable (and probably in mortal danger) with being out of breath, sleep apnia, not fitting into seats, bad knees etc,etc. I am so scared for her and know she’d feel better on Keto.
My youngest sister is still down from pre WLS weight but I can tell is massively struggling and I want to save her from the pain. I feel weight regain from major weight loss is close to one of the most soul destroying things that can happen to a person - based on my 80 lb regain of a 120 weight loss (and that wasn’t the first time, the other time it was 90 lbs and got me to the new high of 300#). I exercised and monitered my foods like a fiend until uncontrollable cravings got the better of me. I regained and desperately fought it for 5 years before I found Keto, at one point only weeks away from WLS (went through all the preop work but it never felt right and I backed out). I know now what caused the cravings and don’t blame myself but I do regret not getting better information. My experience and knowledge from years of this fight should have some use!
Thanks for listening to my troubles - it so frustrating!