Help Wife Losing too Much

(Vic) #1

ok so for me I started because I needed to lose weight and found health benefits

However, for my wife, she didn’t really need to lose weight just because she was getting these shakes from time to time that we suspected was suger drops she went on diet and it worked

However, she is losing too much weight and does not eat as much meat as I do and she has more carbs then I do 20 to 30 a day

are there things she can eat that will help the main thing she says is she is just not hungry but also these is not a lot that she will have around that she can grab without to much work

She has a lot more of a sweet tooth then I do and I don’t know how to help her because she is so difrent eating wise then I am

#2

She needs to just eat more overall, or up carbs until weight loss stops. Upping protein helps many stay full longer, hard when you’re not eating enough meat. Protein shakes may be an easy work around.

(Vic) #3

Finding things she can eat more is the issue she is getting full on less She lost 6 lbs last week without trying Not every week is like that many are just one or 2 but she ate more last week and lost more

Having a hard time finding things she can eat for Bfast quick and easy We have an autistic child its hard to cook for every meal I do Hard boil eggs and have bacon prepared the night before she won’t do that though she won’t eat many eggs especially hard-boiled

Protein shake might be good for AM though

(Michael - When reality fails to meet expectations, the problem is not reality.) #4

I faced the same situation. I unintentionally started keto with a 1000 calorie daily deficit. I did not feel hungry and started losing weight/fat immediately. I eventually lost a total of about 35 pounds over about six months before I stabilized. First, I got serious about tracking food and calories. That’s what enabled me to determine I was eating a huge calorie deficit. To stop the loss I started eating more overall. And yes, I sometimes ate when I didn’t want to, but never to the point of discomfort. Over time I increased my daily calorie intake gradually. When I got to 2500 per day, my weight stabilized at 145 pounds. I’ve been there for 3+ years now. I found it very interesting that during those months of calorie deficit I felt absolutely no hunger at any time. About a year after stabilizing at 2500 calories I got a full-time job at Walmart. Within two weeks my weight dropped again. So I stabilized by upping my calories to 2700 per day. That’s where I am now. Actually I remain stable in a window from about 2500 - 2800 calories. As long as I stay within that window such that I average close to 2700 over the course of several days, my weight remains stable. If I eat below the window for several days I’ll start to lose, if above for several days I’ll start to gain. Again, I experience no hunger no matter how much I eat or don’t eat. Some mornings I’ll feel slight hunger that goes away quickly. Occasionally, I feel slight hunger before meals that goes away very quickly. Since hunger is no use to me, I measure, weigh and track my food to make sure I stay within my window.

(Vic) #5

She is tough though because she is a mother of a special needs child and a lot on her plate besides hard to get her to keep goo track

That is why it is so hard for me to help her she is so different in that way

I do data I track cals for info purposes I track everything probably in every area of buis dieting and most other things as well She is opposite in that she nevr has an idea where she is at except for a good guesstimate on carbs

To me tracking is natural in fact its hard not to track, For her is near impossible she is opposite in that way

Though i have some ideas form this thread might help

(Michael - When reality fails to meet expectations, the problem is not reality.) #6

PS: I started keto at the age of 71 and I’m now 75. I am 6’0" and weight 145 pounds, which was my weight during the last year of high school and then through college and afterwards for several years. I have always been lean, not muscular, and physically active. I was a distance runner during both high school and college. I never had any problems with weight until my 60s when I started gaining slowly over the decade until I got to about 180 pounds.

PPS:

Sometimes you have to do things you don’t want to do and discipline yourself to do them - or you’re just inviting failure. Guesstimating is just another word for wishful thinking. Also, I’d dump the carbs. They serve no useful purpose and getting them out of the equation might stimulate hunger hormones to correct functioning.

#7

Eat a bit more carbs maybe…just start slowly…maybe nuts…berries…dairy

(UsedToBeT2D) #8

Unwanted weight loss may be a sign of serious health issue. Have her see a doctor.

#9

If it’s due to eating too little, she should eat more. She doesn’t necessarily need tracking or eating anything like you but she needs to eat properly for sure. One way or another. It’s up to her, we actually can do very little if it’s about someone else’s diet (except if the other person is a small child or very dependent on the food we prepare for them)…
I doubt she lost 6 pounds of fat in a week unless she barely ate while being very active, maybe… But if she loses just 1-2 lbs and she can’t afford that, that is a problem, of course. She needs to eat more. It doesn’t even matter if she gets hungry, I am almost never hungry when eating my meal, it’s not a required thing, at least to me. But if her current food choices are just too satiating, it’s an option to change the food choices (I usually use this when I have problems with my energy intake longer term) - or maybe the frequency of meals if that is possible. If I add an extra meal, I can eat way more. I may be not hungry when I sit down to eat but I get hungry after some bites.
It’s usually easy to add some fat to every meal… Drinking calories may help too… If sweets help her, well, eat more sweets if that sounds a good idea to her… I would choose sweets over carbs for sure but I don’t know how important very low-carb is for her.

Food without much work? There are zillion options, I don’t know her taste and restrictions. I eat some cheese or smoked pork and boiled egg or something. I can make food in bigger amounts and eat it for a longer time… I eat sour cream as dessert… Even a luxurious coffee can boost calories… I keep various meats and cheese at home to have variety so I always can find something nice to grab without work.

(Robin) #10

I rarely have a sweet tooth… BUT… when I do, I make concoction of cream cheese, full fat yogurt, cocoa powder and some stevia drops. Blend it together. tastes like pudding and quite satisfying. Adds some calories but few carbs.b Plus, YUMMO!

(Robin) #11

First, hats off to your wife. Her head is in the daily care of your child, and her needs only come in to play when she has the time and energy to focus on herself. (Been there.) It sounds like you are truly supportive and understanding. Perhaps you can have her make a list of the foods she wishes were available (and already prepared) for her. Then maybe you can make that happen. The rest is in her hands. But kudos to you, dad, for reaching out on her behalf.