Jennifer, this is just my take on how I try to live my life, so take from it what you will. To me, ANY time spent doing something you don’t enjoy is time wasted. Our lives are too short and you never know when it’ll be cut shorter. Granted, I still do laundry, cleaning, work, etc, but those are necessities. If I could figure out a way to make laundry joyful, I would!
Eating is life. You should enjoy it. I also totally understand wanting to lose weight. I’m in that process now, too! But I also know that the stricter I am and the harder I work (without enjoying it), the more stressed I am and the more I watch the clock (whether it’s by the day or week, etc). Did you know that STRESS raises cortisone levels and higher cortisone levels lead to weight gain?
Weight loss needs to take time. That means you should be enjoying your life while you do it. I get the impression from your post (following to a T), that you’re a bit of a perfectionist and you want to make this happen NOW. Again, I can relate! But it truly doesn’t work that way.
If you’re not enjoying the weight training, then stop. Find something else you like to do. If you do like it, then quit expecting it to “give” you something other than more endurance, better defined muscles, increased bone density, better overall health. In other words, ENJOY THE PROCESS.
Same for keto. Maybe quit thinking that you’re following it to a T, being strict, etc and NOT getting the results others get, but instead think about how much you’re enjoying the food and how you feel better. You’re NOT those other people. You don’t know their situation. I’ve been doing keto now for about 5 weeks and I can feel a smidge of difference in my clothes. Stretchy pants that used to hug like crazy have some wrinkles. I haven’t a clue if the scales have gone down because I didn’t weigh in the beginning, didn’t take progress pics. BTW, 5 weeks to SEE progress is a bit unrealistic, too!
I’d also suggest you do what I’m doing. QUIT expecting/watching for results. Give it a certain, reasonable time frame (I’m using March 1st) to work so you’re not looking at the minutiae of every day or week. But that means you have to be enjoying the process! I like the food, I like skipping meals, I like eating bacon.
So I’m ok giving this time…