Comments from people saying “you’ve lost enough”

(Alec) #1

Anybody else have this problem? For whatever reason this week I have had 4 people all tell me that I have lost enough and I shouldn’t lose any more. Nice problem to have, I know!

I know I am at least 8-10kg away from the weight I want to be, so I am ignoring them, and KCKO.

However, is there a point in the CW that people think you just don’t look right if you’ve lost too much weight in their eyes? I am still classed as overweight on the BMI scale, so I still have plenty of fat to lose!! I think it may be that my face is starting to look a bit droopy! :crazy_face:

Thought I would share my (nice to have) current keto problem!
Cheers
Alec

#2

Yes, one of my relatives keeps harping on me to stop losing and start maintaining. I happen to think I need to still lose another 20 pounds, even though she disagrees.

(Raj Seth) #3

Are they

  • skinnier than you? Who gave them an exclusive on being slim?
  • chubbier than you? Be sensitive to their insecurities!
#4

^ this one

(Vladaar Malane) #5

Yeah, I hear that too. However, I could give a damn what others say. I think part of it is they have a perception of you in their mind and you don’t look like that perception anymore and it bothers them. That and sometimes people also have envy such as they don’t want you looking better or as good as they do.

(Felix) #6

Yup. Really annoying coming from people who don’t know me well enough to make personal comments like that. They didn’t say anything when i was overweight, miserable and unhealthy, and they can stay quiet when I’m at a healthy weight and much happier and full of energy.

Close family who care, I’ll listen to. (But I still want to get rid of those last large-seeming fat reserves. Grr.) The range of “healthy” weight for my height is huge, 40lbs. I can play within that and it’s no one else’s business, really.

(Felix) #7

Exactly. It’s like they had me listed as “large fat person” in their heads, and now I don’t match that. It’s ok, really, I can change categories and be just fine.

(LeeAnn Brooks) #8

This may sound pessimistic, but I feel that many people try to sabbatage others weight loss journeys, and saying things like “you’ve lost enough. You don’t need to diet anymore,” especially when it’s acvompanied by an invitation to a donut or some other bad food is one way they do it. While I don’t know they do it as an intentional ploy to get you to gain the weight back, it is non the less, an act of sabgatage. Even family joking can have this effect. Last year at Thanksgiving, some of my family members thought it was funny to keep adding food to my plate. It was a joke. Ha ha. Except I really didn’t find it funny. I finally said “this isn’t what support looks like.” Of course I was a sore sport who had lost my sense of humor along with the pounds, but I had had it. I was low fat at the time and it was such a struggle. They all knew my yo-yo journey and I found it rather insensitive.

Ah… family and holidays. Aren’t they grand?

(Charlotte) #9

People always have something to say about other peoples’ appearance, don’t they? I say focus on your health and your own goals and what you want to see in the mirror, and let them focus on their own bodies. You’re doing this for you, and you don’t owe it to anyone else to look the way they think you should look.

(Vladaar Malane) #10

LoL, it’s like how smokers try to lure former smokers back into smoking. Psst, come here, I got a cigarette for you. I don’t smoke never did, but if I did and a smoker tried that with me, I would be tempted to smack the crap out of them. I have seen that happen at work, not the latter, but I think your sentencing someone to death nearly, by trying to get them to smoke again. Perhaps you could say the same by someone trying to get a former diabetic to eat crappy again?

At the end of the day we are all adults and responsible for our own decisions, but I think it’s a crappy thing to do none the less.

(Kaiden) #11

I may have figured out my mother-in-law. She keeps telling me I’m not fat. I am quite fat, but, I no longer have a round belly. I have an oversized, but square, belly.

I also have sexy legs from the knee down. I’ll have to see how she reacts to me in shorts.

#12

AAARRRGGGGHH… this is so frustrating! I am new to the Keto life ( <3 weeks ) and all my friends and co-workers KNOW the struggle I’ve had trying to lose weight the last 3 years with other diets (I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been and menopausal) .Yet when we go out to eat they don’t understand why I don’t order a drink , or try the dessert. They keep saying " oh, one bite won’t hurt you", or “you can be good tomorrow” , or " you’re no fun any more". I try to tell them eating any kind of carb will set me back days or maybe weeks, and i haven’t worked this hard to blow it in one night. I CAN’T wait to get the comments ‘I’ve lost too much’… then i will know I’ve made it hahaha .
edit: I should also note that when i would order a dessert I could see the look on their faces that said ‘this is why you can’t lose weight’

(Chad Hester) #13

I get that comment from my mom all the time. For some reason she likes it when I “have weight” on me. I try to explain to her that the “weight” is killing me. She just wants me to look healthy and not too skinny. Since when does fat look healthy? I just keep on doing me and ignore it. It’s my temple, I will build it up the way I see fit. Pun intended. :stuck_out_tongue:

(Alec) #14

Maryann
10 months ago I was where you are now. I have lost my excess weight because I found fasting and keto, and I stuck with it. It is the first time in my life I have lost weight effortlessly. I am amazed how easy it has been for me.

It won’t necessarily be easy for you (everyone seems to have a different experience), but I promise you this stuff works. Just stick to the plan and KCKO. You have found the way to success.
Cheers
Alec

(Allie) #15

I get those comments and ignore them.

(Robert C) #16

People have all sorts of positive and negative motivations for telling you “you’ve lost enough”.

Instead, I would listen to the one that matters - your own body.

Specifically, not your brain’s opinion either - just your body.

Your brain may want a certain look in the mirror or have a goal of a number from high school but, I would still let your body be the guide.

If you are on a great keto maintenance plan and always eating to satiety and have lost weight down to within 5 or 10 pounds of where your brain wants to be but now your body is fighting you to keep what it has - might be best to stay on maintenance. Why risk slowing metabolism, yo-yo-ing or worse hacking away at the last bit - especially if it is a continual fight to keep it.

(Chris) #17

“Thanks for the complement, still working toward my goal.”

(Lesley) #18

I got my 78-year-old mother onto Keto (9 months or so ago) because she has had IBS the last 30 years or more and memory problems a bit beyond being just age-related. Memory is vastly better now and IBS has gone. In the process, she has lost around 24lbs.

She goes out once in a while with “girl-friends” for a meal and I was shocked to hear that they had been on at her for a second time about how she has lost too much and is looking drawn and even one of them had the cheek to point out that she had lost her chest. Like WTF. She tells them repeatedly that she is doing this for health reasons and not because of appearances. She didn’t tell me this at first and was trying to eat more for a while until I asked her why she is trying to sabotage her own progress. She says she doesn’t care but obviously, she did care about what they had been saying.

Both of the other women are VERY over-weight and care very much about their appearance and always starting and stopping diets. Mum without the weight on her face does have a few wrinkles now that she didn’t have before but other than that I think she looks fantastic. I really am very cross with them for going on at her at all, let along saying it again. What they want her to do… pig out on some doughnuts. Sigh. Oh and yes they are always trying to push a sweet dessert on her when they are out too.

(Alec) #19

Chris
Spot on, and this is my consistent answer. But it does make me think a bit… no bad thing!
Cheers
Alec

(Alec) #20

Rob
An interesting insight. I think this is where I am right now. I want more weight loss, but my body is saying no, and I am trying to force it.

A timely message for me, Rob. I will let go a bit and see what my body wants to do next. But obviously in the context of keto.
Cheers
Alec