What helps me at holidays is I go into them knowing that I am not going to take even one bite of something that is not on plan. Didn’t congregate last year because of Covid, but two years ago, I hosted and made turkey, cole slaw and some steamed brussels sprouts in butter. My family members brought the traditional sides they wanted (stuffing, mashed potatoes, yams that are basically all butter and sugar, desserts, etc.). They commented on my plate, but I didn’t care. I enjoyed my meal and was satisfied. I have found with my food addiction that I have complete and comfortable control, as long as I don’t take that first bite. I just won’t go there. For appetizers, I prepared an assortment of things or people brought them, and I only ate some cheese and pepperoni. I don’t fear the holidays anymore. It’s not a problem.