WOW - look great.... BUT DON'T GO LOSING MORE WEIGHT!

#22

My daughter in law told me a few weeks ago that I looked much healthier after losing weight this time compared to when I lost it other times. That’s good----I think???

#23

I’d say that’s very good. I suspect that’s the subtleties that I’m talking about. Do you mind telling us what you used before to lose weight?

I love your user name!

(Vladaar Malane) #24

I get this often…

You don’t need to lose anymore.

Really I respond, I lift up my shirt and show them my spare tire around my stomach. It’s fairly easy to look thin in clothes with your shirt concealing a spare tire.

Then I generally get the response well your in your 40’s now man, that comes with the territory, don’t fight it. If I feel argumentative too, I might bring up the height to weight bodyweight chart as well. Although admittedly it is very outdated in that it doesn’t account for muscle mass, it does show that I am overweight.

LoL, I don’t know that I am fighting it per say, but I enjoy the keto lifestyle and I fully expect that spare tire to burn off over the next few years.

#25

Just smile and nod. It’s usually overweight relatives telling people not to lose more weight or even gossiping that they’re anorexic.

(Lorraine) #26

This has happened to me with only one person. A dear friend of 28 years. We only get together about once a month, so I know my weight loss may seem more drastic, since she doesn’t see me everyday, but I was really shocked when she said, “You have lost enough! It’s time to stop. You do NOT need to lose any more weight!”

My sister was there at the time and later asked, “You aren’t going to listen to her, are you? Because you look good, but if you want to lose more weight, that’s up to you.” I assured her I was not going to listen and would continue to what I consider to be my ideal goal.

I was a little shocked that she came off as so harsh. Actually, this is the second time that friend has said those same words, so it’s not like she just didn’t think before she spoke and it “came out all wrong”. I suppose there may be a little jealousy behind it, but I have known her for many years and I don’t think she means to be unkind.

I know that she had lost a lot of weight once and I felt a little left behind and self conscious that I was not making any progress at weight loss and she was doing great. But I sucked it up and was happy for her and encouraging. I trust she will come around and get used to me being one of her skinny friends instead of one of her fat friends.

I suspect that any time a peer succeeds at something we aspire to and fail at, there are always some kind of negative emotions involved.

(Taleisha Collins) #27

Oh that sucks!

Counter threaten them … “Ok, but I get to clear out all the carbs from your pantry, and you have to eat like me for a month” lol … maybe not practical, but wouldn’t it feel good? hehe

(Jane) #28

:rofl:

Only fair, since they are telling us how to eat!!!

(Taleisha Collins) #29

I am blessed that our family is on board … my mother in law even asked for a recipe I made so that she has it when we come to visit :slight_smile: As I said … blessed.

#30

Great idea :slight_smile:
I would take so much pleasure in doing so haha!