A lot of people are saying it’s societal, but in my experience it’s straight up jealousy.
Here’s why: I notice a definate positive difference in the way I’m received by strangers when I’m small vs when I’m heavy. This was VERY noticeable when I was going to college, but I still see and feel it now.
Just the other day I had a stranger overhear I was doing Keto and decided to put her two cents in on how “dangerous” it was, but that was directed at her misconceptions of the WOE, not towards me. If someone is clueless about how I eat and is just reacting to me, they are more engaging and friendly when I am small. Maybe it’s feeding off my own confidence, but it’s still palpable.
Yet people who know me and have seen me in both stages are the ones who give me flack. Not everyone of course. There are plenty of people who are genuinely supportive of my weight loss. But there’s also lots that say “you’ve lost enough” and “don’t lose any more, you’re getting too skinny.” Or the worst, “come on, you can have a donut. It’s not going to kill you.”
And I’ve even had family members try to sneak food onto my plate. Not out of concern that I’m actually under eating mind you. But because they found it funny. Like would you sneak whisky into someone’s drink if you knew they were a recovering alcoholic? Or blow smoke in an ex smokers face? Maybe I just have crappy family members?
Anyway, it’s made me a bit cynical about this topic. When strangers treat you better because you’ve lost weight but people you know treat you worse, thats not society believing we should have more meat on our bones. That’s people being jealous of other’s successes.