A lot of people are saying itās societal, but in my experience itās straight up jealousy.
Hereās why: I notice a definate positive difference in the way Iām received by strangers when Iām small vs when Iām heavy. This was VERY noticeable when I was going to college, but I still see and feel it now.
Just the other day I had a stranger overhear I was doing Keto and decided to put her two cents in on how ādangerousā it was, but that was directed at her misconceptions of the WOE, not towards me. If someone is clueless about how I eat and is just reacting to me, they are more engaging and friendly when I am small. Maybe itās feeding off my own confidence, but itās still palpable.
Yet people who know me and have seen me in both stages are the ones who give me flack. Not everyone of course. There are plenty of people who are genuinely supportive of my weight loss. But thereās also lots that say āyouāve lost enoughā and ādonāt lose any more, youāre getting too skinny.ā Or the worst, ācome on, you can have a donut. Itās not going to kill you.ā
And Iāve even had family members try to sneak food onto my plate. Not out of concern that Iām actually under eating mind you. But because they found it funny. Like would you sneak whisky into someoneās drink if you knew they were a recovering alcoholic? Or blow smoke in an ex smokers face? Maybe I just have crappy family members?
Anyway, itās made me a bit cynical about this topic. When strangers treat you better because youāve lost weight but people you know treat you worse, thats not society believing we should have more meat on our bones. Thatās people being jealous of otherās successes.