Was I that Freaking Fat !@×@

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(Ashish Khandelwal) #1

So i was 86 Kgs in Aug 2018. Typical pot bellied male 48 year old with jeans size of 34. That is when I started my IF and Keto journey. Have been disciplined about 90% of the days.

Now when I started I thought that if I become 76 kgs I will be at my ideal weight…I never thought that I was more than 10 kgs overweight. Now I did reach 76 and size 32 jeans in 3 months. However i realized that I was still overweight…Now I thought I probably needed to lose another 4 to 5 kgs.

Come December I was now at 71 kgs and size 30 Jeans (slim fit). I now realized that i still needed to lose another 3 kgs to get rid of the paunch.

Now in March I am now at 67 kgs and I still have a small paunch so I think I still need to lose another 3 to 4 kgs. Will the same story repeat when I am 64 kgs !!! Darn…I have bought 2 new wardrobes and most stuff is already loose. Of course , I have become vain…and love wearing well fitting clothes now.

To cut a long story short I had never thought I was 25 kgs overweight. We live in such illusions.

By the way…My shirt size has changed from L comfort fit to size S slim fit

(Stickin' with mammoth) #2

Whoops. I did NOT intend to “like” this, I hit the wrong button while I was thinking about replying.

Now that I’m here, I might as well say that I find the wording of your post disappointing. Fat shaming yourself for weighing a certain amount–and by extension others who weigh that much and perhaps more–is not constructive nor supportive. There are folks in here who have beat life-threatening illnesses while dropping hundreds of pounds to turn their entire life around.

Something to think about while you’re shopping for pants.

(Alec) #3

I would love to be 86kgs and a 34 pant size. That’s my target!! :joy:

In fact, I have given up weighing, and am just going on how I feel, and how fast I can run! :grinning:

(Ashish Khandelwal) #4

I don’t think I am fat shaming myself or anyone else. And by no means am I reducing the gravity on anyone’s health issues. I have myself reversed my pre diabetes and markedly reduced my Cholestrol levels and BP issues. The post is bit humour of how I underestimated my own level of being fat. And yes…to an extent I am showing off a bit…but i guess the point of this forum is also to highlight your achievements to inspire others. These are thoughts that come to my mind and I have shared them. Sorry that this post disappoints you

(Stickin' with mammoth) #5

You’ll do great, Alec. Focus on all the incremental successes along the way, especially the health stuff. Keeps you in a winning frame of mind.

#6

I feel the same way…i lost 16kg and I shiver whenever I think that I was, just like you said, that freaking fat. You always lie to yourself that it’s “just a few kilos…” I started with 80kg (i’m a 175cm tall woman) and I thought 70kg was my goal weight as I was never very thin, anyway; however, the weight just keep dropping and now I’m at a comfortable 64kg.

I understand how you feel…
I dont understand, however, why this “fat shaming yourself” is such a bad thing…maybe I feel like it’s a phrase thrown around? The majority of us are here to lose weight or we have lost the weight and wish to maintain. We decided to lose the weight because it’s unhealthy and/or we didn’t feel good in our own skin. You need to “fat shame” yourself to get into the right head-space to start making better choices. I was unhappy, I fet chubby, I felt bad, I felt shame, I felt “who cares” and then I fel bad some more…we need to get angry, we need to get the ball rolling. It takes courage and guts to do what we’re doing and THIS is what’s important. You should always remember where we came from, even if it’s with shame, because that means you never want to go back to that.

(Stickin' with mammoth) #7

I figured it out: The little dots that say “Show more” when you roll over them DO NOT show more, they add an unwanted like.

(Natasha) #8

Congratulations! :grinning:

I think you’re right about not realising or seeing our true size. Body dysmorphia… I have lost 60lb but when I look in the mirror I honestly can’t see any difference - I l’ook’ the way I always ‘look’ (whether that is 60lbs heavier than today or 100lb lighter than today) which is crazy. It’s only when I compare photographs that I can see any difference in size.

(bulkbiker) #9

Really… you think that post was fat shaming? I disagree completely.
And anyway if I want to say I was a fat bastard when I started how does that imply judgement of anyone else? It’s simply the truth… I was.
Now, according to BMI, I still am although now only overweight rather than morbidly obese as I used to be.

(Lazy, Dirty Keto 😝) #10

Congrats on your progress so far! That’s a huge victory (pun intended since you like a little humor :wink::joy:)

Bonus points for pics!

(Daisy) #11

I think that’s amazing and didn’t see any fat shaming in your post. Great job!!!

(PSackmann) #12

Congratulations on the weight and size lost. One caution, your body will re-distribute fat over the next year or so, that “paunch” may just need to shift around as your body gets adjusted to your new lower weight. Don’t get into the mindset of having to lose more and more, our self-body-image can be terribly skewed

(Raj Seth) #13

I didn’t see that post as fat shaming. It seems more of a self realization that OP was sharing. Our concept of what is normal weight and body fat has been skewed by decades of increasing obesity.

While others may tell ketonians “you look great”, “you don’t need to lose any more”, etc, I think its best to let your body be the judge of that by KCKO and seeing where you end up. OP is at 64kg, a weight he never thought was a reasonable target. YMMV

(Todd Allen) #14

Congrats on your progress, except…

Maybe you didn’t have 25 kgs of excess fat at the start of your journey. Perhaps some of the loss has been lean tissue. Or maybe you have lost even more fat but gained lean tissue.

(Ashish Khandelwal) #15

Congratulations on your journey…and thanks for your message

(Ashish Khandelwal) #16

What you are saying is sounding logical, i may now try not to lose too much weight. While I have been walking and doing some HIIT regularly, I think I must start some strength training