Vent/Stuff from my head

(Danielle) #1

I don’t need comments or helpful motivations. Just needed to get some stuff outta my brain. This seemed like the least judgmental place to put it. Thanks for reading/listening fellow Ketoers

I’ve recently started listening to podcasts. Several of these podcasts are motivational/coaching/self help podcasts. Some are Keto related, and some are just science (thanks BTW for whoever created the podcast list - cuz I got about half my podcasts from that list). One of the coaching podcasts lead today with the phrase - Live without excuses. No excuses. Every time you go to make an excuse why you want to go back on a promise you’ve made to yourself. Just don’t. No Excuses. This really hit me today. Recently I’ve been trying to get back into my Keto WOE. I’m Keto all day and doing GREAT, but after dinner I just “need a little something”; granola bar, small bowl of cereal, hot chocolate. I know this is keeping me from making progress. And I will stop making excuses. I will live my life without excuses.

I now have 3 mantras that I live by:
Don’t complain about things you are not willing to change.
Pick you battles.
No Excuses.

I’m going to visit my mom the week after next, and I’m taking my son (he’s 4). My mom is great with Keto dinners and snacks, but she has already mentioned making ice cream. I told her, we are coming to visit you, not ice cream. Yes, homemade ice cream is amazing. But completely unnecessary and NONE of us need it, nothing will be lost from the trip if we don’t have ice cream. I’m hoping she get’s my no-so-subtle hint, and skips this (and other) treat. I also acknowledge that it is completely within my capacity to just not eat the ice cream. I will cross this bridge when I get to it.

My husband is “half-Keto”; he’s eliminated a majority of carbs, but just cannot get his mind around going “Full Keto”. He’s lost a bit of weight, 20# or so, but can’t continue losing because he’s not really committed. On top of this, he up and decides to quit smoking - cold turkey. It’s only been 2 days and I already want to punch him. He made a comment about this week being really hard at work and how it was a bad time to quit smoking. To which I pointed out; it’s always a bad time - there is never a GOOD time to quit. It’s hard but it’s worth it. And then he hollered about how I don’t understand what he’s going through and told me to drop the subject. O-Kay, subject dropped. Guess sometimes people just need to vent. Which I totally get, but just tell me that you don’t need my help. Don’t just flip out and yell at me just because you are in a shitty-strung-out mood.

I will try my best to keep calm and Keto on. Also - No Excuses!

(Mike W.) #2

(Hugs)

(Carpe salata!) #3

Love your rant :smile:

Can’t wait to hear how you go with the ice cream challenge … does mum get the hint … can you hold out if not … staying tuned !

(Linda Culbreth) #4

Vntt on and have another couple pieces of :bacon: !

(Danielle) #5

Mom is not budging on the ice cream. It’s a “special occasion”. Oh well. I just hope my No Excuses attitude will hold up to it. Thanks @MiKetoAF hugs are always appreciated! And so is bacon.

(Mike W.) #6

So she is going to FORCE you to eat ice cream?

(Andrew Anderson) #7

Safe place. Keep venting. Eat a 3 scoop of bacon and butter drizzled sundae and smile.

#8

Could you make keto ice cream? From Carrie Brown’s keto ice cream cookbook?

(Paula Green) #9

“Don’t complain about things you are not willing to change”

Think this will be my mantra too.

Great vent - hope you feel better for it :smile:

(Danielle) #10

While my mom will not FORCE me to eat it… It will be hard to “be strong” and not eat some; if everyone else is eating it. I have not decided on my strategy for this yet. I might try to bring a keto friendly option for myself - Halo Top? Or make some kind of Keto friendly dessert. Or maybe I’ll just indulge a little?!? Still over a week until the visit, so I’ve got some time to strategize.

(Jim Russell) #11

I think bringing some Halo Top or homemade keto ice cream would be a great way to compromise. Food is wrapped up in so many of our social gatherings and with family it is usually even more so.

(Sonia A.) #12

I love your mantras. I’m stealing them :wink:.

(Michael Haisten) #13

I am definitely socially tied to food. If you eat it, I eat it. However, I have taught myself to just respond “no thank you” and move on. The great thing about keto, is I am never really hungry. I am taking on my well being like like a second full time job. If I would not deviate from doing what I am supposed to at work, why should I in my personal life? After all this second job is really more important than the day job.

(Michael Wallace Ellwood) #14

One of my Mother’s favourite lines is “oh, little bit won’t hurt you…”.

#15

Great vent. Wow, you doing Keto and your man quitting carbs AND cigarettes – that’s a powder keg right there. I’m right there with you on the No Excuses – I’m only 2 little weeks in (formerly eating some 2000 grams of carbs a day for the last few years), now Keto-committed, and already getting nervous about Thanksgiving which is currently some 16 weeks away. Guess I’ll figure that out somehow, same way you’ll avoid that delectable home made ice cream.

(Katha) #16

Don’t take anything annoying or mean your husband says to in the next 7 days to heart. Just know that that is not really him. He has some massive cravings to get through and is just super irritable. It will get better in a few days, as long as he stays off the smokes, I promise! You can do it!

(Siobhan) #17

I would definitely suggest bringing a keto friendly option/dessert/cookie and firmly place boundaries about sugar treats with your mom.
Explaining it doesnt make you feel good usually works for me, but also since its your mom reinforcing that you are there to see her and eating ice cream will in all honesty probably take away from the experience.

Now… if she wanted to make keto ice cream with you… :wink:

(KCKO, KCFO 🥥) #18

I like Megan Ramos’ response to “oh, a little bit won’t hurt you…”.
Paraphrased,
Will you be there to drive me to the dialysis clinic when I am older and my body is failing me?

Ditto on taking your own ice cream or making some keto ice cream while you are there.

#19

I agree that making excuses is no bueno, instead I now try to make a plan! Can you make or buy a Keto dessert that you will eat when the ice cream makes its appearance? This is what I do when I know I will be tempted and most of the time it works and I end the event feeling satisfied. Good luck and take care!

(Carpe salata!) #20

Heavy whipped cream and a couple of fresh strawberries. They will be asking for some :slight_smile: