So what, about how much I eat?

(Dirty Lazy Keto'er, Sucralose freak ;)) #1

So my 45-50 lb weight loss was all during the first 8 or 10 weeks, like 5 months ago. Nowadays, I just eat a big breakfast, a big dinner, and the occasional keto treat, between the two. I also do a 24-28 hr fast every Sun - Mon. And that’s it. Basically I’m just cruising along doing what I do. Almost zero effort, or additional thoughts about anything.

But here’s the thing, I eat a BIG dinner. I don’t see any problem with it, but my GF totally rags me about it ? I’m like, “Yea, so what” ? My weight is good (and totally stable) what difference how big of a dinner I eat" ?

And here’s the thing, for one thing, my GF is literally half my size…
I’m about 206, and she’s 103, so yea, I’m going to be eating a lot more than her…
But even aside from that, she could (and sometimes does) survive on keto snacks, fat bombs, almond butter, all day long… Then when it comes time for dinner, instead of a child’s plate, she eats a toddlers plate, and then she’s stuffed ! I’m always like, “Really ? You ate like 3 bites” ?

Anyway, does the size of my dinner really matter ?

(Michael - When reality fails to meet expectations, the problem is not reality.) #2

If 206 is where you want to be and you are maintaining, no it doesn’t. In my ever so humble opinion.

(Susan) #3

I agree with Michael, Chris. If you are maintaining and feel good, and healthy, then I don’t see a problem. If anything, your girlfriend does not seem to be eating very well. Surviving on snacks, almond butter, and extremely small meals doesn’t seem very healthy at all to me.

It doesn’t sound like she is getting the proper nutrients or calories that her body needs.

(Dirty Lazy Keto'er, Sucralose freak ;)) #4

Well I’d like to be 240 with less than 10% BF… But that ain’t happening any time soon :grinning: lol

Yes, I’m really comfortable at this weight.

(Dirty Lazy Keto'er, Sucralose freak ;)) #5

Agreed… And yes, she keeps dropping below the weight she wants to be… Like 106 to 108. But a few days ago she was weighing 102… Not enough cals, and definitely not the best cals…

(Susan) #6

I would suggest that you keep an eye on her, as that can be dangerous. I am speaking from experience, from having a long term issues with eating disorders.

(Katie the Quiche Scoffing Stick Ninja ) #7

Lol, if these are the only arguments in your relationship, you are doing well. I don’t think it’s any of her business to dictate how much food you want to eat and when, in my opinion. No one controls my food, or intake, except me. And I won’t be made to feel bad about it either by a picky toddler eater, lol.

(Michael - When reality fails to meet expectations, the problem is not reality.) #8

Me too! :fist_right::fist_left:

(Bob M) #9

All you need to do is switch to a plant-based diet and work out. Haven’t you seen Game Changers? :grinning:

When I was younger, Arnold just burst onto the scene. (Edit to change “seen” to “scene”.) I read all the Muscle Builder magazines and the like and did a ton of body building. You (1) have to have good genetics; (2) see (1); (3) see (1); and (4) have to take drugs.

(Rebecca ) #10

Hahahaha! At first thought you were serious!!!

I agree, you seem to feel good and are content with your self, and how much you are eating is up to you and no one else!!!

(Dirty Lazy Keto'er, Sucralose freak ;)) #11

It always killed me when people try to brush off genetics ! That has always been the elephant in the room !
That, and your right about the drugs too. ALL of the really huge muscled guys do foods… But also have the right genetics for muscle building.

(Dirty Lazy Keto'er, Sucralose freak ;)) #12

Ya know, the funny thing is, leasing up to 7 months ago, with a big ugly belly hanging in front of me, I’d try to keep my food a secret… NEVER ate my maple bars and apple fritters in front of my GF… Plus, I’d eat a medium large dinner, then, when I was done, I’d be sneaking back in the kitchen for more food.

Now, I’ll eat however much I feel like, and be like, “Yea, and ??? What’s the problem” ? So I guess I kind of rub it in sometimes…

I guess the thing is, for myself, it’s all about the bottom line. For my GF, it’s all about how things “seem” or how they “feel”.

(Kirk Wolak) #13

Good For you!
My wife bought 5 desserts Thursday. She has 3 left. It’s been a week.
she didn’t know which one she wanted.

She doesn’t do keto. She eats only when hungry, only what she wants to eat.
She will go to bed hungry if the food she wants is not available. She is a healthy weight, and European (really Balkan). She eats mostly mediterranean, OMAD usually.

Comes to me and says “Test my blood”… She had real pizza the night before. This was before her Meal for the day. And sure enough, 80 Glucose and like 0.9 ketones. She is NOT trying for ketosis. Never really measured. Just listens to her body! Hates red meat.

If the police ask… That lump in the back yard has been there for years :slight_smile:
And my wife is back in her country on vacation… LOL

So… My advice… You do you!
and make sure you are doing a weight lifting routine (Like Slow Slow)… I would have your GF doing that to build muscle. Slow Slow is a great routine to share with someone, because you need someone to encourage you to really give it your all…

(Natasha) #14

[quote=“ctviggen, post:9, topic:95039”]
All you need to do is switch to a plant-based diet and work out. Haven’t you seen Game Changers? :grinning:
[/quote] :joy::joy::joy:

#15

If you feel right, I don’t see any problem with a big dinner… Does she have some argument? It doesn’t matter it’s much for her, it’s not for her…

My dinner is sometimes 0 calories and sometimes 1500-2000 kilocalories. Both may be just perfect and it’s just me. Many people prefer way bigger meals and some of them totally need it. It’s fine.

#16

That’s a problem and if she eats not proper food just snacks and nut butter and whatnot, her protein intake isn’t right either… That’s when I would start to criticize my SO’s diet, normally I totally let him eat whatever and as much as he wants as I should (I do most of the cooking but I ask him about his preferences. I just don’t make elaborated high-carb meals, he’s fine with that). He is doing okay, he eats enough normal food so why would I say anything? I never understood why people criticize something not obviously wrong just different from their own. Maybe it’s a sign of their own problems in many cases… And ignorance (“there’s only One True Way”) in others.

(Dirty Lazy Keto'er, Sucralose freak ;)) #17

But the ironic thing is, my GF had been doing Keto for a full year before me, and trying to get me to do it… But it went in one ear and out the other. Then one day watching a Joe Rogan podcast, I think with Jordan Peterson, I was like, “Keto ! Hey ! This is what my GF has been bugging me about, for the last year” :smile: lol…
And then it finally clicked…

(Susan) #18

What she is eating is not true Keto though; not very healthy =(.

(Michael - When reality fails to meet expectations, the problem is not reality.) #19

When I first read this I thought you were talking about your GF’s adventure with keto and:
“But it went in one year and out the other.”

:worried: