Samosa’s Accountability and Progress (and general support now)

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(The amazing autoimmune 🦄) #21

Hugs. That energy is worth almost anything. I would have paid good money for that energy. It feels amazing doesn’t it.


("Don't call it calories, call it food") #22

Sending you a virtual hug.


(squirrel-kissing paper tamer) #23

I wrote an email to my doc telling her I was starting a low carb/keto diet and she responded to some other questions I had and didn’t say NOT to do it so I feel like it’s safe to say my doc is on board. May be something like that would be easy to do.

Also, I wear that “Say something…I dare you” look when I pull my meals out of the fridge. Like a dog with a steak, people back up.


(John) #24

Odd surprise for me yesterday - I was working on a work problem and my boss and I were texting while working on it (he is in a different state). As we were wrapping up the discussion moved to getting some dinner since we had been at it for a while, and as I mentioned that I needed to go cook and listed what I was planning to make he said “keto.” When I confirmed his suspicion he told me he had lost 65 pounds since July on a keto diet and was doing OMAD now.

So out of nowhere, I have a keto buddy who is also my boss (and a good friend).

You never know where support will come from or when.


(less is more, more or less) #25

What a great question.

As much as I love LCHF, and how it’s helped me, my relationship with my wife is infinitely more important. She’s been supportive, skeptical, annoyed, and angered by my WoE changes. Again, since she knows how much she means to me, she’s willing to work with me to a meaningful peace on the matter.

Some background: she loves to cook and takes great pride in her cooking. She sees and knows how LCHF has helped me, though she has little interest in joining me. Her dinners are LCHF friendly, with sides I simply avoid. The awesomeness of this is not lost on me. She borders on Paleo, but, well, not really.

That’s not to say all is hunky-dory. At last nights meal, I was melting butter on her most excellent Saltimbocca. She took grave offense, since she’s quite the cook, and she felt her meal was adequately prepped. We had quite a back-and-forth, as we’re both quite stubborn.


(Laurie) #26

Sorry you’re having to ask this!

I’ve experienced similar things, but mostly with people who aren’t that close to me. For me, it’s a problem because it can cause damage to the relationship(s) or weaken my commitment to the way of eating. As a result, I basically refuse to eat with other people now.

You might have other reasons for considering this a problem. Is it practical; for example, does it cause problems re meal prep, eating together, or fridge space? Or are you afraid she’ll convince you to give it up? Or is it simply a matter of wanting to agree about things?


(Sierra McVehil) #27

My husband is skeptical about what I’m doing too. He has no desire at this time to join me(I’m holding on to hope that as my health improves he’ll come around). Initially, he was pretty discouraging. He referred to the Integrative Functional Medicine specialist I sought out as a ‘Quack’ on multiple occasions. Repeatedly told me it was silly to go to that doc and not an endocrinologist(This all started when I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s). He did not believe that dietary/lifestyle changes were an appropriate treatment for my thyroid or my Pcos.

However, when my new Quack discovered that I am insulin resistant(she knew immediately based on my having Pcos, but I didn’t believe it until I saw the labs), he was willing to accept that low carb made sense as a way to deal with the insulin issues. He still thinks I should be on meds for my thyroid, but I’m not getting snide remarks about my diet.

I guess my point is that your partner will come around eventually. I would recommend not getting preachy. That will just put them on the defensive. As your health improves they’ll figure it out.


(Daisy) #28

So in a huge turn of events, today at church I was talking with a man about keto. My husband freely admitted that he sees a huge difference in my life/health/ way of living and that although he’s “not willing to try it, at least yet” that it is helping me tremendously! I was giddy inside, doing a little emotional dance lol. Progress! There is hope for even the toughest situations! Lol


(Jessica) #29

If I were getting actual resistance and not just a few eye rolls, I would ask that my partner watch some doctors with me. I watched a series done by Dr. Phinney (3 parts, starting here that involves a lot of science. I don’t want to be told that it worked for my friend’s cousin’s sister in law. I want to know the science. I understand not liking the fad. I would need to show her that it’s not a fad.


(Running from stupidity) #30

Same. I spent three months researching it before I started. Takes time to get the old “science” out and the recent actual science in.


(Sam H) #31

Thanks for all the comments, definitely great to see I’m not alone in this.

Luckily, this doesn’t effect how committed I am to trying nor impact my relationship. Her concern is solely around concern for my health, so I guess I need to show her improved health! Weight loss helps and I haven’t stalled yet but aware that this’ll happen sooner or later (hopefully will Bec fat adapted, I’ll look at fasting…but for now she’ll thinking that’s insane!!)

Over 2 weeks in (yesterday) and I bought a good looking slow cooker and did some proper meal prep. I made us dinner and lunch for a few days and have a bit more planned…she is Italian so I might be able to win her over with food alone although it’s crossed my mind that high fat foods may not be the best for her if she is still eating carbs (did I mention the Italian part?). Luckily she has never had weight trouble, well not yet, I keep telling her she won’t have that gift forever!!

I’m drop feeding information to her. She is obsessed with getting someone in person to give me a tick (doctor or nutritionist) but their opinions vary as much as anyone’s so I guess I’ll just cherrypick who I speak to. As I said, it’s not particularly important but I want to eat lots of fat in piece!! Found a friend of hers that went Keto for a while and he was saying how great it was so baby steps!! Wirking through it.

Cooking for her is what’ll get her there above any article/evidence!!


(Troy) #32

This
It may not apply to your given situation
Kinda close maybe

“For me”, on many scenarios these days the intent is to basically tell me to go see a Dr. , nutritionist or specialist on my WOE

Its not done to help
NOPE
It’s not done to encourage or motivate me from my loved ones w support
NOPE

It’s the opposite!

Goes something like this “you SHOULD go see a Dr., get some tests , so they can tell you that you Are WRONG in this WOE😀. Then come report to us back once ur WOE is destroyed🤣 “

Always… just a grin or smile from me😉
Sigh
Lol

I have a Dr.
His name is Dr. Feelgood
He’s located at the Fat-Adapted By Keto wellness Center🤣


(Laurie) #33

That’s nice that she’s only concerned about your health. My sister very gently expressed concern once. She’s a lifelong heart patient who follows her doctor’s advice, so she thought I was killing my ticker with fat. But it was only the once that she said something.

Good luck! And distracting her with delicious food–that sounds like a good idea.


#34

Just send her the link to the public before and after thread. :face_with_monocle::exploding_head:


(Sam H) #35

Just an update (2.5 weeks in). Things seem to have settled down. I think she is getting sick of hearing about how great Keto is haha. I’ll never get her to flip to it until her body decides to pack on weight (she is one of those thin people that never has had to struggle with weight gain). Anyway, I’ll be ready to catch her when/if that happens!!

I think it’s been the slow cooked chicken, frittata and other things I’ve made in the last few days that has her more relaxed. I didn’t really cook anything before (or nothing interesting). And little things like querying me when I bought a carrot for the roast because it comes from the ground so not meant to have it (don’t worry I know how accurate that statement is) but baby steps!! She may not get the science behind it (my high cholesterol remain the unaddressed issue) but I’m going to tackle that once she sees a few more kg or a pant size go down — gotta show the results!!


(Keto Travels) #36

Happy to hear that it’s gotten better! I think I have gotten most of my family and friends to at least leave me alone by demonstrating that I am still eating tons of healthy vegetables (at least in their company, lol) - like challenging amounts of celery with my tuna pate, or a heaping plate of spinach salad (minus the sweetish toppings but plus bacon, nuts and blue cheese dressing) - they find it hard to argue with me then while I pointedly stare at their French fries and rice and breadsticks :joy:.


(Zenjen) #37

When i started keto i got supported just by my sister which also tryed keto once. Other familly members disagreed with my keto way of eating but i was stubborned and eat that way anyway. When they started seeing the results in my weight loss and energy levels, they were very suprised and they changed their mind. Now my mother also eats keto meals with me and supports me.
Just don’t listen to anyone and eat your own way…that’s my advice.


(Sam H) #38

Definitey! I’m lining up a sell on my brother who has put on the weight since kids. He is seeing a dietician…I just need some obvious results to trump his progress…it’s a secret race basically.

Might gear up for a rant at Christmas haha!


(Christine Botkin) #39

Same.


(cat gilliland) #40

I have no support and actually some antagonism from my husband. he doesn’t want to go keto with me, although he is extremely obese and has more weight to lose than I do. he keeps blaming everything except the carbage he is putting in his mouth for his problems and weight gain.
it’s been slow progress for me because he makes it very difficult for me to have strict control over what I eat and whines incessantly at my food choices. so we keep going out for food but it’s difficult to find good keto healthy fat choices at restaurants. I often end up more on the atkins/carnivore higher protein side of things. I realize that does slow my weight loss, but keeps my blood sugar in reasonable range and avoids fighting, so I think it’s a reasonable compromise.
on the bright side though, I’m down by 50 pounds (50 more to go). I keep hoping he’ll see my progress and join me, but until then keep calm and keto on.