RANT! Frustrated, upset & pissed off

(Ellen) #1

Just arrived at my Mum’s, who I told was keto a couple of months ago, explained no carbs so don’t get crisps, bread, spuds, lentils etc only to find she’s bought all of that and more, and she wants to go for fish n chips for dinner. Apparently she wanted to cheer me up and give me a treat break from my “little diet thing” and then tried to tell me that carbs are essential for life! Will go shopping for myself tomorrow but am so angry! :triumph::angry:

(KCKO, KCFO 🥥) #2

Did you tell her you are a ketozombie now?
:smiling_imp:

It is her problem not yours. Just go get what you need. If she serves you something you can not eat, just walk over to the trash bin and toss it in there. She will get the message eventually.

(Bunny) #3

Mess with peoples carb and sugar abuse addiction (dopamine release) and dems fighting words!

Sugar burners will never learn until the cancer and what have you is eating them alive because they are feeding it!

(Justin Traer) #4

Savage! I love it.

(Rachel Rees) #5

That’s mothers for you. Heart in the right place, but not so to speak. Stay strong and try not to let it upset you, I get why you are though

(VLC.MD) #6

Give her some slack, she’s your mom, not a nutrition scientist.
But dont eat carbage.

#7

Be polite. She means well and she loves you.

Does not mean you have to eat it

(Donna ) #8

Ugh! I’d be angry, too. :rage:

(Randy) #9

No reason to be upset. Just do what you do. KCKO.

(Ellen) #10

I know, not eating it, just a tad annoyed I’d told her several times and she still bought 6 x 6 packs of crisps.

(Ellen) #11

Always polite, unless I want a smack round the head!

(Ellen) #12

Have just left Mum at hospital ready for her op tomorrow and done a keto shop, I know she’ll enjoy it but will do carbage for her if she wants it as well.

(Rachel Rees) #13

Hope her op goes well and she recovers quickly (get her some bone broth on the go and bin the crisps lol)

(Ellen) #14

Cheers hun, told her to keep the crisps for others.

(Rachel Rees) #15

Iv just had to make chocolate and vanilla cupcakes for my sons school for charity fundraiser, first time to never lick the spoon, or taste a cake and this is also the first time it hasn’t bothered me. I think my mindset is in the right place which is amazing for me and hope it lasts as willpower has never been my strong point. I’m on day 12 I know its early days. You have shown the same willpower with the crisps, its OK to rant if it makes you feel better an more determined from the sounds of it

(Ellen) #16

Go you! That’s great willpower / new mind set. Yeah, I ranted on here so I didn’t shout at Mum, love this forum. 12 days is great just keep going :wink:

(You've tried everything else; why not try bacon?) #17

It’s a common dynamic that people close to you will try to sabotage, whether consciously or not, the efforts you make to get healthy. We see this in A.A. all the time, with newcomers who are trying to get sober. You’d think that the people closest to you would wish you well and support all your endeavors, but sometimes you’re not the only one involved in the unhealthy pattern, and all social systems resist change. Just remember that you are absolutely entitled to do what you need to do to take care of yourself.

All of this is to say that resistance from at least some of the people around you is probably inevitable, but the good news is that if you persevere, things almost invariably improve. Your mother may or may not change her ways (though she probably will), but it’s not time, just yet, to write her off. For myself, I often feel that if I don’t speak up I am letting myself down, but a realistic appraisal over my lifetime is that keeping my mouth shut usually gets me more of what I want over the long run. If I wait for clarity and for the immediate reaction to die down, I can usually express myself more effectively, which greatly improves my chances of getting what I really want out of the situation.

So your anger is appropriate to feel, but you probably don’t want to express it just at the moment. So my advice: wait for clarity, try to find a way to love both yourself and your mother in this situation, keep calm, and keto on. Come here and blow off steam when you need to, that should help, as well.

(Darlene Horsley) #18

I love a good rant and yours is rightfully where it should be. Right here with tons of support and where cooler heads prevail when we need it most. :slight_smile:

#19

Words of wisdom to live by.

#20

To be expected, remember “normal” people JUST DON’T GET IT!