Please help (coworker problems)

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#42

I’m fasting today because I was too lazy to pack a meal. I have a little dish with pink Himalayan salt crystals that I’m picking at periodically.
Let’s see what happens, shall we? :smiling_imp:

(Adam Kirby) #43

Take her to HR? Seriously it sounds like harassment.

#44

I have to say, I feel much better prepares for if/when this comes up again.
Thank you everyone for your help. #KCKO

#45

@bon just for fun, how old would you wager I am? :thinking:

(Doug) #46

Joanna, sometimes it’s more than you can just ignore. Your co-worker has an insecure need to mess with you on this deal, for what could be a variety of reasons - jealousy, wanting attention, her “worldview” somehow being threatened, etc. The word is getting out about some of the prevalent dietary misconceptions, and in a better world on that score your other co-workers would just be rolling their eyes about her complaining and her assertions.

It sucks, frankly, to be ganged-up upon, and too bad all your co-workers are not aware enough, here. I really think it’s just an adult form of bullying for her to be picking at you about your way of eating. Ugh. Why does it matter to her? Is it as simple as her trying to make you feel bad, so she feels better?

You’re doing right by talking about it. Good luck.

(Ann ) #47

Stay the course Joanna. Ultimately what you’re doing is best in terms of your health. Co-workers and jobs come and go… you health will sustain you for the rest of your life. Unfortunately some people are not ready to admit or investigate anything that goes against so many years of mis-information. I find there are people who not only don’t agree but need to belittle anyone with differing views. It’s obvious they’re insecure but that doesn’t help all that much when we’re on the receiving end of ridicule. If she/they don’t want to hear it I’d just politely decline food offers and refrain from even trying to explain the reasoning behind your choices. They’ll witness your progress and that will be the best evidence you can give. Best of luck.

(Jennie) #48

Dear @bon,
I did not have a grandma. I would like to think if I did, she would have given me this kind of eloquent, kind, decisive, and tactful kind of advice.
My respect,
Jennie

(KT) #49

Joanna,

YOU are doing amazing! Keep at it and don’t let negative nancy’s affect choices that are helping you health wise and happy wise. She may think she is helping but instead of trying to convince her LIVE YOUR LIFE. Give the negative work atmosphere more time…change the subject…do your job…never join in negative talk. Maybe she is having a bad day…not happy for one or many reasons. Choose to do what is working for you, you are helping all of us keep going with your great results…all about choices:slight_smile:

(Samuel Ashford) #50

You are an inspiration. You continue to shine despite the darkness. Thank you.

Unfortunately there are those in the world who don’t respect that we are all snowflakes, and she’s not okay with you being yourself. I can hear the deep sadness in your words, and I am sad that you have to be around this kind of violent communication on a daily basis.

There’s nothing that speaks like a good example. And you are that. Keep shining and loving yourself by doing what heals you and makes you happy. For every person who sees you living happy and healthy, and responds negatively, there are countless others who rather learn and grow and are encouraged to follow you.

Never give up. Keto on, sister.

(Robert Simms) #51

other possible replies: “I’m sensitive to sugar and starch.” or “I don’t tolerate sugar well.” or “Flour upsets my stomach.”

(Crow T. Robot) #52

“I have metabolic syndrome and carbohydrates aggravate my condition.”

::under your breath:: “But, they don’t aggravate me as much as you do.”

(Robert Simms) #53

Another special case: someone I know was told to stay off of sugar and starch for the sake of their liver – or face a transplant.

#54

I want my liver to be strong enough that I can be a candidate liver donor.

#55

Tiny update!
I was talking to a not over bearing coworker today about how I was tired (I’ve been up all night dealing with the kids and some things going on at home). She commented that she’s always tired, no matter what. Without thinking, I responded that it was strange for me to be tired because I just don’t get tired anymore.
She was AGAST! She knows why I’m not tired, and I know it got me some respect in her eyes. :blush:

(Allan Misner) #56

This isn’t really a keto question, it is a harassment issue. Politely ask them to stop commenting on your dietary choices and if they don’t bring it to the manager. You should feel safe to come to work and not be chastised and mocked.

(Andrew C) #57

First, congratulations on maintaining your keto lifestyle! Keep rocking on!

I have a few thoughts on this situation:

  1. I’m going to go out on a limb and assume that the person who is doing this is overweight and not in as good of health as you are. When she starts on you, remind yourself that you’re the one that lost 40 pound while she’s probably gained as much. She sounds like she’s a very angry person who has to cut others down to make herself feel better. She’s not worth your time at all and there’s very little you can do to change her. It was valiant of you to try to educate her about LCHF but it’s pretty obvious she’s not interested at all in hearing any of it.

  2. Beyond the keto-specific issues, this is unacceptable behavior plain and simple. It goes beyond keto and into the realm of bullying, which, depending on the severity, can be seen as a form of workplace violence (see this link and scroll down to “Recognizing the Levels of Violence and Response”)

Your “after” pic is amazing. You’ve got this #KCKO and keep being your fabulous self.

#58

@drewches77, believe it or not, she is “fit-ish”. I’d estimate she’s probably around a size 10 or so with a bit of a spare tire in the middle. I’m holding steady at a 14-16 with saddle bags.
You’re right though, something is off. I’ve made up my mind to stay out of her way (which is easy enough.) Should something arise though, I am now armed with responses and actions, thanks to this forum.

(Gavin Harrison) #59

YWhen people say it’s so bad it’s only because high SFA diets increase TC and LDL, but those markers aren’t really important for heart health. Most important is TG/HDL ratio, and keto lowers TG and increases HDL. Also, having too low cholesterol is especially bad for women given that cholesterol supports normal, healthy hormone production which is important for both your physical and mental health.

(Greg Hollingsworth) #60

Joanna - I go through a similar experience at the gym. Lots of supposedly educated folks there who just don’t get the fact that as a type 2 diabetic (who managed to get off the grocery list of meds and control me blood glucose thanks to keto!) I don’t eat carbs - no 'nutrition bars, no ‘supplements’, no whey power. A heck of a lot them also sport guts even though they’ve been working out for years, decades in a couple of cases.

I still am told I need carbs and protein after a good workout. I just don’t hear them anymore.

(Khara) #61

@Joanna_Osterloh How are you doing? I hope your Keto life is still going well and I hope the negative BS at work is gone.