Non-Keto Food Pushers

(Barbara Greenwood) #1

I just did a pastoral visit (I’m a minister), and after accepting the cup of tea, was asked if I would like a piece of apple pie. It went like this:

Them: “Would you like a piece of apple pie?”
Me: “No, thank you”
Them: “Are you sure? It’s home-made”
Me: “No, really, I don’t eat anything with flour or sugar”
Them: “My granddaughter made it specially, are you sure you won’t try a piece”
Me: “I’m sure it’s lovely, but I eat this way for medical reasons”
Them: “Oh, alright”

Did I tell them that my doctor has no idea I’m keto, and I have no idea whether she would approve or not? No, I didn’t.

After I left the house I went home via the market, where I bought some berries and avocados, then M&S food hall, because I have a special offer on cream, bacon and eggs. Now to unpack my shopping and cook bacon, eggs and mushrooms for lunch. Fried in LARD!!!

(Michelle) #2

KCKO!! Good for you. Great responses.

(Karen Parrott) #3

Great example of how to handle it.

(John) #4

For some reason pastoral visit brought images of a cow in a field.

(Wenchie) #5

Its frustrating though that you almost have to be rude to be left alone when you say you don’t want to eat something :see_no_evil:

(Paula Green) #6

It’s funny how no one pushes things like broccoli on you.

“Go on, have some broccoli, go on, you know you want some, just a little bit, it’s freshly made”

:slight_smile:

I think you dealt with it very well, and in a kind way.

(Arlene) #7

Indeed. I have been thinking about this for some time. For any and all “special” occasions, for “TREATing” yourself for some accomplishment, for making up for a bad mood or being sad, etc., no one will offer you a T-bone steak and asparagus plate, drizzled with some wonderful creamy sauce. Why? Because real food is for nourishment and fake sugary things are for entertainment.
It’s funny how my thinking has changed with keto. These days, if I want to treat myself for any reason, I go out and buy an expensive rib eye to throw on the barbecue. Now THAT’S a treat! I employ plenty of non-food treats too; like a long hot bath, a new book, a new piece of clothing, or just a quiet walk outside with me and the birds.
Many people believe they must offer a visitor some kind of refreshment, otherwise they are not being polite. I would think offering tea, coffee, or maybe just some water should be enough of a polite gesture.

(matt ) #8

People have stopped offering stuff to me. I will politely refuse the first few times and then the gloves come off. That is usually when they get the message.

(Barbara Greenwood) #9

It’s really interesting… some people seem to think I’m doing some sort of penance, and it’s a real shame I can’t celebrate properly.

It I get to eat bacon. And butter. What’s not to like?

(Barbara Greenwood) #10

… and then there are the other people. Like the one from another of my churches who said to me yesterday, “Is there anything we can provide that you can eat?” She means during coffee mornings, when there are bacon butties and tea cakes available. “How about fruit?”

So I said “Thank you, but I prefer not to eat between meals”

She said she admired me, because she couldn’t do it… though she did lose half a stone last year in preparation for her daughter’s wedding. This woman doesn’t look like she’s got half a stone to lose. Doesn’t mean she’s not metabolically deranged, of course…

Anyhow - there are some people who try to honour our choices, that’s what I mean :slight_smile:

(Casey Brown) #11

I totally get this, I get food-pressured at work all the time. Just yesterday someone told me to scrape off the icing on a cupcake and just eat the cupcake when I said I am cutting out sugar…and someone else told me that butter was full of carbs. :frowning:

#12

Come over! I’ll push broccoli on you. Of course it will be baked in ghee and seasoned with bone broth powder and optional sour cream on top.

(Mike Glasbrener) #13

Congrats! Great responses. Some people want to use food to socially bond with you. I think when it’s turned down they are slightly disappointed because they do not understand this woe.

BTW… Sometimes my wife will say “I’ve made … It’s healthy.” I must be careful to avoid hidden carb bomb on these occasions. Not horrible, just higher than I would chooseat this point.

(Ruth Poutanen) #14

Funny how when you say “medical reasons” it’s all okay. Sometimes I’ll say I’m carb intolerant and there is no understanding of that. I’ll try the medical reason excuse next!

(Ruth Poutanen) #15

Yes! I know it bothers other people WAY more than me. No penance here!