No one notices

[kib]

Maybe, like me, you also chose clothes that were very good at hiding your fat (for me, a “muffin top”). No one noticed 15 pounds gone because they didn’t really know I put it on in the first place! I congratulate myself on my good fashion camouflage, but it’s disappointing at the moment.

[PaulL]

Perhaps you have the misfortune of working with a bunch of polite people. Miss Manners points out that compliments are often disguised insults: “Wow! You look great today!” (Usually you look like crap.) “That’s a very elegant outfit!” (Usually you dress like a slob.) The jokey, “My, you clean up well!” is an attempt to take the sting out of the acknowledgement that the person is not usually much to look at, but it only works well with really good friends and is iffy even then.

Perhaps you are simply cursed to hang out with people who value you for yourself and not your appearance. Pity, that!

[mtncntrykid]

Or, they may be people who don’t mention it, like me, because they assume it’s none of their goddamned business. Everyone’s weight is their own business and it’s not my place to comment, when other’s weight goes up or down.

While I appreciate the refrain to comment as being considered an invasion of privacy, I also can appreciate the intent of complementation as recognition of positive results for achieving goals through very hard struggles. Many appreciate being complimented and it would be a sad life to live without giving any.

[jules4]

I was feeling the same way, having lost 2 stone (& I’m short so it really did show!), but I consoled myself with the fact that no-one had commented when I put the weight on- wow, you’ve really gained weight, how did you do it?!- so I couldn’t really complain if they didn’t comment the other way around!! Plus the odd comments I do get now are really annoying- you’ve lost enough weight, it’s time to stop that silly diet now, etc. So you definitely can’t have your cake & eat it!!

[HampshireIan]

Just carry on doing what you’re doing - it’s obviously working for you very well.

Compliments are great to have but for me when I lost a load of weight on a different diet (17st 11b to 15st), I was more obsessed with getting into my old clothes.

Such a great feeling, going through bags of clothes and seeing that they now fit.

Don’t worry about the compliments - just think of the benefits to your health and your bank account.

[Shortstuff]

No one said anything to me at first either, but I knew I was losing and that’s all that mattered to me.

You’re doing great, keep going

[Anniegirl9]

Keep it up,you will get there.

And then there will be one or two guys who just go way overboard with continuous comments and compliments that it just starts to get creepy.

So there’s that to look forward to.

[buxomlass]

I just wanted to chime in to give you the perspective of someone who never mentions the weight/size of other people. I just find it rude…

^^This^^
I don’t like it when people comment on my weight, so I don’t make those kinds of comments myself. Maybe you just travel in very polite/discreet circles - they may notice, but they don’t want to be busybodies.