I’m sorry that people you love feel the need to test you this way. Hang in there & eventually they’ll respect your resolve and will be unable to deny your great progress!
No Family Support and back-handed compliments
Jan
(Jan)
#22
I’ve been married almost 36 years now, to the same man. We’ve definitely had some ups and downs, but I think I’ll keep him… two things I’ve learned that have held up:
- Males & females think differently. Hell, everyone thinks differently. The direct , blunt approach is the way to go. Sometimes I’ve had to stop him in his tracks, say,“hey,this is important - I need at least one hug each day. And a compliment. And do not make jokes about my butt”. Subtle just doesn’t work…
- When someone shows you who they are, believe them. This may be a quote from Oprah. If you make it clear what’s important, and the unacceptable behavior continues, you’ve just been shown how little you matter. Believe it. And move on.
As for mothers, just love them. If you can’t, ignore them and get yourself some excellent girlfriends. Build a deliberate family.
Fiorella
#23
Don’t lose focus on why you are doing keto. It’s not about them (mother and boyfriend). You are doing it for you (your health, your sanity, your sense of well being and accomplishment, etc). Whatever happens…don’t forget this very important point. Allow this fact to help guide your decisions and point of views, and more importantly, prioritize your thoughts and actions.
Rindaloo
(Rindaloo)
#24
In my life I have been thin and fat. I have been criticised for being fat, I have been criticised for losing weight by doing LCHF. I decided a long time ago that peoples opinions shouldn’t matter too much to me. Its my life. If those around me cant support me in what I need to do, then they aren’t really there for me. The best thing I can do is get on with things and be happy. Incidentally apart from doing LCHF, I have done four things in my life against the opinions of others and they were THE most brilliant things for me to do and I will never regret doing them 
Precious_Honey
(Precious Honey)
#25
So when he does something hurtful like that you need to stop look at him and tell him you are an asshole why would you say that? Basically just tell him that comment hurt your feelings. He may not be aware. You could also say why do I even talk to you about this? And then dont talk to him about it anymore. Once you stop he will come around and ask you about it. These are things that I have had to do with my SO of 12 years because he is an asshole sometimes but he just doesnt realize it. I have also had friends call him out and again he didnt realize that what he had said/done was inappropriate. Sometimes men need us to help turn on that brain buffer. Now hes a much sweeter asshole lol
In the meantime you can always come here and tell us and we will tell you how awesome you are and that 30 pounds is awesome! I just got there myself and I also enjoy seeing my clavicle start to make an appearance. In fact its one of the main things I look at 
Protoman
(Paul Jaeger )
#26
I would say first and foremost, is the “Embrace the Weird”. This way of eating is unusual to everyone who hasn’t heard and accepted the evidence. When someone tells you to not eat so much fat, show them by eating twice as much. Make them aware that they need to rethink what they believe. Beliefs are dangerous things. Ask them if they might consider changing a belief into an idea since those are much easier to amend.
Aqua_chonk
(Stickin' with mammoth)
#27
Been there, dewy333. An autopsy of my old address books and contacts lists revealed a tendency to attract assholes on the narcissistic personality disorder spectrum due to a childhood spent simmering in a wreaking, bubbling pot of them. These types are simply not capable of empathy or true support, you gotta shop for that off-label.
Yeah, this rarely works with the aforementioned emotionally unbalanced people, though, just sayin’. As a matter of fact, I got a recent reminder that even if you stand up for yourself and point out when someone is being an asshole, that type will rarely own up to it. If you’re lucky, you’ll get an “apology” that does not actually contain the word, much less the sentiment. Pity them and find ones worth your time, instead.
