Losing a friend

(Renee Slaughter) #1

Last night a friend of mine died from a heart attack. He was a TD2 insulin dependent diabetic. He was on 3 medications to control his numbers. Didn’t work. Now I know some of my other friends will say that it wasn’t diabetes that killed him. But I know it was. Last year I mentioned Keto and the progress I was having. She nodded her head and said something nice. Now she’s lost her husband and the kids have lost their father. I am so very sad because maybe, just maybe it didn’t have to happen.
Let’s help someone and possibly save their life.

(Sophie) #2

I’m very sorry you lost your friend.

(Christine) #3

I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend. My heart goes out to you and his family.

(Pete A) #4

Sorry :slightly_frowning_face:

#5

I am very sorry this happened. You really tried. I know this is small comfort but honestly there is a limit to what you can do to change someone else. I have a bedridden Tofi T2 friend who I am losing one piece at a time. I have tried so many different ways to get her and her family to change but she puts her faith in doctors. They tell her stupid things like do not worry about your carb count, adjust your insulin to your carb consumption. Then she believes that her glucose is beyond her control because she gets reactive hypoglycemia. Short of moving in with her, there is nothing more I can do.

Same thing with an older Tofi relative with CVD. He has cut the carbs but refuses to add fat so complains that he is hungry all the time. Again, nothing i can do. I have tried. We sometimes believe we have more influence over other people than we actually do. We want to shake them and say why don’t you believe me? It is not us, it is the medical establishment and the leaders (both medical and government) who are responsible for the proliferation of bad advice that is literally killing people

(Renee Slaughter) #6

Thank you for your words of encouragement. But its so sad. Just so sad to think that maybe he didn’t have to die.
Thank you Saphire

(Ellen) #7

So sorry for your loss, sending you hugs & best wishes.

#8

RIP, sorry for your loss.

(Randy) #9

You have my sincere condolences.

#10

Oh no, Renee, I’m so sorry.

There’s a feeling of helplessness, right? Knowing that you have something that can help but not really being able to do anything about it. We can often do something about it - being the examples, getting the word out, helping to slowly shift the thinking, etc - but just not necessarily for specific people, and in any case sometimes not in time.

My condolences, and here’s an internet hug…

#11

I think that Robb Wolf watched his father die of T2D, and by the time his mother (also a T2D) was dangerously far down that road he had so many tools, so much information that could have helped her but she just wasn’t receptive. He was improving the health of thousands of other people through his work, on his way to becoming one of the most influential voices in the LC/Paleo world, but unable to help his own mother to improve her health and extend her life. It’s heartbreaking.

(Renee Slaughter) #12

Yes it truly is.

(Darlene Horsley) #13

I am so sorry for your loss Renee! They take a piece of us with them when they go.

#14

Bearing witness is hard. When death comes, it takes!!!

And, all that is Love lives on.

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I agree with you, industrial food culture’s diseases are causing much early onset sickliness and medications that only bring short-term benefits. Real prevention via community garden programs and youth-adult LCHF/keto and strength training for medication reduction/elimination and vitality in the elder years are very political to me, actually.

#15

That is so interesting. I feel less bad that I am not able to help friend and family if Rob Wolf is not able

The irony here after I posted I realized that while I may not be able to save them, I think they saved me. With my friend it was going with her to a pre dialysis visit with a nephrologist and with my relative it was spending a few minutes with him immediately before open heart surgery. Sacred me straight in a way that nothing else has ever been able. In order to help them was the reason I started reading everything Jason Fung wrote, then podcasts, then here. It I had not been trying to help them I never would have found IF or returned to keto. Strange