Well, I applaud you for seeing it for what it is, an abusive relationship with a classic narcissist. I got out of similar circumstances over 24 years ago and everything you describe is bang on. Im so pleased you are seeing yourself in a different light and are prepared to look out for you for a change
Keto: the dark side
SherryKoske
(Sherry Koske)
#23
Very hard to hear how you have been treated - sounds like you may be living with a narcissistic personality - you and especially your children will benefit from not living like this. Congratulations on all your progress and awareness and be so proud of yourself!!
katiem
(Katie)
#24
This doesn’t sound dark or like anything to apologize for to me. I am 10 years past divorce and am proof-positive that it can often be exactly the right thing for emotional health, and if you have found clarity and confidence to see your way to a new life, I hope it is expansive, joyful and rich for you!
I like what you said about a way of eating changing a way of thinking. I think these things are so intertwined – eating is self-care, and the more you care for yourself, the more you honor who you really are. Congruence can follow if we let it.
Thank you for sharing here!
Kgeorge
#25
Hey there, just wanted to say two things. Firstly, pre-keto and about 12 years ago i finally found the courage to leave a violent and controlling husband. I had stayed for 8 years and was a total wall flower with no idea who I was or even if i was worth much other than a good Mum. My eldest son is now 19 and has PTSD from everything that he witnessed before we were able to leave. I can honestly say that despite it being initially tough, it was the best thing i ever did for my kids and for myself. I just want to congratulate you and tell you you’re doing brilliantly! You will thank yourself for the rest of your days that you made a positive change. I am proud of you and you should be too.
Secondly, ive been keto 3 years and i have changed career and gone back to university at 40, rid my life of toxic ‘friends’ id known for 20 years… nothing but good things, good people, good vibes and good food! Ketosis really is life!!
I wish everyone reading this forum the very best, life is good, and we’ve got this!! 
ennui
(ennui)
#27
Yep,burning ketones and weight loss helped me to remember what what a fabulously Bad Ass MOFO I really am.I don’t get nearly as flustered when I am being provoked. I have become way more chill.
LynnC
(Lynn Chodur)
#28
I applaud your decision to get out of the relationship as it sounds horrible for you. What I do find very interesting about your post is the overwhelming belief by commenters that you are in fact a woman with an abusive husband. I did not get the impression that you are either a woman or a man, Whoever you are, I wish you the best of luck and a happy life 
Robin57
(Robin)
#31
LynnC, exactly what I was thinking. We don’t know what your gender is, and it doesn’t matter. What matters is KINDNESS and love. Kudos to you for taking control. It won’t be easy, probably, but it will be well worth it. I have been married for 36 years of up and downs, with illness and now health. We are both on the ketogenic diet, me 16 months and 32 pounds, him 9 months and 75 pounds, no longer diabetic. KETO4LIFE. If it shines light on your dark life, so be it. Shine on like the supernova that you are!!
ketokal
#32
Congratulations on finding a path from the dark side to the lighter side!
Your post is an inspiration and a battle cry for those who suffer in silence. Thank you for venting, know how much we all support you . I believe we have all been where you are now, in some way shape or form.
It took real courage for you to share your clarity and Btw , well done on the VPN. You’ve obviously got clarity, cunning and savvy. Here’s to your new adventure! If you think keto is great for weight loss, losing an inconsiderate partner / spouse is the fastest way I know of , to drop 150-200 lbs of dead weight INSTANTLY.
jackieduke2003
(Jacquelyn Graham)
#33
I left an abusive marriage to a psychopath who behaved very much how your spouse does. It was the best thing I ever did for myself and my children. Read Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood (it applies to men in abusive/co-dependent relationships, too). Best and hardest book I ever read, but it woke me up to I deserved much better than the worst I could stand up under. May God bless and keep you and know that you are incredibly strong or you wouldn’t have survived all of this abuse and come out the other end stronger than you were before.
dthornton52
(Diana Thornton)
#35
My only regret is that I didn’t find keto years sooner. So much wasted time feeling like crap! I too feel like my brain has been awakened after a long drugged life.
Fangs
#37
I so understand you.
In fact I almost did not understand me. What has happened with my thinking? Why is it a strangely crazy calm that has come over me. My thought process changed to see the truth of actions around me.
I truly understand that strange/weird/overpowering calm. I never felt it like this. I thought I didn’t truly feel this way ya know. I thought I was imagining how clear my thinking and thought patterns were but they truly are a sign when your body is non-toxic.
It is incredible. The shining light of it all and the dark side.
I hesitate to call it a dark side. I call it a miracle LOL but there is a dark side to it in that the truth of what is around you HAS to be dealt with. If that is actions of others, whatever situations at career levels and more…all have to be handled. And that can lead to dark revelations and monster changes that must be addressed in one’s life.
I absolutely understand your new clarity. It can be awakening and frightening to the ultimate. I am there with you, I get it and I know sometimes the light of the day when it shines thru can be a true test of our character and what changes must happen in our lives.
great post.