Keto Etiquette

(The o-chem police are coming) #21

People’s relationship with food is always so curious. I assume that vegans and GF and whatever feel just as strongly about their diet choices as we do about Keto. I actually appreciate people sharing their passion, it gives me more strength to double down on what works for me. That does not mean I enjoy the actual meal of GF vegetarian Thanksgiving at my sisters… but they know me so it isn’t actually vegetarian, still GF :roll_eyes:.

(You've tried everything else; why not try bacon?) #22

Emergency pork rinds and pepperoni. Before, if you don’t really trust these people, or after, if there isn’t enough ok-ish stuff to hold you. But yeah, plan to eat what you can and push the rest around your plate.

“Not just yet, thanks,” and “Oh, no more, thanks,” are also your friends.

(KetoQ) #23

Rajseth –

Pakoras … come on, you can have one, or per chance, five! How can you resist? With a lamb vindaloo … and a cold Kingfisher …

(Cindy) #24

Please don’t take this too harshly, but you still had a choice to drink it or not.

This reminds me a bit of parenting in that so many parents make their children do things against their wishes. I’m not talking about chores, teaching them responsibility and that sort of thing. I’m referring to the “you have to give Auntie a hug” or you have to eat 5 bites of broccoli type thing. I think children should have the right to say no to what happens to their body. Within reason, of course…I wouldn’t let a child get a tattoo for example. But if they don’t want to be touched? They have the right to say no. Don’t want to eat broccoli? Fine. As the parent, find something else nutritious that they will eat.

Somewhere along the way, we learn that it’s somehow better to be polite about being “forced” to eat something we don’t want. I would have pushed the smoothie away and said “I appreciate that you fixed this for me, thank you, but no, I’m not drinking this.”

(Marius the butter craving dude) #25

He put his mother to prepare me all this stuff without asking me if I wanted… He manipulated the situation to force me to be polite. I felt bad for his mother… I thought it was just one drink and can manage the situation to be as less damaging as possible.
Yes I could have totally refused… I refused half of what he forced me. It was close family… It is complex. My cousin went on with bla bla this is good for bla bla while his mother was already preparing all those bla bla… And this was premeditated because on my previous visit I actually refused (was actually asked if I want that time).
He gaved me free books about veganism and I went keto-carnivore instead. He is not happy about me. I got very angry on him after this. Not planing to visit him soon in his house. And if he comes I will offer him meet

(Laurie) #26

Yes, it can happen. It happens in small steps.

Eventually we learn how to deal with certain people, certain situations, etc.; sometimes this means avoiding them altogether.

(Wendy) #27

Thnx…Again I lov this forum…8 days in . my mom flipped a bit over so soon before xmas… Xmas at my brothers n he has been carb and sugar free for a few years. Yay Walter! For me Health reasons first, weight loss plus and please. So thanks for tips n encouragement. I shall be taking a low carb sweet treat in brothers honor…choco cherry fb!

(Melis Jansen ) #28

I have a fantasy of telling anyone really trying to push sweets on me that I have a gastro intestinal condition where even the smallest amount of sugar is converted very quickly into room-clearing gas.

(Running from stupidity) #29

Just do it. Make weird stuff up. Why not? They push, push back.

(Janelle) #30

We went to Greece a few weeks ago and I would tell all the servers no bread and that we didn’t eat potatoes. Most offered more vegetables and a few times - those veggies included potatoes (and often carrots). Those were simply left on the plate.

I feel fortunate that I don’t have pushy friends and relatives trying to get me to eat carbage this season. I’m low key about keto but they would get an earful.

@juice - I love your diabetes response.

(Running from stupidity) #31

Unfortunately I rarely get to use it due to hating people and thus never eating (or being) with them :slight_smile:

(squirrel-kissing paper tamer) #32

My mom is cooking vegetarian lasagna tonight for my son’s birthday (requested by son) and I’m working on how to handle it. She’ll also serve garlic bread, ice cream and cake. I have to decide if I’ll roll in with my own food or just have coffee while they eat and eyeball me because I’m making everyone uncomfortable.

Here’s my dilemma, if I explain why the food is bad for me, I’m implying it’s bad for them and there’s my mother having worked all day to prepare bad food. I’m going to have to work on a gentle way to handle this so I don’t hurt anyone’s feelings.

(Janelle) #33

“Pasta and bread have been causing me digestive upset - I needed a little something easier on my stomach today”?

Just an idea?

(squirrel-kissing paper tamer) #34

That’s a good idea. I could say since eating this way I physically can’t tolerate carbs, like I retrained my body with an “it sucks but I can’t help it guys” look. Great advice. Blaming something else, why didn’t I think of that??

If they push it I’ll tell them I ate a handful of Buckeyes last night and it was disaster pants. Dinner conversation over. :rofl::rofl:

(John) #35

I am so glad not to have any social or family dynamics where anyone presumes they can tell me what to do or what I can or should eat.

(Running from stupidity) #36

I’ve just put it back at the top of my posts for the leadup to the difficult season.

Sadly, I’ve had to swap out my one about Ansel Keys being Stalin in order to do so, but that’s OK. It’ll be back :slight_smile:

(You've tried everything else; why not try bacon?) #37

Oh. So I guess I’m not coming over for supper, then, huh? :grin:

(Running from stupidity) #38

Dunno. Are you a people?

:grin:

(You've tried everything else; why not try bacon?) #39

There seems to be some question about that, TBH. :grin:

(Eric - The patient needs to be patient!) #40

None of us are people. We are avatars.