I have been on keto for 6 months, have lost 44 pounds, and am now at my goal weight. I didn’t have a lot of weight to lose, but I have found the ketogenic WOE wonderful for so many other health benefits, including hunger and cravings control. I feel terrific! I have always had normal blood sugars, but have long suspected that my husband (49 y.o.) is pre-diabetic; he refuses to go see a doctor. There is no doubt that he is insulin resistant, as even he admits that meals and snacks make him groggy. He has been supportive of my new WOE, but has been very resistant to changing his own diet. I know better than to push the issue, so I just quietly keto on and let him see my success. So this weekend, I noticed that he has been eating WAY fewer carbs than normal. Cheeseburger salad, honey? Drinking one of my Zevias? Black coffee? Ha! He has been asking me more questions about how to reduce the puffiness around his eyes and what has hidden carbs. My 17 y.o. daughter coined a term for this behavior: “Incogketo” or eating low carb under the radar. I’m not sure he is ready to commit to the WOE, and know that if I start offering unsolicited advice, he will back off and quit. I am, however, hopeful that he will start to feel enough improvement to join me full time in this adventure!
Incogketo? Husband might be coming on board the keto wagon
I think your approach is excellent. Be an example and let your good results speak for you.
Best wishes to your husband enjoying better health.
Love that term.
Take it slow and easy, just ease him into more dinners that are keto friendly. Answer his questions, tell him where to look if he wants to learn more. Do not push him, it sounds like he is slowing coming around.
And 44 lbs. is a lot of weight in my book, good on you for all the success you have brought upon youself by going keto. Congrats on your successes.
Some of us can be pretty thick-skulled. I went to get blood work done last year, he asked when the last time I went to the dr. Outside of the ER the military made me do an exit checkup in 2000. He wasn’t impressed.
We have been married for almost 19 years, and he has been to the doctor only once. Even that was only for a DOT physical, so I’m not sure they even did any blood work a at the time. I offered to get a glucose monitor and test him at home, and he is (was?) refusing to check that way, too. I think deep down he knows that he has metabolic disorder, knows how to treat it through diet, and has just been too stubborn to give up his carbs. Honestly, I think he’s starting to get a little jealous of all my energy and my reduced inflammation and this is inspiring his dabbling with lower carb meals. Quietly watching and waiting…
I had a dear friend who was so proud she hadn’t been in a drs. office for 20 years, she was only 42 at the time. She died at 44 from cancer. She saw a dr. when she was in the ER, her intestines riddled with holes from cancer, she had had cancer for a long time, it was in almost every organ in her body.
Not seeing a dr. is nothing to be proud of but going and get tested, getting good results, that is something to be proud of, IMHO.
I definitely agree, but he is pretty stubborn. I was surprised that he turned down the home testing, but I can’t nag him to good health. It is a frustrating situation for me. 
I’m sorry for your loss. I just lost my husband too–he never went for checkups and then esophagal cancer spread too quickly. He didn’t notice any symptoms until it was too late.
Cheryl, I lost a dear friend not my husband. So sorry to hear you did lose your husband. My condolences.
I wish I had your patience. My husband is driving me bonkers insisting on losing the weight “his way” and eighteen months later, I’m very close to goal and he’s still at his heaviest. 