THANK YOU FOR THIS. Moralizing is exactly what it is and it’s strident and annoying as hell for those of us that are having to tweak things and be very precise in order to reach our goals. I had been at a stall for almost three months. I was not tracking calories. I finally went in and got my RMR tested at the local university. I am clearly fat adapted, I have been doing keto for over a year with very slow weight loss but was happy for how much better I feel. I will continue this WOE for life, but now to reach my goal I am going to have to consider how many calories I consume. I have 10 pounds left and I will do what I gotta do to get there and if that means counting calories, then that’s what I am going to do.
I understand people being angry with the CICO prevailing paradigm, a calorie is a calorie is a calorie --it’s what made most of us obese and then we were unfairly blamed for our plight. And many of us that were very large faced discrimination because to get that big we must have been lazy or lacked self control or been emotional eaters and the list goes on. That can lead to a lot of emotional baggage. While it may not be our fault that we are carrying that around, it is our responsibility to work through it.
But here’s the thing, weight gain IS because of excess calories but it’s hormonal imbalance caused by the KIND of calories that makes those calories excess in the first place. So it’s not linear and clearly a calorie is not a calorie. If I go on to a calorie deficit to lose these last 10 pounds I have to ensure my insulin stays low so I can access the fat without further slowing down my metabolism so obviously 1300 calories of steak and eggs with some power greens would be way better for me than 1300 calories of chocolate cake. Chocolate cake means I’ll likely go into starvation mode because my insulin will be high, I won’t be able to access fat stores and then my metabolism, which is already on the slow side will slow down even further. And if I do reduce those calories, I need to jump back up every few days so my body doesn’t get used to a lower amount and take my metabolism down even further.
If someone’s primary goal is to lose weight, that’s fine, it’s not my place or anyone else’s place to come on here and wag my finger at them. Some posts on this thread feel like finger wagging and I think if someone feels it’s their place to start finger wagging about how someone is doing it ‘wrong’ they need to ask themselves why they feel compelled to that. There’s no single right way to do this WOE. This isn’t a religion and even the ‘experts’ don’t agree on everything. Let’s work to lift others up on here.