How to deal with all the stress in life. And stress I am talking about 2 kids under 2, staying home all day. Above all a abusive partner. Who just enter the house and try to find what things I did not do or if did what is wrong with them( I am just venting pardon me if this is not right place today was worse day). If I say something I get abused verbally and physically of course mentally. Above all in the because I did talk back so I deserved it. Why I am here because I have 2 little kids. Left my job sold my house and has zero money to my name. Food is the thing I turned To now days. How to deal with stress without food. Please donât judge me. I just have no energy to get out and start life with two little kids. I already run out of energy. I just tell myself few more years few more years.
How you deal with stress
Have you spoken to a domestic violence service? Iâm not going to tell you to pack your bags & go right now but perhaps seeking some advice from experienced folks may help. If you know what services are available to you & your kids & are able to work with a professional to formulate a plan that may relieve some of your stress. There are small steps you can take before actually taking the plunge & just talking to someone is in & of itself a start.
I donât know what country you are in; but in Canada and the States, there are Battered Women Shelterâs that will find you a safe house to stay in with your children, and they are in secret locations. They will help you find other accommodation over time, and help you in other ways as well. There are help lines you can call and talk to people that can guide you where to go, and you can leave when he is not home, and disappear so he cannot find you. I am not being judgemental at all, trying to protect you and your children. They will help you with this, then once you are safe and can focus on yourself and your children, you will have much less stress. Your children will be safer out of that environment as well.
That is so sad Pri, I hope things get better for you. I agree it doesnât hurt to talk to a womenâs shelter to find out whatâs available to you. 
Not here to judge. Just wanted to say Iâm sorry for all your stresses and we are always here if you need to vent. Big hugs to you 
Regarding ways to deal with stress, perhaps try meditation and/or therapy?
ETA - I am essentially a single mother to one and I know itâs hard, but know that you can do it. I also agree with speaking to a womenâs shelter if you work up the courage to do so. Do your children see this violence?
Pri, nobody deserves to be treated the way you are being treated. It sounds to me like you are using the children as an excuse to put up with it but this situation is harming them too. For all of your sakes, find some help and seek change. Life is too short to live this way. You and your kids deserve much better!
- In the U.S.: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
- Canada: Visit ShelterSafe to find the helpline of a womenâs shelter near you.
- UK: Call Womenâs Aid UK at 0808 2000 247.
- Ireland: Call Womenâs Aid at 1800 341 900.
- Australia: Call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732.
Aside from the advice youâve been given about reaching out for help, reading a book can be a great escape. If you need to clean house or do chores, listening to an audio book or podcast or even your favorite music can be helpful. I have a playlist I listen to when Iâm in a particularly stressful mood and it doesnât cure all of my problems, but it helps bring my heart rate and blood pressure down. When things are tough, these kinds of things give me a short reprieve so maybe, while you work on sorting everything out, taking a moment to get out of your head and situation will give you the space to mentally deal with whatâs going on and work on a solution. Itâs tough to problem solve when weâre constantly in crisis mode.
To be clear, Iâm not suggesting you avoid or ignore this issue, itâs a serious one. But I understand you donât have the resources to walk out the door today. The local library is a safe place to go during the day and they could help give you information as well. Seeing a doctor may help with the depression and lack of energy, which may give you the energy to help yourself and the kids.
My daughter sees it initially she used to cry now she doesnât cry at all she just look when he is hitting me and lower her face that breaks my heart. I try to avoid these situations but how much u can avoid.
You need to escape and get out of there, when he is not home. You can get help, no one deserves to be abused⌠and your children are also in danger. Please get out. I am worried for you and your kids.
https://www.drphil.com/show-pages/14016_aspirenewsapp/
Read that, the app is free and could save your life. It will tell you where the shelters for safety are in your area. This is a terrific app that Dr.Philâs wife has made to help save women and their children. Please use it. Or if you are not in the States, check the numbers above that Karl posted, please get help. I donât want anything worse to happen to you or your children.
Real men donât hit and abuse their partners or children, get away from this monster⌠he is not entitled to you or your kids.
Pri, Detach. Donât allow yourself to internalize any of the abuse. It is 100% about him and not at all about you. You donât âdeserveâ anything because you âtalked backâ. That said, you know his patterns and if biting your tongue and keeping quiet in a particular moment will keep you and your kids safer for that moment then that might be the best choice. Focus on detachment. This will take practice and intentionality, but it will help to restore healthier thinking about yourself which will help make you stronger for the next step. As others have already offered, look into local support services. Best wishes to you and your kids.
For stress relief I turn to music, it relaxes me and honestly helps me go through my emotions. As far as your abusive marriage you need to get out. Iâm speaking from experience- my 3 kiddos were toddlers when I left my abusive marriage. Was it hard YES, however I made it and you can too. Do you have family around? Please look into a local domestic violence center in your area. Most areas have some sort of âoutreachâ and resources for victims. Waiting around is not safe for you and for your children.
Iâm speaking from experience, you do NOT deserve this and your kiddos dont either.
I know this isnât what you want to hear, but that isnât a healthy environment for your kids. Even though it wonât be easy to raise your kids alone, it is in their best interest. I wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide
I know all in my heart, but one part of me does not want my kids without father either. My daughter loves him. All day she is dada dada. I know this wonât work either one day Iâll have to get out but when I have to decide. But thank u!
Thanks all for support and advice. I have never shared my problem with anyone. Itâs feels good to be heard and receiving wise advice and support. Thanks from my heart. I am very strong woman. I had very successful career and I know day Iâll decide to get out Iâll be fine. I have very good education and work experience in my pocket so Iâll be good financially in a while for sure. But emotional and my kids I have to think about.
I am scared for you⌠people like him have killed their entire families, please get out soon.