Handling social situations is getting easier

#1

I freaking LOVE Keto. I love the way it makes me feel. I love the freedom from CRAZED hunger (Im still hungry for 3 meals per day but not the same kind I had before - oy vey!) and I am getting super results as far as healing. I have very little fat to lose so that’s going slowly, if at all, but I don’t even care.
Social situations are hard for me because for whatever reason, I’m not super comfortable saying “I don’t eat that” or even with people commenting at all on what I eat. I was almost worried about it for the first few months.

Today was teacher appreciation day at school. PTA made a big lunch of sandwich fixin’s, olives, grilled veggies, desserts, etc I put on my plate what I thought worked with keto (grilled steak and mushrooms, olives, mayo with shit oils but oh, well and some cheese). I ate that and felt really great about it. Now, it was way heavier on protein than I would eat normally, and lighter on fat, but I’m learning to go with the flow on this diet. It’s one meal, I did the best I could (very well, I might add), and while not ideal, I"ll have fat for dinner with no protein and call it a day. People aren’t watching what goes on my plate, for Pete’s sake. They’re watching what goes on theirs!!! I"m not that all-important that folks are watching and worrying about my lunch! And we really CAN navigate restaurants and outings - it’s almost never that there is absolutey nothing I want.

(Cynthia Wood) #2

I hope I can get there. I’m super averse to social conflict, which means I’m easily pushed into eating things I don’t want to by the people around me. So far bigger gatherings have been easier, because as you say, people aren’t paying attention to your plate. Smaller or family gatherings are much harder, particularly when people are handing me things because they know they were favorites.

I’m hoping that as friends and family get used to the foods I’m choosing to eat now, they’ll stop waving old, sugary favorites at me.

#3

I’m with you on the disdain for awkward social stuff. I know in my brain that it doesn’t matter what other people say or do, I’m an adult and make my own choices for myself, not them. I so know that. But I still feel funny eating “differently” or denying their offers.
The only time I really could not think of a way around the meal was a holiday party (small, sit down) where they served pasta, sauces, and salad. I couldn’t really decline the pasta because that was the meal. I got lots of salad, a very small amount of pasta, a lot of meat sauce, and didn’t take any bites of the pasta - just ate the rest. I don’t even like pasta ON my plate, but it still kinda worked out ok. It always does. Even if I’d had to eat a small amount of it for politeness sake, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. I could pick up the next day and it’s life!
Let us know how it goes