Family before and afters

(Susan) #41

Awww, I hope that somehow in time that you are able to talk with the mom, Ruina. I realize the cultural differences there must make all this much more difficult as well, but I am still keeping my fingers crossed for you =-).

(Marianne) #42

Wow; interesting story! I wonder how that happens (not questioning that it did). How does the pigment leave the hair? The body must be putting out something to remove it.

Hijacking the thread, but did he have an NDE?

(hottie turned hag) #43

It cannot happen (see my posts above with explanation as to why) :expressionless:

(Jane) #44

Yes. He remembers being outside his body just floating peacefully above it. Then being yanked back in when he took his first breath after they brought him back.

I’ve had a lot of weird, unexplainable things happen to me and he is the only person besides my mother who never doubted any of it. Mainly because I am an engineer and normally so analytical and looking for the logical explanation. Some things just don’t fit our current understanding and I’m ok with that.

(Bob M) #45

12 is a tough age. Our daughter is going through something similar. Unfortunately, she has our genes, which means she’ll never be truly “thin”. We are working, however, on getting her to eat better. It’s tough, because carbs are everywhere. Everywhere. You basically can’t get school lunches, as they are crap.

And our oldest goes to dance classes and karate an obscene number of hours per week. Exercise has nothing to do with what you weigh.

(Marianne) #46

Got it.

(Marianne) #47

I tend to believe everything. Science notwithstanding, the universe is still a mystical place.

(Jennibc) #48

My sons got my genes and he is slim now! It’s possible for these kids. My son has to work hard at it - no sugar, no grain, no seed oils. If he has any of that the eczema comes back and he gets kind of puffy.

(Bob M) #49

Unfortunately, it’s a bit more complex body-wise than that. My oldest has a mesomorph/an endomorph type of body, so she won’t ever be a runway model. She can definitely get thinner (can’t we all?), but she’ll never fit the “ideal” of a thin woman.

(Jennibc) #50

I am an endomorph, as in I have short limbs and a long torso, and I am heading toward slim. “Ideal” is subjective. I would have never been a runway model either.

(Bob M) #51

That could be true, but you’re also not 12 and larger (mainly taller, but also physically bigger) than basically everyone in your class. She’s taller than my wife. When you tower over boys, that can kinda suck if you’re a girl. That will change (the 8th grade has some very tall boys, but my daughter is in the 7th). We’ve gone from seeing a confident young girl (in acting classes, speaking roles) to a less-to-not-confident, shy girl who might have body image issues. We can help as much as we can, but at some point, she has to do the “work”. And when everything (the school lunches, pizza, many activities where they serve carbage, etc.) is against you, it’s not easy.

(Jennibc) #52

I WAS. I was 5’7 when I was 12. People used to mistake me for 17 or 18 when I was 12. But that’s different than being an endomorph. I was an overweight kid from the time I was 8 until 15 when I basically stopped eating and dropped 40 pounds in two months over the summer. I kept it off for years but when I was 28 started gaining rapidly and then well, by the time I was 35 was hovering at 270.

It’s never easy but it’s worth it. I hope at some point she wants it badly enough to do the work. Just keep encouraging her but be careful about shaming. And it would be helpful to rid the mind of ‘ideal’ and speak in terms of fit and healthy.

(Bob M) #53

I think that’s how tall she is.

But now is a very, very different time from when you and I grew up. Do you know what a pansexual is? Do you know about binding bras? Well, I didn’t until just recently. When you and I were growing up, we just withdrew or had other effects. Now, you can become someone else (whom you might not actually be), even a “range” of people.

Anyway, we’re definitely talking from a health perspective, as that’s what I believe anyway. Low carb/keto is healthy, is my argument.

(Jennibc) #54

I agree it’s different. I have a 17 year old so have been there.

(Marianne) #55

Don’t despair - only like .005% of the population would qualify as a “runway model.” Screw that.

(Marianne) #56

That was me in grammar school - not giant, but at 5’6" in 7th/8th grade, I as “big” (also because I was overweight). It sucked and were very difficult years, all through high school. If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn’t have wasted a moment’s energy on this shit. Adolescene can be a bitch, especially in the age of social media. God bless.

(Rosemary Easter) #57

How interesting to see these photos and what a lovely one of you all at the end.