Embarrassed to eat in front of coworkers


(KCKO, KCFO 🥥) #21

How rude your coworkers are. If they made those comments to me, I’d tell them I have to last the rest of the day on this. Mind your own business.

And that is why I am a Keto Bitch.

Life is just too short to put up with that kind of BS. Do what you need to do, to hell with anyone rude enough to comment on your food choices. And don’t rent space in your head to those assholes.

Big congrats to your maintenance. Your workout sounds awesome too. So yes, they can bite you :slight_smile:

Keep rockin’ it.
KCKO


(Penelope) #22

Almost without exception, I fast through the work day (my usual window to eat is 5p-8p).

It never ceases to amaze me, the number of people who are acutely aware that I don’t eat lunch and feel they need to advise me - “skipping meals is bad for you”, “you need to eat every few hours…”, blah blah blah.

If you worry about what other people think, you will always be damned if you do, damned if you don’t, but really, it is no one’s business when and what you eat. This is your journey, own what works for you!


(Darlene Horsley) #23

Mamash… you do you Gurl! Keep your head held high and KCKO.


(Chan Cleland) #24

:facepunch::facepunch::facepunch::facepunch:


#25

If you can muster the courage, I would say something like “Wow, I’m surprised you would say that…” and give a raised eyebrows smile and walk away. let them feel a lil embarrassed hopefully.


(Joanna) #26

If they give you trouble, say “kiss my a**, it’s right here -inside my skinny jeans”


#27

Years ago Dear Abby or her sister Anne Landers would tell her readers that if asked a rude question to respond “Why would you ask something like that?” Or similar (feel free to google!) Letting the other person know they have overstepped.

My question @Mamash (and it is rude!) is have you reconciled your inner and outer self image? I know you commented on being thin so screw them, but have you internalized that? No need to answer me, something to ask yourself.

If you were 100 lbs heavier I doubt they would be saying anything to you, although there might be comments and raised eyebrows behind your back or perhaps a “caring” co worker who was close to you (or believed they were) would pull you aside privately (hopefully not!)

If you were always thin and were doing keto because you were a body builder or for the mental clarity, I am not sure their comments would bother you in the same way.

Having said that, eat what you want when you want! Too bad on them that they cannot enjoy your diet.

I went out with 5 friends I had not seen in years last week. Turned out it was all you could eat steak, 3 of us ordered it but I was the only one who asked for more. I ended up eating a plate of steak with a completely cleared table and the others having tea! It was delicious and I did not care


#28

I was 30 lbs heavier, which at 5’7” put me at 175. Not obese by any stretch but on the slightly overweight side. I have always struggled with the extra 15-20 lbs, and my main critics were my parents and grandma. Comments about a double chin developing, fat knees, or a plate too full and the need to “slow down” on the food… you get the idea. So yeah, issues there I guess. I know intellectually I don’t owe anyone an explanation, but when people do a double take on my heaping plate, the old feelings come back. It is possible to have developed issues from years of carrying a few extra lbs, especially when surrounded by thin friends.


#29

Did you grow up in my family?!:grinning:


#30

What’s funny too is that my in-laws are polar opposite. They overfeed me, my husband, and the kids. They offer food CONSTANTLY, if you say no thank you, they ask again and again until you submit. The kitchen is never clean, they are constantly in there, there are no breaks between feedings. Their lives revolve around food. And yes, they are overweight and have fatty livers.

So with them we have issues with food, just on the opposite spectrum. Can’t win, can we?


#31

The Python diet, huh? And I bet nobody expects it!

(Oh God, I can’t believe I actually typed that and hit submit. Please forgive. It’s because I’m hungry or something. Or pinin’ for the fjords.) :grin:


#32

Are your parents of European or were they raised by Europeans? No offense to an entire continent but I feel like my parents who are European do not understand the meaning of unconditional positive regard. So if you have toilet paper on your shoe they will run to tell you because if your mom does not tell you who will?!

Years ago one of my kids took a dance class with a friend whose parents were Russian. Neither girl learned much because they were talking through all the classes (parents were not able to observe so we had no idea). The recital was a disaster, I felt bad for the tall blond girl my D kept stepping on! Apparently her friend was no better. Since the year was over and there was nothing to be gained since she obviously was not going back to this program I kept it light. I was telling my D how much she looked like a ballerina up there (yes as long as she was standing still she was adorable!) Her friend was not so fortunate and was treated to a tirade from her parents about the money wasted and so on. My parents would have been the same but they were not at the performance.

My late very American mother in law followed my lead and told my daughter how beautiful she was. My mother in law was always accepting and no matter how heavy I was always offered me more food. If I did not eat she would offer to cook something I liked better. We miss her Ironically she would comment privately to me that I had to cut my husband off on the food as he was getting dangerously heavy


(Tubeman) #33

Short List of Unexpected Things:

  1. Python Diet
  2. Spanish Inquisition

#34

As a matter of fact, yes they are! You are right, criticizing as a means of expressing love seems to be cultural.


(Scott Coleman) #35

Don’t ever let them bring you down, it’s your life! You do it for you, not them. When it’s for them, they can MAYBE have a say… MAYBE!


#36

:grin: NOBODY expects the Spanish Inquisition. :grin:


(Candy Lind) #37

Yes they CAN bite you, but tell them to stay the HELL away from your eggs! And make all kinds of orgasmic noises while you’re eating them. :smiling_imp:


#38

LOL! :scream_cat:


(Shantanu) #39

Tell them that you are trying to have a heart attack before the meal is over. That will shut them up.


(Ellen) #40

You don’t owe any of those rude twats an explanation, you’ve done great and I bet they’ve not got up at stupid o’clock to go to the gym. Lift your head up, stand straight and own it, Keto and Proud!