Death in the family

(Marisa) #1

I have to go home for a funeral for my grandma. She passed unexpected last week. After the funeral we are having a lunch memorial and cooking all of her wonderful recipes. I have been strict no sugar for 5 months. Told myself I was going to get to 6 months before I introduced a cheat day. Been thinking about breaking my keto this week back home. But I can’t make up my mind.

Part of me wants to eat with family. No restrictions, but I also don’t want to let myself down by caving earlier than I told myself.

Any thoughts or support is welcomed. Thanks

(TJ Borden) #2

It doesn’t seem like a time to add the stress. I’d eat with your family and celebrate her life, then get back on the horse when you get home.

(Chris W) #3

My first day in keto was Nov 1 17. This last weekend I had my first unplanned departure from keto, A co worker in good faith gave me some sugar free breath mints(which I over indulged in and contained mailto) and that knocked me out 2 days before a planned trip to north Dakota to look at college for my daughter. I knew something was off, and sure enough bloto on my meter and sticks. So I was back in when we left 2 days later, I had planned to try and stay in or even fast on the trip over about 10 hours. I had Five Guys for lunch on the first day, no buns, was still in at the hotel. Next day we toured the college and had the lunch buffet, which kept it keto they even had brisket. That night I had to eat because my daughter is still a sugar addict so I decided to live a little and try and find a good steak. I found Norwegian sauce coated ribs instead no one could tell me for certain what was in the sauce and I was almost certainly over on protein for the day that point so I figured what the hell. Yep they had lots of sugar in them, but they were really good. So I was out again the next time I checked in the am, by her lunch the next day I was in again. I really wanted that steak so the next night I had that ribeye and I told the chef find me the fattiest one you can. It was blue cheese coated, I ordered butter with it and I was in heaven. And the next morning I was out again. By 10 that next morning I was reading again, we walked the mall of america for 6 hours, then went out and ate at mongolian BBQ which was solid protein, I did not even care thing about macros at that point. I was reading 0 when I got back to the hotel, and when I woke up I was reading again. I was not hungry until we got home that night I ate lightly. The next day at noon I started a 80 hour fast (my longest) I felt good at the end and really had no major movement on the scale when I was done fasting on Friday. My goal was also 6 months, tonight my 5 month anniversary I am at 50# of loss, I feel great, I look better, and I am happy. Ask your self what would grandma want you to do, if you were strict enough I don’t think you will be in a world of hurt and the results will not be prolific, just pay the pence afterwards. KCKO

#4

I cannot weigh in on what I think you should do Marisa. Myself, I would eat whatever fit within my WOE but my family is probably more accustomed to me being different and wouldn’t be offended. Plus they almost never see me.
If your family might take offense or it might be stressful on you personally then I’d have to agree with TJ. This isn’t a time for added stress.

However, I am sorry to hear about your grandma. It reminds me that I’ve been a sorry excuse for a grandson lately and am calling mine tomorrow (only have one grandparent left).
Safe travels and I hope you find peace with her passing and get some good memories with family.

(Troy) #5

So sorry
For me, one of the first things to do is to have the comfort in food. That can be KETO or SAD foods

Although to have the time to mourn and just be with Family and friends is precious and Eternal!
To support and To be there

Food that day is a choice
Love will be an action

I’m not going to tell you what to eat😁

Just being there, that’s what matters!

I will be praying this evening for you
Hours away from Easter
God Bless

(Marisa) #6

Thanks all. I appreciate the feedback. I think it will be a game time decision. I’m only home for 3 days so If I do fall of the keto wagon it will be for a short amount of time.

(Chris W) #7

I assume you are fat adapted as you are only few days behind me, It was not really a big deal. I fell off the wagon at thanksgiving and christmas they were both planned. I was not fat adapted at that point and I felt rotten. This time however it was not a real big deal. I could tell but I was not sick nor had that sugar low/hangry feeling. I wish you the best of luck, and I am sorry for you loss.

(Allie) #8

I’m so sorry about your grandma :heart:
You have to judge by what feels right for you, although keep in mind that carbs often affect your mood too which may not be the best thing for you right now. But in truth, whatever happens happens, don’t beat yourself up, get through this difficult time in whichever way is best for you and if you slip, just get back on track after xx