Cancer, coma, death -- maddening to stand idly by

(Joy) #1

Please allow me a rant for the sake of venting. Thanks.

LINDA, my sister-in-law, died about four weeks ago. She was T2, had pcos, had survived cervical cancer, did not care to move around physically, didn’t spend any time outdoors, ate prepared and drive-thru food. Shortness of breath put her in the hospital on a Friday night and she was scheduled for heart surgery on Sunday. She never regained consciousness after surgery. She was only 59. Over about 30 years time, she had drained probably hundreds of thousands of $ from her employers’ insurance pool, her family’s pocketbook and our government (she qualified as being disabled a couple years ago).

PAM, our tenant, is in her late 50s. Her husband found her on the bathroom floor in the middle of the night four days ago with no idea how long she had been unconscious. She’s one of those who chose to pretend she wasn’t diabetic. After a couple days in a coma, she’s back amongst the living, being told she’ll need to use insulin four times a day and will be seeing a dietician.

NANCY, my best friend, is 63. She’s survived brain cancer twice (still has her genius mind). She’s on metformin. I’d say her favorite food group is fruit. Like the women above, she’s overweight, inactive, and prefers the great indoors.

Doesn’t matter if they’re family, friend or acquaintance. Doesn’t matter that I’m a fairly good communicator, I can see no way to open a person’s mind to the LCHF paradigm once they’re of a certain surrendered attitude. I can only mention my experience with weight loss, bring up the blood sugar benefits of keto, and keep books/links/recipes at the ready. It’s maddening.

I know many here share that madness. Hugs to you.

#2

:cry:

(matt ) #3

All we can do is keeping sharing. Sorry for your loss.

(Brian) #4

“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”

Before the student is ready to learn, no amount of teaching, lecturing or preaching will amount to anything. Unfortunately, some people never get to the point where they’re willing to be the student. Some die clinging to the very things that kill them. It is sad, very sad.

Be thankful for any who will wake up to the idea that there may be a better way. They’re out there. And it may take only an example that you’ve laid before them without ever having said a word. People watch. People notice things.

Sorry for the losses. They’re not easy. And we tend to wonder if there wasn’t something more we could have done.

(ANNE ) #5

The epidemics of disease have been forgotten to a couple of generations.
Polio, TB, cholera, diphtheria and even the flu killed millions and did so rapidly.
But the diseases had to kill millions before progress was made.
I fear the same pattern will evolve in tackling diabesity.
The problem with chronic disease is that it is financially ruinous. Not to mention the months and years of misery.

(Joe) #6

I love my keto books. But I’ve parted with them to hopefully do good for my lived ones. I do fear some people can’t understand the science and therefore can’t see this as we do. I tried explaining the science to someone and clearly couldn’t simplify enough when people don’t even know what insulin is let alone how it reacts on their body. So when its not a supported by mainstream and when the science is foreign it will be a tough task to enlighten someone.

(Joy) #7

Thank you for your thoughts, Madeleine, Matt, Bellyman, AnnieBobAnnie, JoeG.

“When the student is ready …” nice notion to cling to.

(Katie the Quiche Scoffing Stick Ninja ) #8

It takes 21 days to form a habit and these people are over 50 years old, couple that with a lifetime of misinformation and being set in their ways, there’s not much you can do for someone unless they want to help themselves. As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

You can be the best representation of the keto lifestyle by looking after yourself, and hopefully people will be inspired enough to make a change for themselves.

Good luck on your journey and I am sorry for your loss.

#9

Hi Joy, I’m so sorry for your loss and share your frustration with our families and friends. There’s also a saying that you can take a horse to water but you can’t make it drink…

In the last few weeks I’ve had quite a few people ask me why I’ve got so much energy and are amazed by my weight loss. I’m pleased to say that 4 of them are now starting/have started eating the keto way. So these horses have started to drink. Many more need to drink that water……

Keep strong and live by your own example; you are the best advert ever!
Ali