Advice on non acceptance

#1

Hi I’m new to keto, 7 weeks. I have a question about how everyone handles the non acceptance of this lifestyle. It’s hard to handle sometimes when it comes from loved ones and friends. They are so used to me eating like they do, they try to make me feel guilty about my new lifestyle. The " I can’t wait till your done with that diet" or the " you’ve lost enough " or the famous, " one wont kill you" oh my gosh, how do you guys handle this stuff, without becoming angry?. I have one person in my life that understands, and shes keto also. Any advice?

(Empress of the Unexpected) #2

I’ve only had one person ask me about it - and I laid out everything that I was eating, and they finally had to agree it sounded extremely healthy. You could point out that everyone eats meat and veggies, and that nuts (if you eat nuts) are a source of many nutrients. Emphasize that you are not eating empty calories. After all that, just ignore it. On the rare occasions when I go out to eat, I simply have a steak and veggies. I think the (at least low carb) WOE is gaining more acceptance. Most of the burger places around here will be happy to give you a lettuce wrap instead of a bun. Have you discussed your diet in detail with your friends and family?

(Alex Dyke) #3

I’ve had various responses to adopting keto, some are just pathological about not eating fat, must eat fruit or that I will put the weight back on

What I realised and motivated me was coming to the conclusion that I don’t need their acceptance. I don’t agree with them on all other things (politics, religion, world affairs etc) so I just agree to differ on the basis that I feel this right. No one can tell how you feel!

Plus remember you can’t fix stupid! :wink: lol

#4

Yes, I have tried to explain, but sometimes I dont know if its concern or jealousy. Its obvious its working for me,I’ve lost 18 lbs. and I feel better. It really gets to me sometimes.

#5

Lol. Thanks alex.

(Jennifer) #6

I’ve struggled with this as well. It makes me sad and angry sometimes. Because it’s really not their fault that they think we’re doing something “crazy”. They are just going off what we have all been told all along. All we can do is give them the information and hope they will have the same light bulb moment we had. In the meantime, KCKO and hang out with us keto freaks on the forum. :slight_smile:

#7

Thanks Jennifer, I will. :blush:

(bulkbiker) #8

I’m afraid I am usually very rude… and to people who say things like that to me as well…!

(Running from stupidity) #9

“I’ve lost 14kg in two months! Shut up, bitches!” [1]

[1]My approach may not work for everyone, user is advised to consider situation before deploying this exact method

#10

Lol Mic😀

#11

I see resistance from many sides. Friends and family may be seeing
progress and are feeling guilty or jealous. You are right to say it is
their problem. Differences we have with others generates many
different responses. The key is not to take on others monkies (those
things that hang on their back that they do not want to deal with, so
the easiest is to give it to someone else.) A suggestion is to be kind,
not argumentative and when it gets rather heated, just walk away and
let them know you can/will discuss when cooler heads prevail -
including your own. You have support in this forum, and you have
nothing to prove to anyone, but yourself. Follow your goals and your
dreams and please don’t take on their issues.KCKO

(Empress of the Unexpected) #12

After my haircut, my overweight hairdresser offered me a bowl of candy. I said “that’s not the way to lose weight” then proceeded to tell her how much I had lost and how. In an extremely patronizing way she explained that diet was of no importance and that I should forget all that and exercise. Sheesh.

(Diana ) #13

You gotta admit, though, that to someone who has been brainwashed into believing that……

  1. Fat makes you fat
  2. Eat veggies, fruit and high fiber to lose weight
  3. Butter is bad, margarine is good
  4. A little sugar won’t hurt anyone
  5. Reduce your weight by reducing your caloric intake

……this way of eating you have chosen looks wrong and dangerous. And, if they are honest, they don’t think it is fair that you lose weight while eating bacon, when they can’t lose weight while eating salads and drinking diet Coke.
Be gentle with them. They just haven’t seen the light. Tell them this WOE is helping you feel better, and if it stops doing that, you will quit, but not till then.

#14

Thank you guys for the support, I appreciate it, and Regina, I’d find a new hairdresser. That was rude, and she doesn’t deserve your business.

#15

I just tell people that my doctor is on board and I feel better, mentally and physically, than I have in years.

(Empress of the Unexpected) #16

Lol. I was actually the passive aggressive rude person. I got the last word in, though, I’ve been doing resistance and I flexed my bicep for her. :rofl::rofl::rofl: She’s a little weird in general, but is a great stylist, at a great price. Until I find someone better, cheaper, closer…

#17

My family doesn’t really care what I eat. It’s my co-workers that are all up in my business worried about me skipping a meal, not consuming bread and eating too much fatty food to be on a ‘diet’. I kinda get peeved about it. I know it shouldn’t matter to me but I wish they would just mind their business.

#18

Thanks Diana, I will.

(Bev Anne Moynham) #19

If anyone comments on what I eat – I just play the diabetes card – that shuts them up.

(no more insulin or other meds for me)

(Troy) #20

This^^
That’s what matters😄
“ You do you, ill do me “ period :rofl:

Understandable
W that said, remember you have the proof in ur results . No need to explain it to others ( YMMV I guess )

for me, I chose to use this built up KETO energy and mental clarity for other positive encounters or experiences
Like planning a Keto shopping hall or trip :joy:

Good Luck