What Were You Fed As An Infant?

(Rebecca ) #61

Oh my gosh! I remember doing this! (Along with the toasted, sliced bread, margarine and cinnamon/sugar) mentioned above. What a way to start the day!:nauseated_f

(Allie) #62

Sounds like my life with mother… and she cannot understand why I won’t allow her to be a part of my life today (and haven’t since 2000) :unamused:

(You've tried everything else; why not try bacon?) #63

One thing the gay community has had to learn is the importance of chosen family over blood family. But I think it’s a valuable lesson for anyone, actually.

It’s unfortunate, but there aren’t all that many good, healthy families out there, alas!

(Rebecca ) #64

Yes, my birth family is pretty much splintered…and that’s ok with me. I have a wonderful husband of 37 years, an adult son/daughter-in-law and daughter/son-in-law and 9 grandchildren. THEY are my Family! They bring out the best in me!!

(Stickin' with mammoth) #65

Preach, sistah. I’m almost certain the worst part of abuse is when the recipient is denied validation. Doesn’t matter if the perpetrator is unwilling or simply unable, it’s still like a doctor refusing to stitch a gaping wound.

I’m taking resumes but it takes so long to run background checks.

(Jane) #66

When I was in high school I talked my mom into breaking contact with her mother. Her mom was always begging for money for some “last minute crisis” and I told mom she had no idea if the crisis was real or if the money went to her sister or sister’s kids. She just blinked at me and then looked a bit horrified and a bit angry at the thought. I told her they were going after the path of least resistance and would figure out another way out of their crisis besides picking your wallet.

I was right and my mom was so grateful after time passed and nothing terrible happened. She spent the last 5 years of her mom’s life without being bothered for money anymore. After another 2 or 3 attempts they gave up and mom was much happier.

(Stickin' with mammoth) #67

I recently heard an expert refer to stuff like this as colluding in your own abuse and I liked the phrasing. It implies responsibility without assigning blame and makes the solution–stepping away from the toxic dynamic–seem much easier. I like knowing I don’t have to fix anything, I can just excuse myself from the unpleasant party and go home.

#68

Those were also staples in my home growing up. It is no wonder why my liver ended up as bad as it was.

(Rebecca ) #69

My Parents were kids themselves(16 & 17) when I was born in 1961. My Grandmother was furious that I survived (she took her for an abortion, which failed to work) and then My Mother insisted on keeping me. So Granny offered no help or guidance, nutritional or otherwise…at least for a couple of years.
I am grateful to my Mom for giving me life.

(Laura) #70

I was fed formula. The problem being that I had a milk allergy and was prone to projectile vomiting. My poor mother got showered quite often. It did not occur to them that my issue was the milk, so they did not switch to something better.

Growing up, we had a garden, so ate fresh veggies and as kids, we would snack right from the garden. Mom cooked all the time. I remember eating out about once a year. Farm fresh eggs and milk and locally grown meat. We really had good and healthy food.

My issue is that I ate too much because it tasted so good and we had a lot of homemade sweets and bread to eat. I was thin until I went to school and had to sit all day, but still ate too much food. Carbs were my weakness and anything sugary.

I still like to eat, so I don’t detect that I have had enough. I have to limit my portion size and then have more if I am still hungry and I usually am not.

(Stickin' with mammoth) #71

And some people think sunsets are boring and diamonds are ugly. These people are idiots.

Shine, girl.

(Allie) #72

My son was breastfed for the first year of his life. When he was first born the midwife tried to force me to feed him formula, in fact she held him and insisted he needed formula even though he was crying and refusing it. The satisfied grin on her face that followed her completed force-feeding was short lived when it came back up all over her… she didn’t even try again.

(Rebecca ) #73

I can’t, for the life of me, understand why a midwife would push formula for a baby!?

(You've tried everything else; why not try bacon?) #74

Or why anyone but a formula manufacturer could possibly believe formula could possibly be better than breast milk.

(Rebecca ) #75

Exactly!!

(Jane) #76

When I had my first son in 1984 I was breastfeeding him in the hospital and they kept bringing me bottles of glucose to feed him!

I refused and just kept breastfeeding.

(Rebecca ) #77

:rage: I just don’t get it!!

(Allie) #78

I never knew that either. There were no issues with me feeding him so it made no sense.

(Allie) #79

Why on earth??

(Jane) #80

I have no idea. I don’t remember if I even asked why they brought them because I didn’t care why - wasn’t going into my baby’s mouth!

I could understand plain water since I was just learning to breastfeed and there may have been concerns about my baby staying hydrated since there was no way to know how much colostrum he was getting, but glucose - I was horrified even back in 1984.