Question for keto singles

(Dan McNeill) #62

I’m with you @Chipmunk. I live keto and don’t drink at all. It is very hard for me to get comfortable on a date, or even getting to that point, they ALWAYS involve food. If I’m in a restaurant, it’s not that bad. I can order a meat and double veg, but pretty much anywhere else, you’re out of luck. Good luck finding something low carb at a sporting event for example. If I choose not to eat anything, I suspect people think that something is wrong with me. It tends to cut off any possibility of advancement. No amount of discussion around insulin sensitivity will help either. We have made lifestyle choices that are not compatible with the social “norms”, and that’s perfectly ok. It would be nice if there were a dating app for ketonians…:thinking:

Best of luck to you and all the single ketonians out there!

(Running from stupidity) #63

Yeah, that’s kinda hard to believe, isn’t it?

:wink:

(Laurie) #64

You have some say in this. If it’s your first date and you’re already doing something you don’t want to do, that’s not good. Why not be up front about your lifestyle?

Wherever you live, there must be something to do that’s not food oriented:

beach, hill, old town
cycling, skating, bowling, rock climbing
a tourist attraction that neither of you have been to even though you’re locals
museum, gallery, planetarium
mini golf, paintball
dance (or other) lesson
a trekkie convention?

Plan the date for mid-afternoon, e.g., 2-4 pm, or after dinner. You can have coffee before, during, or after. If the museum, lesson, or whatever costs money, you can pay–then (s)he can’t accuse you of being too cheap to buy a meal. Good luck!

(Heather Meyer) #65

Im insulted lol…
My husband and I are a plenty of fish website match! Been together for 10 years so far… it was great! Yah i agree… most of the fish you gotta throw em back into the sea… but there are a few worth keeping!

(Alex ) #66

Occasional fish, but mostly eels, sharks and dumped plastic I think is more accurate.

Glad you found an actual fish though, not saying it doesn’t work for some, sadly not for me.

My last and only POF date had been chatting to me for a few weeks and knew my situation, we had a great click I thought, then I drove up 80 odd miles to meet her and she THEN decided to do a full on character assassination of me because I was renting (didn’t own a house). Why not get that shit out of your system before committing to meet? She was a total bell end.

I think dating apps amplify all dickish personality traits.

(Heather Meyer) #67

Yikes! So sorry you had to deal with such garbage! I admit… when on that site… i did meet and date a lot of guys that were also less than wonderful. Its amazing how much a person can hide behind a computer.

My most memorable date- we had been talking online for several months and then he decided to ask me out in person. We had a glorious time going to an aquarium and out walking along the docks and then settled into a great Lobster dinner in which the topic of future goals came up. It was then that he decided to tell me that he was living with an incurable brain tumour and was terminal. He didnt know how long he had left to live… Yah… that was our only date. He was the nicest, kindest guy ever but its not exactly what you want to learn about someone after spending several months chatting online.

The worst date was a guy who met me for coffee in a coffee shop and proceeded to ask me within the first five minutes of meeting

 " are you sexually attracted to me enough 
   that you would kiss me now and have 
   sexual relations with me later?"

And end date now…

So yes… i agree…many different people out there and some are indeed rather cruel. Always got to be vigilent. The worst one was a friend who was head over heels for an army guy… until i figured out “he” was actually a Rewandan man impersonating and stealing an identity of a man in Ohio and using profile pictures and luring women into giving him money!

All in all i would say… dont give up BUT guard your heart!

(Alex ) #68

Yeah, online dating… It’s constantly raising the bar, the stories I hear and the people I meet seem to keep pushing new levels of unacceptable humanity and wierd behaviour.

(Running from stupidity) #69

So it’s like a lot of online behaviour, then?

(Alex ) #70

Yes, definitely!

(Keto Travels) #71

Dumped plastic … giggles! I’m going to quote that one! :rofl: Not a lot of fish, it’s true, but I have met a few really interesting ones, even if they didn’t fit in the end, it was great getting to know them … and had some of the best steak of my life!

#72

Do you eat steak and veggies? Bam that’s the option. Or fish. Just no mashed potato’s or chips…

If you don’t eat that then, hmm, I dunno

Alcohol - no bear. Wine is less worse. .

(Running from stupidity) #73

Are you suggesting that some people have alcoholic bears that they take on dates? That would be interesting, for sure.

#74

Ha ha oops. Speeling erorr agin

(Alex ) #75

“Keto Singles” I think I may need to patent this!

(Joanna Parszyk ) #76

Donut has been over a month since l’m single. Last night out of curiosity and pushes from some friends used an app and saw what is out there…
I crawled back, under a blanket and started sipping a bulletproof almond milk…
Wow ppl are crazy!!!

(Alex ) #77

I find the best way to manage my expectations is to assess on this basis…

animal / vegetable / mineral - then go from there…

#78

Back on this train myself as of a couple of weeks ago and not looking forward to “looking.”
Not only dealing with the food situation but just… people are freakin’ crazy these days and it can be hard to discern a nutjob until you’ve been around them a while.

Good luck @Chipmunk

#79

I’ve been wondering how you were doing :slightly_smiling_face: Hope the New Year is kinder to you.

(Joanna Parszyk ) #80

Thank you darling. I guess l’ll keep to myself for a while and once l lick my wounds and gather my courage l’ll check again what’s there. Or not. Not everyone has to have a relationship…

#81

Getting to know strangers can be hit & miss but getting to know yourself always has great, long term payoffs :slightly_smiling_face::hugs: