Question for keto singles

(Alex ) #21

I love Fawlty Towers, but I think my age puts me a bit more squarely into the Young Ones/Ben Elton/C4 Comic Strip era…

(Alex ) #22

Anyone else got any good single/dating anecdotes??? I have LOADS!

(Thurston ) #23

Pshaw, What’s that line? It is better to have loved and lost yada yada yada

(Alex ) #24

never let a kiss fool you, or a fool kiss you…

(Hyperbole- best thing in the universe!) #25

My English students got a bug up their collective butt and started asking me a bunch of questions one day. After ascertaining that I am 43, no kids, not married, and I don’t own a house, most of the students looked on at me dumbfounded while one dear child exclaimed, “You aren’t a foreigner after all, you are an alien.” They’re 8 and already know what is expected.

It works well in Chinese because “foreigner” = outside country person and “alien” = outside star (or planet) person. Style points for wordplay!

This is not the first time I’ve been called an alien. :alien:

(Alex ) #26

Yeah but a cool alien though! :slight_smile:

(Hyperbole- best thing in the universe!) #27

It’s one of my best traits!

(Alex ) #28

Interesting ironic mentality coming from China; probably the only place on Earth, that really isn’t anything like anywhere else in the World!

(Hyperbole- best thing in the universe!) #29

It may be more extreme, but I bet my Father would be relieved if I did buy a house, get married and have kids.

(Alex ) #30

ditto, my father is exactly the same… get a mortgage, settle down, stay in same job for 40 years, get pension, never take risks,… yada yada

Generationalised advice from someone born in the 1930s!

(Alex ) #31

to be fair, they don’t interfere with my relationship life, but everything else they do!

#32

Joanna, it’s not who we’re with that makes us strong, it’s who we are when we’re alone that defines us.

Sorry, that’s not meant to to be a magic elixir to heal-all, but rather a thought to keep in the back of your mind when it gets tough. What your feeling right now is a normal part of being human. We’re social creatures (whether we like to be or not), that’s why you’re here sharing with us, and that’s why we care enough to want to help.

To explain my response to your question, my default setting is to want to make people laugh, you know laughter is the best medicine and all, but it was in no way to make light of your emotions.

(Joanna Parszyk ) #33

I guess whatever doesn’t kill u makes u stronger…
I’m working on the first.
Keto helped with my usual depression but this is a bit overwhelming ( my relationship was also my first home in my life, actual family and first happiness ever). I’m 34 yo with isabilitating chronic pain (after 9 back surgeries they say if morphine works l should simply stick to it it if makes me functional), no family, no work and hope just simply died…

(Carl Keller) #34

It’s ok to feel this way. It just means you are a very passionate, caring person who gives 100% to a relationship and some lucky man out there will realize this and cherish it, if and when you allow him. Hope is a phoenix.

(Casey Crisler) #35

“Joanna, whatever you do, don’t put your love life in the hands of Tinder, Bumble or Plenty of Fish! Just say no!!“

Why? I met my (now late) wife on POF in 2012. She was the most wonderful person I have ever known. If not for the gd cancer we would have been together for a lifetime.

(Alex ) #36

Well done to you for making it work @Clcrisler .

Sadly my experiences I would say are mostly negative, most of my single friends agree, they’ve tried it, ditched it.

Finding a nice person (let alone love) It’s a needle in a haystack scenario however you do it, luck plays a big part, I think apps just exacerbate this and make it even harder.

Mind you, I have been told that the PAID version of some of these apps help you avoid the negativity!

Not saying don’t try it, just saying don’t depend on it :wink:

(the cheater) #37

@Alex_PN I completely agree with your views on being single… HOWEVER, I thought it was pretty silly that your dates ended because of little food accidents lol! IF that were me on a date, that would be included in the memory of the date but I’m sure we’d just laugh it off and get on with things :slight_smile:

Anyway, my (soon to be) ex-wife cites my keto as part of the reason we broke up. I mean, it’s not like she ever cooked or contributed in any way to the relationship, but yeah, I guess it was my keto that was the problem :wink:

If/when I start dating again, I’m just going to come out with it. No sense in “hiding” or “waiting until the right time” to bring it up. Of course, there’s also no need to obsess and become as annoying as vegans or people that do crossfit or have never seen Game of Thrones, but still :slight_smile: And really, I cheat frequently enough that we can still go wherever, order pizza, go to a bar, fair, etc. once or twice a week. No biggie. Besides, if she is into me, it’s probably because of my personality and that’s due in large part to my status of health which can be attributed to keto!

(Alex ) #38

@decreebass

Sorry to hear that mate!

I’m not really a happy go lucky person sadly, in years gone by I’ve not had the best run with relationships, I tend to be either fully out, or fully in. Full speed or hermit!

One thing I do know is that the harder I try to find someone in my 30s and 40s, the harder it becomes, and the more invested I get in someone emotionally through the dating process, the worst the outcomes seem to be!

I have such a thick skin now with it, and I’m so cynical, I often wonder whether the ship has truly sailed and I should go and buy 30 cats!

(Alex ) #39

I would not give up my health based lifestyle for a partner though - fuck that! If someone can’t accept you for who you are, and let’s you be the way you want to be, to be happy, they are a dick!

(Alex ) #40

@dlc96_darren

laughter is this best medicine, unless you’re an asthmatic, in which case it’s Ventolin :slight_smile: