Keto for a broken heart?

#21

Sorry to hear that. It’s very easy to fall into old habits and turn to “comfort” foods. The thing is though that they don’t offer the comfort you need. Is there anything or anyone you can turn to for some self care? Some kind of pampering or activity that will make you feel good? If food does help then how about some keto treat foods? Try and spend time with people you love and get some much-needed hugs. I’m lucky to have great dogs who are all great cuddlers when I’m down. Try and keep your chin up and muddle on through this tough time. Sending much love and hugs your way. xxx

(Joanna Parszyk ) #22

Lenore, l really understand your post. Thank you from the bottom of my poor heart for sharing. Does Keto offer you any comfort? Did you get to a point when it gave you some improvements in quality of your life enough to make some improvements in your relationship with yourself/food/other people?
My mantra for the last few days is keep calm and Keto on…

(Joanna Parszyk ) #23

Dear Ketopians!
I’m beyond grateful for all your funny, kind and wise replies. I’d never expect that and this brings me some comfort of you can imagine.
Usually in moments of a high stress and despair l’m turn into binge eating of everything that is bad for you to extra punish myself and bring myself even more down. That might even bring old “friend” bulimia…But this time Keto gives me this extra strength to take one breath after another and stay away from those “treats”, the dark thoughts used to be much darker…

#24

Thank you for your support. The truth is, I just ate a cup of ice cream after i brushed my teeth and called it a day, after a day of binge eating again, the list was very long. I never was in longer than 1-2 day ketosis, so don’t have that much experience with this diet/lifestyle but I sense it would improve my moods and general health, if not anything the normal/thin body would raise my confidence at least. In those times I did eat keto, for w few weeks, or I tried low carb I felt my senses like hearing, smell, sight a a little bit better, my thinking was clearer and especially my willpower was affected positively, I could just tell myself and get things done. Now I’m sluggish, lazy, procrastinating shadow of that person. It may be because I had the motivation and willingness to live (like a person in love), but I believe in longer term, what I had in my gut and the quality of the food did change how I perceived things, had positive outlook, etc.And i didn’t have the cravings and hunger I have now. Keto didn’t offer me comfort, i enjoyed what I ate but I take pleasure what I eat now (sugary and processed). I just can’t get myself to start and carry on that mantra.

(Running from stupidity) #25

:metal::metal::metal::metal::metal:

(Chris) #26

Look, I probably should have said voids.

But I didn’t.

(Running from stupidity) #27

Thus the

:metal::metal::metal::metal::metal:

(Laurie) #28

I understand that! It’s hard to be strong. I’m quite dependent on relationships for happiness, but even if I can’t have a good one, there are other reasons to care for myself.

I want to go for walks and enjoy the beauty of the place where I live. I’d like to travel a bit, and be able to get around in airports, etc. Even little things like being able to wear decent clothes. Ever notice how the nice clothes are never in large sizes? I want to be able to dance again, and do other physical activities that have become difficult. My knees are wrecked, which is partly from being overweight. I had to have two surgeries a few years ago for another problem, which was also partly due to overweight. I don’t want to go through that again!

Others might want to look better in order to get a better job, or something else.

What do you want for yourself?

(Joanna Parszyk ) #29

Haha those little subtleties :rofl::rofl::rofl:

(I came for the weight loss and stayed for my sanity... ) #30

I absolutely can relate…
Went through a complicated breakup after 5 years last year.
Also lost my really great job just months before (the bosses and company were crappy though, and i didn’t realize how it was pulling me down)

I took this as a chance to reframe my whole life and to focus on myself.

A few tipps I learned on the way:

  • Count your blessings.
    Don’t see what you had as a “Waste of time” because it didn’t work out, but as beautiful, valueble lessons instead.
    Even if the relationship should have been aweful, you can still see it as a lesson of finding out what you don’t want more of.
  • learn to truly love yourself. (easier said than done, I know)
    Be happy with who you are, if there are things you want to change go ahead and do it.
    If you are happy with who you are, you will attract positive people that do too, no matter if as a future partner or just amazing friends.
  • Focus on other relationships that cheer you up
    Go see your bestie you haven’t spoken with for months because you were too occupied with your partner.
  • Self care
    All the things you wanted to try, all the things that make you feel relaxed, pretty, invincible, empowered, whatever that is… you are worth it, so go ahead and do them.

And last but not least
Be patient and compassionate with yourself. It is okay to have backlashes and to slip of the rails. We are all human. Feel the feelings you need to feel…

If all else fails, Here is the best easy keto icecream recipe(also works in popsicle molds:
https://blog.bulletproof.com/get-some-ice-cream/

:kissing_heart: all my best wishes and strengh to you!